Some say “When you know, you know,” yet you may seek additional proof that this is genuine. So, how can you know whether you’re in a relationship that’s entirely worth preserving? Here are nine signs that you’ve discovered the ideal partnership.
You feel totally at ease
You want to put your best foot forward at the start of any relationship. So you clean your flat, you take great care to ensure that every morsel of food ends up in your mouth (rather than on your lap), and you always strive to appear really polished — hair, makeup, gorgeous new dress, you know the drill. But when you finally feel comfortable being 100% you around your partner (the you that only a few others have seen, like mom, your college flatmate, and the mirror), you realise this may be it. Going to bed without makeup or not being humiliated that you inadvertently spilt a drink of red all over his/her brown couch… are some subtle indicators that he/she is interested.
You completely trust your partner
We’ve all been in relationships when we have no idea how our spouse is feeling, thinking, or acting. And not knowing leads to spying – reading your significant other’s texts, emails, Facebook messages, and so on. That may not seem like a red flag, but having to keep things on the DL is never a good thing in any relationship. If you don’t feel the need to search through his/her belongings, it signifies you and your relationship have developed a level of trust that demonstrates how much your partner cares. You may be confident that he or she would never harm you, and vice versa. That profound knowledge will help you persevere through the good times.
You can have fun together no matter what
You and your spouse are having a great time, whether you’re stranded at the airport with a six-hour delay or learning to surf in Costa Rica. That is enormous. It’s easy to appreciate huge gestures and once-in-a-lifetime occurrences, but what happens in between? It’s just as significant. If you can’t make each other laugh or find something to chat about no matter what’s going on around you, your relationship’s foundation is shaky. The capacity to make the most of the commonplace is what creates the strongest ties.
You’re different people, and that’s okay
While you certainly want to have some interests with your spouse, such as musical tastes or love of unusual foods, you don’t want to be too similar. Two alpha dogs don’t make a good couple, but neither do two extremely indecisive people. So, when you realise that your commonalities are what bring you together, but your differences are what make you strong, you’ll realise you’re at a really good place with your SO. Just make sure your fundamental life values (such as your views on money, the importance of religion, or your desire to have children) are in sync.
You’re able to keep the past in the past
Sure, you want to know everything about her ex or how many women he slept with before meeting you. That is very natural. But after you’ve mastered the fundamentals, it’s time to move on. Because, while remembering the past can be entertaining and educational, it should not govern your present. The ability to live in the now is essential for a happy partnership. Don’t bring up previous battles. Contrast yourself with ex-girlfriends or ex-boyfriends. Connect in the present moment so you may truly experience everything your spouse has to offer. The ability to appreciate and then let go of the past is the foundation of the finest relationships.
Your friends and family are fans
It’s a good omen if your mother approves. What if your sister is a fan? That’s even better. But if your best buddy, who knows all there is to know about you, adores your lover… it’s pretty much a done deal. So listen to what your loved ones have to say regarding your connection! You don’t need their approval, but if everyone else agrees that you form a terrific team and are madly in love, it may simply signify that you’re made for each other.
You don’t feel the need to play mind games anymore
The pursuit was exciting when you first started dating. It was exciting to attempt to figure out who the other person was and what they were thinking. However, after you’ve determined that there are genuine, honest sentiments there, you realise that you don’t require that level of excitement in your life any longer. You’re at ease knowing you’ve discovered someone with whom you actually connect on a deeper level. Furthermore, once you’re in the correct connection, you may go to various types of games.
You know what your partner needs to feel loved
When your lover rubs your feet while you’re watching TV, you may feel appreciated. However, bringing your lover a cup of coffee in the morning may make him or her feel cherished; everyone has different tastes when it comes to offering and receiving love. You know you’re with the perfect person when they can tell you what makes them feel loved and are eager to learn what works for you. That communication and understanding of each other’s various needs lay the groundwork for a strong partnership.
You comfortably imagine what’s next
Do you and your partner discuss the future as if it were unimportant? That is a strong indication that you are in an appropriate long-term relationship. You two understand how fortunate you are to have discovered someone who loves you and shares your ideals and outlook on life. You don’t need a ring on your finger to know how much your SO loves you, and that doesn’t terrify you. When you don’t want to be apart from your lover and can’t wait to spend more time with them, you’ll know.
