Some say “When you know, you know,” yet you may seek additional proof that this is genuine. So, how can you know whether you’re in a relationship that’s entirely worth preserving? Here are nine signs that you’ve discovered the ideal partnership.
You feel totally at ease
You want to put your best foot forward at the start of any relationship. So you clean your flat, you take great care to ensure that every morsel of food ends up in your mouth (rather than on your lap), and you always strive to appear really polished — hair, makeup, gorgeous new dress, you know the drill. But when you finally feel comfortable being 100% you around your partner (the you that only a few others have seen, like mom, your college flatmate, and the mirror), you realise this may be it. Going to bed without makeup or not being humiliated that you inadvertently spilt a drink of red all over his/her brown couch… are some subtle indicators that he/she is interested.
You completely trust your partner
We’ve all been in relationships when we have no idea how our spouse is feeling, thinking, or acting. And not knowing leads to spying – reading your significant other’s texts, emails, Facebook messages, and so on. That may not seem like a red flag, but having to keep things on the DL is never a good thing in any relationship. If you don’t feel the need to search through his/her belongings, it signifies you and your relationship have developed a level of trust that demonstrates how much your partner cares. You may be confident that he or she would never harm you, and vice versa. That profound knowledge will help you persevere through the good times.
You can have fun together no matter what
You and your spouse are having a great time, whether you’re stranded at the airport with a six-hour delay or learning to surf in Costa Rica. That is enormous. It’s easy to appreciate huge gestures and once-in-a-lifetime occurrences, but what happens in between? It’s just as significant. If you can’t make each other laugh or find something to chat about no matter what’s going on around you, your relationship’s foundation is shaky. The capacity to make the most of the commonplace is what creates the strongest ties.
You’re different people, and that’s okay
While you certainly want to have some interests with your spouse, such as musical tastes or love of unusual foods, you don’t want to be too similar. Two alpha dogs don’t make a good couple, but neither do two extremely indecisive people. So, when you realise that your commonalities are what bring you together, but your differences are what make you strong, you’ll realise you’re at a really good place with your SO. Just make sure your fundamental life values (such as your views on money, the importance of religion, or your desire to have children) are in sync.
You’re able to keep the past in the past
Sure, you want to know everything about her ex or how many women he slept with before meeting you. That is very natural. But after you’ve mastered the fundamentals, it’s time to move on. Because, while remembering the past can be entertaining and educational, it should not govern your present. The ability to live in the now is essential for a happy partnership. Don’t bring up previous battles. Contrast yourself with ex-girlfriends or ex-boyfriends. Connect in the present moment so you may truly experience everything your spouse has to offer. The ability to appreciate and then let go of the past is the foundation of the finest relationships.
Your friends and family are fans
It’s a good omen if your mother approves. What if your sister is a fan? That’s even better. But if your best buddy, who knows all there is to know about you, adores your lover… it’s pretty much a done deal. So listen to what your loved ones have to say regarding your connection! You don’t need their approval, but if everyone else agrees that you form a terrific team and are madly in love, it may simply signify that you’re made for each other.
You don’t feel the need to play mind games anymore
The pursuit was exciting when you first started dating. It was exciting to attempt to figure out who the other person was and what they were thinking. However, after you’ve determined that there are genuine, honest sentiments there, you realise that you don’t require that level of excitement in your life any longer. You’re at ease knowing you’ve discovered someone with whom you actually connect on a deeper level. Furthermore, once you’re in the correct connection, you may go to various types of games.
You know what your partner needs to feel loved
When your lover rubs your feet while you’re watching TV, you may feel appreciated. However, bringing your lover a cup of coffee in the morning may make him or her feel cherished; everyone has different tastes when it comes to offering and receiving love. You know you’re with the perfect person when they can tell you what makes them feel loved and are eager to learn what works for you. That communication and understanding of each other’s various needs lay the groundwork for a strong partnership.
You comfortably imagine what’s next
Do you and your partner discuss the future as if it were unimportant? That is a strong indication that you are in an appropriate long-term relationship. You two understand how fortunate you are to have discovered someone who loves you and shares your ideals and outlook on life. You don’t need a ring on your finger to know how much your SO loves you, and that doesn’t terrify you. When you don’t want to be apart from your lover and can’t wait to spend more time with them, you’ll know.
How my husband sex trafficked me for 13 years
I learned that life was unfair at an early age, and in the worst way conceivable. My stepfather used to sexually assault me, and when I eventually had the bravery to denounce him, he received only three months of treatment as punishment and was allowed to live with me again.
My mother brought him back for financial reasons, but she kept us apart. They slept below, while we slept above. Nevertheless, I was traumatised and lived in terror. As if I hadn’t gone through enough pain, I met a man who I believed loved me and who sex trafficked me.
When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party.
“It’s going to be fun.” She said.
“Sure. “I would love to.”
I didn’t have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone’s attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.
“Hello, Greg. I invite you to meet my buddy Wendy. “Wendy, this is Greg.” She spoke to the guy.
Greg turned to me, smiled, and extended his hand before saying, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.”
At that point, my knees were weak. My heart began beating, and I couldn’t stop smiling.
“Can I get your number?” He asked.
“Sure,” I responded and handed it to him.
I didn’t expect him to call, but later that night he did, and we spoke for hours. That was the start of a relationship that led to my being sex trafficked.
Greg understood how to make me feel appreciated, which is all I wanted. We became amorous quickly, and I fell pregnant soon after. I had been under my mother’s care since I was 17 years old when I had my child. Greg demanded that I leave my mother’s house so that we could make our relationship work.
“How am I going to do that?” I asked.
“I’ve got a plan. You may relocate to a shelter, where they will consider you emancipated from your parents, and then you will be eligible for welfare checks, and we will be able to get an apartment and live happily ever after.” He explained.
At the time, it seemed like a fairy tale, and I was all in. I ran away from home, and Greg took me and my kid to a shelter. However, life at the shelter was not as easy as Greg made it appear.
It took long for me to receive my first welfare check, and I was running out of baby goods. So I contacted Greg and told him I needed money to take care of our child.
“Don’t worry, I have a job for us to do.” He said.
I assumed he meant cleaning people’s homes because that’s what he told me he did for money. So I picked up my kid and went to see him.
“What are we going to do?” I asked Greg.
“Well, you’re going to walk up this street, wait on that corner for a man to pick you up and you’ll have sex with that man in his car and he’ll pay you.” He explained without emotion.
I was perplexed and apprehensive, but he kept bringing up my daughter and insisting that if I loved her, I would do it. I felt like I had no option. My knees and hands shook as I proceeded to where he had instructed me to stand. As soon as I arrived, a car stopped in front of me, and the driver requested me to get in. That’s how my spouse started sex trafficking me.
“I know a place we can go in the woods.” He said.
I did not say anything. When we arrived in the woods, we both exited and walked to a private location where he began removing his clothing. I took off mine, we had sex, and he gave me the money before driving me back to where he had picked me up.
When I came out, I went to Greg, who was still standing in the same location and handed him all of the money.
“I love you.” I knew I had made the proper decision in choosing you as my wife. He said.
We went to purchase diapers and formula for the baby and had a little extra. However, a week later, we were out of diapers again.
That time, he encouraged me to take on two or three customers so that I might earn enough money to leave the shelter.
“Do you want your daughter to live in a shelter for the rest of her life?” He asked.
From there, he started one of the greatest prostitution networks in the region. It comprised four to ten females from various states. He sexually trafficked me for 13 years while I was still married to him. It varied from once a week to every other day, depending on how much money he received from the other females. I worked as a street girl, and escort, and made house calls. Not to add that I have two more children with him.
People continually questioned me why I stayed with him for so long, but no matter what I told them, they couldn’t comprehend what I was going through. Greg hooked us to drugs and physically abused us if we attempted to escape. He would also send the other girls to find any girl who had gone and beat her until she returned. I felt bonded to the other females since we weren’t permitted to have outside contact. So, anytime I managed to flee, I felt horrible and returned because I didn’t want them to suffer.
After 13 years, I was finally free of Greg. I had recently given birth and was in the kitchen making supper for us when I noticed police cruisers outside our house. The cops swooped in, arrested Greg, and detained me for interrogation.
However, I refused to talk to them because I was afraid Greg would beat me if he found out. Because I did not comply, they accused me of sex trafficking and sentenced me to 23 months in prison. Greg was also charged with sex trafficking and was sentenced to ten years in jail.
My children were removed while I was in prison, and because the judge in the custody case felt I was a sex trafficker, she promised that I would not be granted custody of my children. When I got out, I returned to school and earned an associate’s degree. In addition, I returned to the same judge who heard my custody case to request custody of my kid. I went with my attorneys, counsellors, and even the police officers who detained me to explain my situation to the court.
She returned my child to me, and I returned home to live with my mother, who sadly died later. Today, I feel comfortable and satisfied, which is a wonderful place to be. I’ve realised that there are individuals eager to help those who have faced the same hardships that I have, and if you’re going through anything similar, you don’t have to suffer alone or in silence.
This narrative is based on the Unfiltered Stories YouTube video.
My parents don’t want me to marry her because she’s a mother of three
My girlfriend has three children. She’s still stunning for a woman with three children. I adore her. We’ve been together for a year. My folks adored her when I brought her home. They freely conveyed their love and acceptance to her, making her feel welcome.
After she left, my parents began to inquire about her, and I told them everything, including the fact that she has three children. “No, you will not marry her,” my mother yelled. “If you want to take care of children, your brother and sister are still in school,” my father added. We may leave them there for you to continue.” She calls my folks, who are quite polite to her.
She comes to our house and my parents treat her like royalty, but after she leaves, they gather around me and say, “Don’t get it twisted. We will not let you marry a problem.” My opinion of her has not altered, but I believe my parents are not being fair to her. Aside from that, they’re making it impossible for me to let go of her.
What justification do I offer her for not wanting her? What should I say to persuade her that it’s not me but my parents?
She even gives my parents gifts, which they embrace enthusiastically and praise her for, but once she’s out of the picture, they laugh at me and urge me to forget it.
I’m at a loss for words in this circumstance. My girlfriend wants us to start planning our wedding. She is aware that everything is in place. When I tell her to give me some time, she blames me. What should I do to have this problem resolved?
Reconsider settling down with her if she shows these 4 red flags
Women aren’t perfect. Some of these are also red signs, and settling with someone who possesses these characteristics can be damaging to your happiness and mental health.
If you want to settle down with a lady who possesses these characteristics, you should think again.
When she is furious, instead of expressing herself, she tosses items at you and even slaps you.
You are fully aware that if you were the one doing this, you would be in big trouble, but she does it to you and expects you to accept it. Don’t put up with it and leave before you become a victim.
If she is rude to older folks, her peers, or even strangers. If her own parents haven’t earned her respect, it begs the issue of what you could do to gain hers.
If she treats everyone else with respect except you, it’s just a matter of time until she includes you.
She never makes concessions; it’s either do it her way or don’t do it at all. If she refuses to compromise and insists on doing things her way, it indicates an unhealthy interaction.
It’s a red flag if she continuously blames others for her misfortunes and refuses to accept responsibility for her actions.
Partnerships thrive on shared accountability and responsibility. A person who is constantly the victim will not contribute to personal or social progress.
If you observe these warning signals, it’s critical to have open talks and, if necessary, seek professional help, but if all efforts fail, it’s time to gracefully go.
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