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7 Things You Should Never Say to a Guy You Like

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7 Things You Should Never Say to a Guy You Like

Guys, too, have emotions. They have feelings that may be injured considerably more severely with words than with sticks and stones, despite their sometimes brawny, often aloof exteriors. Do you think you know what’s going on inside your guy’s head? Consider again! Without realising it, you might be shattering his heart and crushing his ego. There are some things you should never, ever say to a guy if you respect your relationship and want to prevent an explosive battle over nothing.

Aren’t You Going to Get That?

Many women, especially on first dates, expect men to pay the bill. Many males presumably anticipate having to foot the bill as well. Indeed, a poll found that more than three-quarters of heterosexual couples believe males should always pay for the first date. Even as the relationship evolves, this pattern continues to persist.

But this is the twenty-first century, and we have come to demand some degree of gender equality. While there is nothing wrong with a man volunteering to pay for a date, expressing your expectation that he must pay may convey an incorrect impression. You can come out as an entitled gold digger who is solely interested in his money in his eyes.

It’s almost as if you should leave the bill on the table like a bit of spinach trapped in your date’s teeth. You can’t stop staring, yet you’re too terrified to say anything.

It Happens to Everyone

You’re getting close. When he encounters some difficulties downstairs, things in the bedroom become hot and heavy. Cue the sombre trombone.

The issue is bad enough as it is, and telling him that other guys may and have experienced the same fate would not make him feel any better. If he’s straight, the last thing he wants to think about right now is another man’s flaccid privates, let alone an army of unhappy guys with flaccid privates!

Opening channels of communication is crucial, but it may not be the greatest option in the heat of the moment. Instead, divert his attention by becoming personal in other ways, and who knows what will happen? He could simply surprise you.

Do You Even Know How to Change a Tire?

Every guy knows how to replace a tyre on an automobile. And a man who doesn’t know will never acknowledge it, even if his forehead is drenched in perspiration, his hands are black from brake dust, and he’s trying not to appear like a total lug nut, all the while oblivious to the fact that he needs a key for that wheel lock.

To challenge his ability to replace a tyre, right or wrong, is to question his masculinity. When he hears those statements, he will believe you see him as a lesser guy. Rather than becoming irritated and standing by, volunteer to help. He’ll certainly decline, but it’s preferable to doubting his manhood.

On a related note, never ask a father whether he knows how to change a nappy. He could, or he could not. But after he’s elbow-deep in the muck and has body fluids all over his clothes, he’ll realise how vital it is to know.

It’s Just a Game

The dishes are piling up in the sink, the laundry basket is overflowing, and your yard looks like something out of The Jungle Book. Nonetheless, your man is there on the couch, cheering on his favourite team and yelling at the officials over the TV. You tell him to get off his buttocks and do some chores, and he says he’s watching football. “It’s just a game,” you respond, as he fires you a frown with angry eyes that penetrate through to the deepest recesses of your soul.

For him, it’s more than “just a game.” For many males, professional sports may have a much deeper meaning. Perhaps he lives vicariously via the physique. Perhaps he lives vicariously via the physique. Maybe he’s remembering that one time in high school when he scored four touchdowns in a single game, before resigning himself to a job as a women’s shoe salesperson at a mall in the Chicago suburbs.

It Must Be Nice Your Wife Pays for Everything

Yes, there is still a “wage gap” in America, but the proportion of women who are the major breadwinners for their families is constantly increasing. The number of full-time stay-at-home fathers is also increasing. Dads aren’t “playing mum” or “giving mum a break,” just as mothers aren’t “playing dad” when they go up the professional ladder.

And, while money should never be the deciding factor in what a spouse brings to a relationship, pointing out this disparity may be extremely emasculating. No man wants to be treated as if he’s a toy for his wife (hairy back and noticeable stomach aside).

Why Can’t You Be More Like Judy’s Boyfriend?

Nobody is flawless. Guys are going to make errors and have flaws. Probably on a regular basis as well.

What matters is that you focus on your own connection rather than comparing it to others. You may only see “Judy’s boyfriend,” the flawless version of himself that he (and she) portrays on Facebook. If you talk to Judy, you could discover that things aren’t exactly as they appear. He may make romantic gestures and provide a hand around the house, but he may also have the terrible tendency of pushing his knuckles into his nostrils as if the Maltese Falcon was hidden within, waiting to be uncovered.

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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend

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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend

I used to do fraud. Someone introduced it to my buddy, who then introduced it to me. The game has different stages. We were at the bottom of the game’s ladder, so we didn’t make much money, but the risk involved was excellent. Aside from the danger, you must labour every day in order to earn GHC500 every week.

We slept very little because our clients were all over the world, and because of the time difference, we had to stay awake in order to communicate with them. I had a major hit one day. I received GHC7,000 from a bargain and immediately purchased an iPhone for my girlfriend, Cynthia. She was aware that I was involved in fraud, yet she was uninterested. She became interested in the business when I gave her the iPhone and told her how I obtained it.

So when I had a customer who claimed to be a girl, Cynthia was the one who spoke to them. She was the one who set up the video calls. We were still struggling. We halted operations since the money was not flowing as promised.

Life was difficult for two jobless lovers. I couldn’t help her. I couldn’t help myself, so we relied on the generosity of friends who were succeeding in the game.

Ernest, a buddy of mine from Canada, came over one day, and we were all hanging around. Cynthia later informed me, “Your friend likes me.” He was licking his lips and staring at me in some way. Let’s go get some money from him. Tell him I’m not your girlfriend. Allow him to take me so we may obtain money from him.”

Ernest was formerly a player in the game. He went outdoors after getting money. I warned Cynthia Ernest that she might catch the hint, but she was so enthusiastic about collecting money that we gave it a shot. “Don’t let him sleep with you,” was the lone caution. Never.”

She brought me GHC 500 a week later. “He gave me 1,000 GHC.” “That’s your cut,” she explained.

Ernest was hiding the affair because he was afraid I would be upset if I found out he was seeing my sister. He was even concealing it from the team, but we were aware of what was going on.

He was here for a month, and we earned a lot of money.

He was still sending money after he left. Cynthia gave me my portion. I got a job and advised her not to see Ernest anymore. She didn’t give up. It escalated into a brawl, in which I threatened to let the cat out of the bag. “If you try it, you’ll go to jail,” she said. You know I’m familiar with all of your previous transactions. How much money can you offer me to get me to quit seeing Ernest?”

Cynthia is currently in Canada with Ernest, where they are having the time of their life. I tear up when I see their images. When I see these videos on Instagram, I want to kick them in the video.

Ernest finally understands reality. Cynthia, I believe, informed him in a way that she wouldn’t be held responsible, saying something like, “He gave me to you so we could get money from you, but I fell for you because you’re a good person.” That sort of thing.

I must confess, they had the final laugh. Cynthia informed me the last time I spoke with her, “If you stop being bitter, I will send you something small every month.” You don’t have to hate me since I don’t hate you.”

I bowed my head and kicked the bitterness out of my heart because money is money.

That girl is the only honest scammer there is. She maintained her promise. She occasionally sends me money. She’s gradually rebuilding the bridge between me and my old friend Ernest. She duped me, but I can’t really complain. I still have feelings for her but in a different manner. I adore her as someone who looks after me.

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I adore my husband, but I also love my boss

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I adore my husband, but I also love my boss

My spouse is fantastic. He’s a wonderful father to our children, and I adore him.

Everything went well till I saw my Boss for the first time lately. I had just recently begun working at my new workplace, therefore, I had never met the Boss in person. He was smitten with me from the moment he saw me. He knows I’m married and is fine with it.

He treats me like a lady and pays all of my bills. He pays for stuff I don’t even realise I need. I enjoy spending time with him. He makes me feel incredibly protected, and with him, the world may disappear for all I care.

He is not married and, in his own words, is eager to “be here” for me.

We are yet to have shuperu, but he kissed me last night before we split ways, and I’ve been craving his kiss all day. Not only have I been thinking about his kiss, but also about what it would be like to lay in bed with him and yield to his wishes.

I tell him how much it pains me to do this to my husband, and he says, “Don’t worry. Everything will be well. He can’t be harmed by what he doesn’t know.”

He has a knack of getting under my skin emotionally. Only my husband has been able to reach me in the same manner that my employer has, and it makes me want to keep him—keep him and keep my husband.

My spouse just refers to him as my Boss. If he finds out, he would undoubtedly break down and break up with me, therefore I’ve learnt not to leave any evidence. I’m in a state of confusion right now. Confused because my husband needs to hurt me or treat me horribly in order for me to fall in love with someone else, but in this situation, everything is perfect between us, but I still long for someone new.

I desperately need my job, therefore I don’t want to offend my employer. This is the only job I’ve ever had that pays above and above my expectations. I simply cannot afford to lose it. Aside from that, I want my employer and I need my husband. I wish there was a way for the two to coexist.

The gravity of the situation is that, since meeting my employer, shuperu with my spouse has become a responsibility for me. I make myself available to him, but I don’t feel anything. It’s similar to the fable of the brook and the stone. What effect may the stream have on the stone? Nothing. He’s doing it, and I’m thinking about my employer. I am aware that I require assistance.

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Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle

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Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle

A heartbroken lady has hauled her lover, Hassan Umar, to a Kano magistrates’ court for having dumped her after spending N900,000 on him.

In court, the woman’s counsel said that the defendant claimed he was in love with his client and that they had agreed to marry.

However, after spending the money on him, Umar abandoned her and stopped seeing her.

The defendant, on the other hand, pled not guilty to the accusations, explaining that it was merely a relationship that did not survive the test of time.

Following the reading of the charges, the Magistrate requested that both sides produce their witnesses for the next postponed session.

Addressing journalists after the court sitting, the woman said:

“I doubt he didn’t charm me. Whatever he asked me I did it instantly. I cooked different types of food for him, including chicken, meat, and even two rams.

“I spent over N900,000 on him. But from there, he started showing me as if he didn’t care. Later he stopped coming to me.”

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