Guys, too, have emotions. They have feelings that may be injured considerably more severely with words than with sticks and stones, despite their sometimes brawny, often aloof exteriors. Do you think you know what’s going on inside your guy’s head? Consider again! Without realising it, you might be shattering his heart and crushing his ego. There are some things you should never, ever say to a guy if you respect your relationship and want to prevent an explosive battle over nothing.
Aren’t You Going to Get That?
Many women, especially on first dates, expect men to pay the bill. Many males presumably anticipate having to foot the bill as well. Indeed, a poll found that more than three-quarters of heterosexual couples believe males should always pay for the first date. Even as the relationship evolves, this pattern continues to persist.
But this is the twenty-first century, and we have come to demand some degree of gender equality. While there is nothing wrong with a man volunteering to pay for a date, expressing your expectation that he must pay may convey an incorrect impression. You can come out as an entitled gold digger who is solely interested in his money in his eyes.
It’s almost as if you should leave the bill on the table like a bit of spinach trapped in your date’s teeth. You can’t stop staring, yet you’re too terrified to say anything.
It Happens to Everyone
You’re getting close. When he encounters some difficulties downstairs, things in the bedroom become hot and heavy. Cue the sombre trombone.
The issue is bad enough as it is, and telling him that other guys may and have experienced the same fate would not make him feel any better. If he’s straight, the last thing he wants to think about right now is another man’s flaccid privates, let alone an army of unhappy guys with flaccid privates!
Opening channels of communication is crucial, but it may not be the greatest option in the heat of the moment. Instead, divert his attention by becoming personal in other ways, and who knows what will happen? He could simply surprise you.
Do You Even Know How to Change a Tire?
Every guy knows how to replace a tyre on an automobile. And a man who doesn’t know will never acknowledge it, even if his forehead is drenched in perspiration, his hands are black from brake dust, and he’s trying not to appear like a total lug nut, all the while oblivious to the fact that he needs a key for that wheel lock.
To challenge his ability to replace a tyre, right or wrong, is to question his masculinity. When he hears those statements, he will believe you see him as a lesser guy. Rather than becoming irritated and standing by, volunteer to help. He’ll certainly decline, but it’s preferable to doubting his manhood.
On a related note, never ask a father whether he knows how to change a nappy. He could, or he could not. But after he’s elbow-deep in the muck and has body fluids all over his clothes, he’ll realise how vital it is to know.
It’s Just a Game
The dishes are piling up in the sink, the laundry basket is overflowing, and your yard looks like something out of The Jungle Book. Nonetheless, your man is there on the couch, cheering on his favourite team and yelling at the officials over the TV. You tell him to get off his buttocks and do some chores, and he says he’s watching football. “It’s just a game,” you respond, as he fires you a frown with angry eyes that penetrate through to the deepest recesses of your soul.
For him, it’s more than “just a game.” For many males, professional sports may have a much deeper meaning. Perhaps he lives vicariously via the physique. Perhaps he lives vicariously via the physique. Maybe he’s remembering that one time in high school when he scored four touchdowns in a single game, before resigning himself to a job as a women’s shoe salesperson at a mall in the Chicago suburbs.
It Must Be Nice Your Wife Pays for Everything
Yes, there is still a “wage gap” in America, but the proportion of women who are the major breadwinners for their families is constantly increasing. The number of full-time stay-at-home fathers is also increasing. Dads aren’t “playing mum” or “giving mum a break,” just as mothers aren’t “playing dad” when they go up the professional ladder.
And, while money should never be the deciding factor in what a spouse brings to a relationship, pointing out this disparity may be extremely emasculating. No man wants to be treated as if he’s a toy for his wife (hairy back and noticeable stomach aside).
Why Can’t You Be More Like Judy’s Boyfriend?
Nobody is flawless. Guys are going to make errors and have flaws. Probably on a regular basis as well.
What matters is that you focus on your own connection rather than comparing it to others. You may only see “Judy’s boyfriend,” the flawless version of himself that he (and she) portrays on Facebook. If you talk to Judy, you could discover that things aren’t exactly as they appear. He may make romantic gestures and provide a hand around the house, but he may also have the terrible tendency of pushing his knuckles into his nostrils as if the Maltese Falcon was hidden within, waiting to be uncovered.
