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A man’s sweaty scent turns me on so much that I could smell boxer shorts till I get wet




I don’t know how it started or when it became this serious but I realized before my first time of ever having s*x that I was aroused by a man’s foul odour. Let me explain; on a normal day If I’m not in the mood for anything s*xual, I hate the smell, but when I’m aroused and I smell that scent, I get even wetter and it’s so strange to me. But I can also get aroused by a man’s scent if I haven’t had s*x for a while and I crave it.

When guys go and play football or any other sport and they pass by me, that natural manly sweaty scent can make me crave intimacy with them. I’m not referring to the smelly armpit or strong odour, but there is this natural manly scent that is hard to describe unless you smell it. I realized that I craved it so much. It was later that I got to know it’s called a fetish and other women have the same fetish as well, just that I haven’t met another woman with the same fetish.

It’s not as if people are going around telling each other what they do secretly. Some people assume you’re mentally unstable for having such fetishes, but I don’t think it’s true. There is this odour that a man produces around his groin. It’s not the same odour from a woman. That odour turns me on so much that if a man has taken his bath and is smelling fresh, I may not be as wet. I had a few boyfriends and none of them understood that fetish until I met one guy who did. He will give me his boxers for me to smell so that I could get wet.

Then we will get intimate and do other things. I stuck to him for three years and I thought we will be together for a long time but this guy broke my heart in a very painful way by cheating on me with a friend. I tried to meet other men like him, but the moment they realize I liked to smell their dirty boxers or their groin area, it was weird to them and they didn’t want me anymore.

Along the line I met another guy on tinder and I told him straightaway about my fetish. I didn’t want us to start something serious with him for him to dump me when he gets to know about my fetish. Surprisingly he said he liked the idea of that and we tried it. He took it a step further by adding his pair of socks and I realised I liked the smell of worn socks too. It’s not as if I like very smelly things. It’s not that extreme.

If a boxer shorts has been worn for a whole day, I like the smell. But if the smell is extreme, like it’s been worn for days, I hate it. It’s the same with the socks too. My boyfriend also developed a fetish of smelling my panties and we were doing it to ourselves. But at a point I felt like the relationship was not going anywhere. It was just us having s*x and doing freaky things but we had no plans.

At least we should have future plans and hobbies and other things doing but it was s*x all the time and I was just tired of him so I ended it with him. I got really depressed after that because I didn’t know who to turn to and open up to about my fetish. I started believing something was wrong with me because I told my best friend about my fetish for the first time and she looked at me in a very weird way. I don’t see it as a bad thing. I just like the natural man scent so much that it gets me wet, but apparently it was weird and after my friend’s reaction, I decided to get the help of a psychologist and see. I got one and I was able to open up to her. But then I had to pay for every one-hour meeting and I felt like it was draining me so I stopped going for the meetings.

I decided to open up to my pastor because it was eating me up and he wasn’t taking money for counselling. My pastor told me my fetish is demonic and he took me through some time of prayer and fasting. He told me to stop having s*x and not enter into a relationship for now. We ended a ten-day fast last week and nothing has changed. When I pass by a man with a natural scent, I start getting wet and since I haven’t had s*x for months now, the arousal is intense. Some trotro mates have bad armpit smells, that don’t arouse me, but then some have this mild body scent that makes me wet and now I’m wondering if fetishes are really demonic because my pastor says that if the fasting doesn’t work, I’ll have to come for deliverance because he believes I may be possessed without knowing it. Please are there other ways I can solve this problem? I’ve read some materials online about fetishes and most say that it’s normal, but I just don’t know what to think or believe anymore. I need help.

Source: Anonymous Confessions

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How to start a new relationship: 6 tips to make it work this year



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Starting a new relationship can be quite tricky yet exciting at the same time.

You will be excited at the prospect of someone loving you and caring for you, taking time for you.

The start of a relationship might probably be the best time of your life as you are starting a new relationship. However, as excited as you might be, it is crucial to know what to do in a new relationship and what not to do in a new relationship.

How to make it work

If you understand the dos and don’ts of new relationships, it will be easier for you to move forward and form a healthy relationship with your partner.

It would help if you respected each other’s independence and choices. Although it is alright to keep in touch, be aware of each other’s whereabouts, and communicate, continuously pinging each other can also suffocate at times.

It is just that how to start a relationship can be quite complicated and tricky and requires lots of effort. Once you get used to it and know about your partner, it is easier to form a healthy relationship.

Dos and don’ts for a new relationship can help you stop second-guessing yourself. It gives you a vague blueprint about what needs to be done, and it can enhance your bond further.

  • Have realistic expectations

For a relationship to work, it is essential to be emotionally and mentally strong. You also have to be compromising and understanding. It’s not necessary that what you want in a relationship is the same as what your partner wants. So, be realistic about situations.

You can both have different thoughts and opinions, like how often you should text in a new relationship. While one person could enjoy the attention, the other appreciates space. So, it is crucial to find a middle ground.

  • Show love and affection to your partner

You might have made a new boyfriend. And now you must be thinking about starting a new relationship with a man you’ve just developed feelings for. 

You must first remember to show love and affection to your partner to strengthen the bond between you both. You must give attention and time to your partner and make eye contact with him.

  • Don’t start talking about the future prematurely

When you start a new relationship, bombarding your partner with questions and plans for the future is not how relationships work. There is a big chance that you can put your partner off.

Every relationship requires time, and you cannot imagine your boyfriend being head over heels from day one. 

You should remember that you are new to this and just starting a relationship. It is okay to be on cloud nine. However, if the question, “How to have a good relationship?” lingers in your mind, you must know that it’s all about taking things slow, one thing at a time. 

  • Don’t mention fears prematurely

At the beginning of a relationship, you and your partner are still getting comfortable with each other. Therefore, one of the crucial new relationship dos and don’ts include not mentioning your fears prematurely. 

Allow your partner the chance to discover your fears and limitations gradually. Mentioning things at the get-go can make them feel intimidated and overwhelmed. 

You can mention your fears when they become relevant to the equation you share with them. 

  • Enjoy moments

One of the big dos and don’ts in a new relationship is enjoying the present moment. 

Don’t let your past experiences and concerns about the future take away the sheen of the exciting present you are sharing with your partner. 

The best part of a new relationship is often the excitement and fun that you can have with someone. The chemistry between you two should be your focus, not the stress and anxiety about the past and present. 

  • Communicate effectively

Entering a new relationship can seem daunting as it often involves opening up to someone and sharing your life with them. However, this can be a cakewalk if you let clear communication guide you through this process. 

Treat effective communication as one of the most important dos and don’ts in a new relationship. It can make or break a relationship depending on whether you do it honestly, respectfully and openly.

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5 healthy boundaries every relationship needs this season



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Every relationship needs healthy boundaries.

Topics such as the boundaries you wish to have can save you from heartbreak down the road.

These are simple dos and donts that you expect your partner to abide by. They could be as simple as how you expect them to communicate to whether or not your relationship is exclusive.

Setting boundaries can determine the success or failure of your relationship.

Even as you enjoy the butterflies that materialize in your stomach at the sight of your new partner, consider talking about the following:

  • Communication style

This is very important information to give your partner. Tell them whether you like them to call or text, how often you need to hear from them, which pet names you like and which you don’t, etc. This will ensure that nobody gets offended when their communication preferences aren’t met.

In the same vein, talk about if and how you will address your relationship on social media. Some people are comfortable bearing it all online while others would like to keep it off social media.

  • What to do during conflict

Disagreements are inevitable and so, you need to know whether your partner needs time alone when they’re angry or they prefer to hash out your disagreement there and then. Communicate this clearly, preferably before you have your first fight, so that you know what is expected of you.

  • The type of commitment you want

To avoid any misunderstandings, clearly state what you expect as far as your relationship is concerned. Will you be exclusive or would you like an open relationship?

As you talk about commitment remember that you can’t change your partner. Even if you’ve clicked and you want different things from the relationship, it won’t end well. Be strong enough to let go if your expectations as far as commitment is concerned.

  • Intimacy

It’s very important to set sexual boundaries. Tell your partner what you like and don’t like in the bedroom, how often you’re comfortable having sex, what level of intimacy you like on a first date or in public and when you’re alone, etc. Do you mind holding hands while you’re out and about? Are you a chronic hugger?

A partner who won’t respect these boundaries or tries to coerce you to break them even when you try to remain adamant risks becoming abusive. This is a relationship red flag and you need to run.

  • Personal space

Tell your partner when you need personal space and what you require from them during this time. Do you need a few minutes alone when you wake up in the morning or do you like some quiet time when you come in from work?

Here’s just one of the examples on boundaries you should set early on in your relationship. Don’t be afraid to speak up if you feel your partner is crossing your boundaries and making you uncomfortable. And remember, some boundaries can be negotiated such that you’re both happy and on the same page.

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4 best tips to avoid getting pregnant during s*x



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There are many ways to avoid pregnancy if you are having active sex.

Sperm can live inside your uterus for up to 5 days after having sex, and pregnancy can only occur if there is sperm in your uterus or fallopian tubes when you ovulate.

You have many tools to prevent pregnancy. Birth control options are plentiful, but some work better than others. The key is to make sure you’re using them the right way.

Here’s what you can do:

  • You’re on birth control

Hormonal birth control methods such as the pill, patch, ring, implant, shot, or IUD significantly decrease your chances of getting pregnant, but they don’t eliminate your chances.

These experts say methods work in various ways. For example, IUDs block sperm from reaching the egg, while the pill, ring, and patch prevent ovulation.

  • You’re on your period

While it’s not impossible to get pregnant while on your period, your chances are pretty slim. 

Your lowest chance of getting pregnant while on your period is during the first day of bleeding. But the chances increase with each passing day as you get closer to your ovulation window. If your typical menstrual cycle is close to the average 28- to 30-day cycle, then the likelihood of getting pregnant while on your period is low. But if your cycle is shorter, your chances of getting pregnant while on your period go up.

  • You use the ‘pull-out’ method

The pull-out method may be the world’s oldest form of birth control.

The pull-out method, also known as withdrawal, involves pulling the penis out of the vagina before ejaculation.

While some studies have found that withdrawal can be as high as 96% effective with perfect use, it isn’t easy to maintain perfect use with this method. 

  • You use a condom

When using a condom to avoid pregnancy (or sexually transmitted infections, for that matter), it’s vital to use it correctly. Correct usage means the condom is rolled onto the penis (or inserted into the vagina in the case of internal or female condoms) before there’s any contact between genitals and skin. 

According to research, the chance of getting pregnant with male condoms is about 18%, and with female condoms, it’s 21%. With perfect condom use every single time, those odds decrease to 2%.

Some nursing parents use the lactational amenorrhea method (LAM) or “breastfeeding method” to prevent pregnancy after giving birth. LAM as a form of birth control relies on the temporary pause in ovulation that often accompanies breastfeeding in the first several months postpartum.

While breastfeeding, the hormone estrogen, which is responsible for getting your period each month, is suppressed experts say, hence, preventing pregnancy.

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