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Can a 21-year-old guy date a 23-year-old lady despite their age differences?

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They’re in the same class, according to my sister, and she approached him on the first day of school to ask a question. But she recognized that, while he seemed calm, he had this attitude toward women. He maintains a respectful distance from them. He seldom talks to the girls in class unless they approach him, and he offers them direct, evasive responses. He’s really attractive (I’ve seen him a few times because my sister and I go to the same school), clever, and intelligent.

So when my sister informed me, I encouraged her to keep a distance from him, not ignore him, since we, too, grew up not like boys (no father and violent stepfather), but due to God and therapy, we’ve overcome it, and she has. She acted as though he understood it but didn’t know how to approach him because it’s usually the ladies that approach him first. Until something happened in their class (when I was there chatting with her) and she stuck up for someone. And the manner she went about it was so enticing that I was taken aback.

Because my sister is an extremely quiet person who seldom speaks and prefers to avoid crowds. I was surprised since, although being the youngest, I am the loudest. Her classmates began to notice her since she seldom speaks and prefers to remain in her corner observing. The guy wasn’t in class at the time, but she told me she met him at the door and tapped him, and he just smiled and said he heard what happened and was happy for her, my sister was startled and asked him how he knew, and he simply replied he has eyes around. And he’s the sort of man who wouldn’t want people or his male friends to see him talking to females or a lady, so when he said he has eyes around, it was odd, indicating that even if he and my sister seldom interact, his friends are aware of her.

So they become closer than they were at first, and most of the girls in the class are surprised at how cool he is around my sister. And now he makes it clear that he is extremely close to my sister, even if he relates to the other girls in the class, but not as deeply as he does with my sister, and he has even begun talking to me. They’ve grown closer, and you’ll often hear them debating (not to the point of fighting, but in a hilarious way) over little matters, both on the phone and in person. They don’t even notice when I’m around. And she claims that he has grown more open, that she has discovered the basis for his tough-man-against-ladies mentality, and that he can now laugh readily about little matters.

But now they’re cool, and I don’t mind that he’s my age mate, but I’d like to know whether they can be together. I’ve chatted with him numerous times, and while he’s young in age, he appears and acts older than his age. He sounds more like an older person than a 21-year-old boy, so I even call him a professor; he’s knowledgeable and picks his words carefully, and he’s always talking about my sister, and despite their age disparities, he says he likes her.

He’s really attractive and enjoyable to be around; he’s a fantastic fit for my sister because of how she is. I’m not sure how to tell her because she’s the sort that believes that “little things count,” even in friendship. So, please tell me whether it’s feasible for them to be so that I know how to proceed. So, does age actually make a difference in relationships?

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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend

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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend

I used to do fraud. Someone introduced it to my buddy, who then introduced it to me. The game has different stages. We were at the bottom of the game’s ladder, so we didn’t make much money, but the risk involved was excellent. Aside from the danger, you must labour every day in order to earn GHC500 every week.

We slept very little because our clients were all over the world, and because of the time difference, we had to stay awake in order to communicate with them. I had a major hit one day. I received GHC7,000 from a bargain and immediately purchased an iPhone for my girlfriend, Cynthia. She was aware that I was involved in fraud, yet she was uninterested. She became interested in the business when I gave her the iPhone and told her how I obtained it.

So when I had a customer who claimed to be a girl, Cynthia was the one who spoke to them. She was the one who set up the video calls. We were still struggling. We halted operations since the money was not flowing as promised.

Life was difficult for two jobless lovers. I couldn’t help her. I couldn’t help myself, so we relied on the generosity of friends who were succeeding in the game.

Ernest, a buddy of mine from Canada, came over one day, and we were all hanging around. Cynthia later informed me, “Your friend likes me.” He was licking his lips and staring at me in some way. Let’s go get some money from him. Tell him I’m not your girlfriend. Allow him to take me so we may obtain money from him.”

Ernest was formerly a player in the game. He went outdoors after getting money. I warned Cynthia Ernest that she might catch the hint, but she was so enthusiastic about collecting money that we gave it a shot. “Don’t let him sleep with you,” was the lone caution. Never.”

She brought me GHC 500 a week later. “He gave me 1,000 GHC.” “That’s your cut,” she explained.

Ernest was hiding the affair because he was afraid I would be upset if I found out he was seeing my sister. He was even concealing it from the team, but we were aware of what was going on.

He was here for a month, and we earned a lot of money.

He was still sending money after he left. Cynthia gave me my portion. I got a job and advised her not to see Ernest anymore. She didn’t give up. It escalated into a brawl, in which I threatened to let the cat out of the bag. “If you try it, you’ll go to jail,” she said. You know I’m familiar with all of your previous transactions. How much money can you offer me to get me to quit seeing Ernest?”

Cynthia is currently in Canada with Ernest, where they are having the time of their life. I tear up when I see their images. When I see these videos on Instagram, I want to kick them in the video.

Ernest finally understands reality. Cynthia, I believe, informed him in a way that she wouldn’t be held responsible, saying something like, “He gave me to you so we could get money from you, but I fell for you because you’re a good person.” That sort of thing.

I must confess, they had the final laugh. Cynthia informed me the last time I spoke with her, “If you stop being bitter, I will send you something small every month.” You don’t have to hate me since I don’t hate you.”

I bowed my head and kicked the bitterness out of my heart because money is money.

That girl is the only honest scammer there is. She maintained her promise. She occasionally sends me money. She’s gradually rebuilding the bridge between me and my old friend Ernest. She duped me, but I can’t really complain. I still have feelings for her but in a different manner. I adore her as someone who looks after me.

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I adore my husband, but I also love my boss

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I adore my husband, but I also love my boss

My spouse is fantastic. He’s a wonderful father to our children, and I adore him.

Everything went well till I saw my Boss for the first time lately. I had just recently begun working at my new workplace, therefore, I had never met the Boss in person. He was smitten with me from the moment he saw me. He knows I’m married and is fine with it.

He treats me like a lady and pays all of my bills. He pays for stuff I don’t even realise I need. I enjoy spending time with him. He makes me feel incredibly protected, and with him, the world may disappear for all I care.

He is not married and, in his own words, is eager to “be here” for me.

We are yet to have shuperu, but he kissed me last night before we split ways, and I’ve been craving his kiss all day. Not only have I been thinking about his kiss, but also about what it would be like to lay in bed with him and yield to his wishes.

I tell him how much it pains me to do this to my husband, and he says, “Don’t worry. Everything will be well. He can’t be harmed by what he doesn’t know.”

He has a knack of getting under my skin emotionally. Only my husband has been able to reach me in the same manner that my employer has, and it makes me want to keep him—keep him and keep my husband.

My spouse just refers to him as my Boss. If he finds out, he would undoubtedly break down and break up with me, therefore I’ve learnt not to leave any evidence. I’m in a state of confusion right now. Confused because my husband needs to hurt me or treat me horribly in order for me to fall in love with someone else, but in this situation, everything is perfect between us, but I still long for someone new.

I desperately need my job, therefore I don’t want to offend my employer. This is the only job I’ve ever had that pays above and above my expectations. I simply cannot afford to lose it. Aside from that, I want my employer and I need my husband. I wish there was a way for the two to coexist.

The gravity of the situation is that, since meeting my employer, shuperu with my spouse has become a responsibility for me. I make myself available to him, but I don’t feel anything. It’s similar to the fable of the brook and the stone. What effect may the stream have on the stone? Nothing. He’s doing it, and I’m thinking about my employer. I am aware that I require assistance.

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Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle

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Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle

A heartbroken lady has hauled her lover, Hassan Umar, to a Kano magistrates’ court for having dumped her after spending N900,000 on him.

In court, the woman’s counsel said that the defendant claimed he was in love with his client and that they had agreed to marry.

However, after spending the money on him, Umar abandoned her and stopped seeing her.

The defendant, on the other hand, pled not guilty to the accusations, explaining that it was merely a relationship that did not survive the test of time.

Following the reading of the charges, the Magistrate requested that both sides produce their witnesses for the next postponed session.

Addressing journalists after the court sitting, the woman said:

“I doubt he didn’t charm me. Whatever he asked me I did it instantly. I cooked different types of food for him, including chicken, meat, and even two rams.

“I spent over N900,000 on him. But from there, he started showing me as if he didn’t care. Later he stopped coming to me.”

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