We all want to be seen, understood, and loved, so the concept of finding a “soulmate” is appealing—but are soulmates real? And how do you know when you’ve arrived?
Whether you believe you’ve discovered the one or want to be prepared, here’s how to tell whether someone is your soulmate, according to spiritual experts.
What exactly is a soulmate?
Simply described, a soulmate is “a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner”—according to the Oxford Dictionary. Soulmates are folks who are cut from the same dynamic cloth as you.
How do you know if someone is your soulmate?
You felt an instant connection
When you meet a soulmate, there will be an instant connection, as if you already know them, even though you have only met them. “You just feel like you’ve known that person forever—it’s having that deep connection where you simply recognise that soul,” she says.
You “recognize” each other’s souls
Speaking of recognition, that’s another unmistakable spiritual indicator of meeting your soulmate that defies explanation. Tanya Carroll Richardson, a professional psychic, believes that when two souls have shared a major prior life (or lifetimes), they will be strangely drawn to one other in this existence.
“What people are feeling is the built-up energy over other lifetimes together—and a soul recognition,” she explains, adding that soul identification may occur with any sort of soulmate.
Your love for each other is unconditional
When it comes to toxic relationships and allowing or repeating harmful relationship patterns, “unconditional love” might raise some red lights, but when it comes to soulmates, it’s a magnificent gift two people can give each other.
For one thing, real soulmates will not have the poison that calls unconditional love into doubt. Rather, it is a love for each other that exists beyond of time, space, or situation, according to Nuez. “There’s a deeper level of patience and understanding,” she adds, “where you accept and doesn’t try to change that partner,” adding that you’ll embrace your soulmate for who they are and what they offer to the relationship. (You’ll also be able to let them go compassionately if necessary.)
Eye contact is intense
Soulmate relationships may be highly emotional, particularly in romantic situations. For one thing, eye contact between soulmates will be strong and almost telepathic, according to Nuez. You may exchange a knowing gaze with your soulmate and they’ll be on the same page, almost like a psychic connection. Simply staring into each other’s eyes may make you feel as if you’re peering into the expanse of all existence while also feeling the tranquilly and safety that comes with real connection.
You feel physically drawn to each other
This includes eye contact, but beyond just the eyes, soulmates will often feel physically drawn to each other, almost like magnets. According to Richardson, sexual chemistry between romantic soulmates is typically “off the charts,” and as Nuñez adds, you may feel other bodily sensations around them, such as warmth and love bubbling up in your gut or heart, a general sense of comfort and ease, or sharing empathic energy (aka attunement).
