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He told me he was single and impregnated me but flew with his family to the US after I gave birth

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He told me he was single and impregnated me but flew with his family to the US after I gave birth

Hello everyone. I know many of you will be hard on me after reading this. Some will even judge me, but you guys should know that I want a solution and that is why I have brought it here so please be gentle with me. I’m just a 25-year-old girl. I considered myself lucky to have been one of the few people in the country who got retained after my NSS two years ago. But unfortunately, they wanted me to go and work in a different region. Somewhere I hadn’t been to before. They didn’t provide me with any form of temporary accommodation or anything. If I wanted to take the job, I should find my way there and find a place to stay. I started to panic. I went to the said region with my sister and we were asking around to see if we could get a place to rent. Even if it was a single room, we could start from there.

Someone in the area introduced me to the agent who got his room for him and I called him and we started talking. At first he told me he was sorry, that all the rooms were occupied. We came home to Accra and I was very worried. I had one more week to find a place or else they may even sack me. I started searching for rooms in that area on social media. Asking all my friends. Two days after we came to Accra, the agent called me and told me someone was willing to share a two-bedroom with me. He said it will be temporary because another person’s rent will be due in some months and she doesn’t seem like she will renew it, so I should just pay half of the usual amount and come and stay there. I asked about the person’s gender and he told me it was a guy but I will have my own room and the man is a real gentleman. I didn’t like the idea. I told him I will get back to him.

I didn’t find any room on social media. So finally, the Sunday before I was supposed to officially report to work, I called the agent and told him I have accepted it. I travelled to meet him and he took me to the place. Honestly, the house is a very nice house and the man who was staying there was so handsome and friendly. I paid the agent his cut and the man insisted since I’m now starting life as a worker, I should pay monthly. In my mind, I was thinking that this man was really God-sent. The room he showed me was already furnished with a bed, wardrobe, fan, and carpet. Almost everything I need in a bedroom. Also, I had my own washroom inside. The second day when I woke up, I stepped out and met the man in his boxers and I was so shy. He apologized for that and told me he was used to staying alone so he will try and change.

Then I started having fantasies about this man. Hmmm it was so bad that I will touch myself when I’m doing it. But I felt bad afterwards and I pray and ask God to forgive me. I had a boyfriend but we broke up before my NSS was over and so I was single at the time. I started getting close to this man but I was thinking he wasn’t feeling the same way I was feeling because he was just polite and friendly with me so I didn’t give him any ideas. He will be watching a movie and he will invite me to the hall to watch with him. Then as time went on, we started getting very close until one day he said that I have been here for months and he hasn’t seen my boyfriend visit me even once. I laughed about it and told him we broke up and I’m single. Then he told me about how a girl he was planning to marry had left her to marry someone else.

The inevitable happened some days later. We just started watching a movie, then he came close to me and cuddled me. We were doing nothing wrong. That’s what I thought because both of us were single. Then it took me a few months to notice something. We were dating but he didn’t want to step out with me. I was wondering. He goes out a lot, especially on Saturdays, but immediately I ask about going together, he will come up with so many excuses. In the end he will say he wanted to be sure I was the one before making our relationship public because he had learnt a lesson from his previous relationship. Then he will go on and claim he is an indoor type so he likes to stay indoors with his girlfriend to have some privacy. He was lying. I knew it.

But I couldn’t resist his s*x. He was very good in bed and many times, I found myself initiating it. I’ve even gone to the extent of going to his room when he is sleeping to play with his joystick until he wakes up and we do the thing. Then I got pregnant and I told him. At 36, he said he was happy he was finally going to become a father. Then everything changed when I was 7-months pregnant. My parents and the whole family didn’t know about the pregnancy. I wanted to give birth first, but also, anytime I suggested to him that we go to my parents and his parents to inform them, he will say I should give birth first. In my 7th month of pregnacy, I got home from work and saw that he had packed all my things and cleaned my room like the way I had come to meet it almost two years ago. I got confused. I even thought he was moving me to his big bedroom. I stopped paying rent when we started dating. He said I needed to leave now and that his wife had taken an earlier flight and she was coming home.

I was more than shocked. Then he went to his bedroom and brought out his wedding ring and some wedding pictures. He said he had to hang them in the hall so his wife will not suspect anything. Also, they have a son who was outside the country. I started to cry when he told me he wishes I can abort my pregnancy. He ordered an uber and we drove to the single room self/contain he has rented for me. Then I barely saw him. All he was doing was sending me money. I have been given maternity leave and I stayed home for a while but my mother started calling me and telling me that if I don’t come home to Accra to visit, she will come and look for me where I am. For over two years, I hadn’t been home, so one saturday, I left my baby with a friend from work. He was six months at the time and I missed cerelac for him and went home. With all the shame I have brought upon myself, I couldn’t tell my pastoral family about having a baby out of wedlock. My father and older brother are pastors and they preach against these things. The church is even very popular..hmmm. They only saw that I had gained some weight and they thought the job is catering well for me. So I didn’t tell my family and I returned back promising to come and visit them at least once a month.

My colleague at work who knows the situation said I should go to the man’s house and tell his wife that her husband has a baby boy with me. My friend even said she will escort me. At first I was scared of the confrontation but gathered courage when for two months I stopped hearing from him and he stopped sending me money. I went to the house with my friend only to be told by the next door neighbour that he and his wife had gone back to the States. Then I called the agent and he told me that the man was not renting that house. He was the owner of the house and he was even selling the house now. I don’t know any of his family members. The agent said he doesn’t know anything about him. Please don’t bash me. I never knew he was married. I knew he was lying at some point but I just thought he was cheating with another person, not having a wife. I’m so depressed right now and I feel like life is not worth it. He has degraded me in the worst possible way and sometimes I want to curse him for revenge. Is there a way I can find him? His social media has all gone blank. My friend thinks it’s time to tell my parents but I’m scared. My baby is almost 8 months now. I want to curse him until he comes and kneels before me. He must suffer for my pain. I won’t let this go. I swear!

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Woman confesses that her spouse always defecates in bed as he’s ready to ‘cum’

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"I've been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed. "We've tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it's too sweet and he can't contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex. "But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse."

A Ghanaian lady who is married to a “loving and responsible husband” is looking for help dealing with what she describes as “disgusting” sexual encounters with her spouse.

The married woman with two children has said that her husband always defecates in bed when he is at his height of ecstasy during sex.

Revealing her traumatic situation to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3, she stated that she is considering quitting her eleven-month marriage because she cannot bear it any longer.

“I’ve been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed.

“We’ve tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it’s too sweet and he can’t contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex.

“But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because, despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse,” she narrated.

According to her, the situation is impacting her mental health because all attempts to settle her issue have failed.

“I’m going through a lot because it makes me puke; mentally, I’m breaking down. I’m not sure whether to quit the marriage because we currently have two children. I tried every possible solution to the problem, but nothing worked,” she said.

She is presently seeking assistance to deal with the circumstance, as the problem is harming her mental health.

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I prefer to masturbate than have sex with my husband – Lady shares ordeal

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She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend. "Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand," she said Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

A Ghanaian woman has expressed her sexual discontent with her spouse.

The lady, whose identity has been kept hidden, told Confessions on TV3 that her spouse never stays in bed for more than two minutes.

She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend.

“Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand,” she said to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

Meanwhile, Life Coach Ebenezer Quaye, a guest on the show, encouraged lovers to share feedback to each other after participating in physical intimacy with their loved ones.

This, he argued, will inspire spouses to work on their sexual deficiencies.

“If you are having sex and do not receive feedback from your wife, there is a problem.” Wives should also provide feedback to their spouses. “It’s so nice and encouraging,” he commented.

He also gave some strategies for improving sexual shortcomings between lovers.

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How my husband sex trafficked me for 13 years

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When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party. "It's going to be fun." She said. "Sure. "I would love to." I didn't have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone's attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

I learned that life was unfair at an early age, and in the worst way conceivable. My stepfather used to sexually assault me, and when I eventually had the bravery to denounce him, he received only three months of treatment as punishment and was allowed to live with me again.

My mother brought him back for financial reasons, but she kept us apart. They slept below, while we slept above. Nevertheless, I was traumatised and lived in terror. As if I hadn’t gone through enough pain, I met a man who I believed loved me and who sex trafficked me.

When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party.

“It’s going to be fun.” She said.

“Sure. “I would love to.”

I didn’t have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone’s attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

“Hello, Greg. I invite you to meet my buddy Wendy. “Wendy, this is Greg.” She spoke to the guy.

Greg turned to me, smiled, and extended his hand before saying, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.”

At that point, my knees were weak. My heart began beating, and I couldn’t stop smiling.

“Can I get your number?” He asked.

“Sure,” I responded and handed it to him.

I didn’t expect him to call, but later that night he did, and we spoke for hours. That was the start of a relationship that led to my being sex trafficked.

Greg understood how to make me feel appreciated, which is all I wanted. We became amorous quickly, and I fell pregnant soon after. I had been under my mother’s care since I was 17 years old when I had my child. Greg demanded that I leave my mother’s house so that we could make our relationship work.

“How am I going to do that?” I asked.

“I’ve got a plan. You may relocate to a shelter, where they will consider you emancipated from your parents, and then you will be eligible for welfare checks, and we will be able to get an apartment and live happily ever after.” He explained.

At the time, it seemed like a fairy tale, and I was all in. I ran away from home, and Greg took me and my kid to a shelter. However, life at the shelter was not as easy as Greg made it appear.

It took long for me to receive my first welfare check, and I was running out of baby goods. So I contacted Greg and told him I needed money to take care of our child.

“Don’t worry, I have a job for us to do.” He said.

I assumed he meant cleaning people’s homes because that’s what he told me he did for money. So I picked up my kid and went to see him.

“What are we going to do?” I asked Greg.

“Well, you’re going to walk up this street, wait on that corner for a man to pick you up and you’ll have sex with that man in his car and he’ll pay you.” He explained without emotion.

I was perplexed and apprehensive, but he kept bringing up my daughter and insisting that if I loved her, I would do it. I felt like I had no option. My knees and hands shook as I proceeded to where he had instructed me to stand. As soon as I arrived, a car stopped in front of me, and the driver requested me to get in. That’s how my spouse started sex trafficking me.

“I know a place we can go in the woods.” He said.

I did not say anything. When we arrived in the woods, we both exited and walked to a private location where he began removing his clothing. I took off mine, we had sex, and he gave me the money before driving me back to where he had picked me up.

When I came out, I went to Greg, who was still standing in the same location and handed him all of the money.

“I love you.” I knew I had made the proper decision in choosing you as my wife. He said.

We went to purchase diapers and formula for the baby and had a little extra. However, a week later, we were out of diapers again.

That time, he encouraged me to take on two or three customers so that I might earn enough money to leave the shelter.

“Do you want your daughter to live in a shelter for the rest of her life?” He asked.

From there, he started one of the greatest prostitution networks in the region. It comprised four to ten females from various states. He sexually trafficked me for 13 years while I was still married to him. It varied from once a week to every other day, depending on how much money he received from the other females. I worked as a street girl, and escort, and made house calls. Not to add that I have two more children with him.

People continually questioned me why I stayed with him for so long, but no matter what I told them, they couldn’t comprehend what I was going through. Greg hooked us to drugs and physically abused us if we attempted to escape. He would also send the other girls to find any girl who had gone and beat her until she returned. I felt bonded to the other females since we weren’t permitted to have outside contact. So, anytime I managed to flee, I felt horrible and returned because I didn’t want them to suffer.

After 13 years, I was finally free of Greg. I had recently given birth and was in the kitchen making supper for us when I noticed police cruisers outside our house. The cops swooped in, arrested Greg, and detained me for interrogation.

However, I refused to talk to them because I was afraid Greg would beat me if he found out. Because I did not comply, they accused me of sex trafficking and sentenced me to 23 months in prison. Greg was also charged with sex trafficking and was sentenced to ten years in jail.

My children were removed while I was in prison, and because the judge in the custody case felt I was a sex trafficker, she promised that I would not be granted custody of my children. When I got out, I returned to school and earned an associate’s degree. In addition, I returned to the same judge who heard my custody case to request custody of my kid. I went with my attorneys, counsellors, and even the police officers who detained me to explain my situation to the court.

She returned my child to me, and I returned home to live with my mother, who sadly died later. Today, I feel comfortable and satisfied, which is a wonderful place to be. I’ve realised that there are individuals eager to help those who have faced the same hardships that I have, and if you’re going through anything similar, you don’t have to suffer alone or in silence.

This narrative is based on the Unfiltered Stories YouTube video.

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