I used to have a serious relationship till it ended around 2018, and it really hurt so much that I find it hard to move on. I couldn’t bring myself to trust or love another man since then, I’ve been focusing my energy on working. So around last year, I decided to give a man who has been on my neck for years a chance.
We started dating, but I find it hard to trust him. I always get scared thinking he’ll also leave me and it eventually happened and he left me because I read his message with another lady.
He was really mad at me saying why am I checking his phone and that any lady that’ll make a good wife will not check his phone, so after breaking up with me last year, I met another guy, and we started dating this year. I tried to learn from my past mistake so I did not check his phone no matter what but now the problem is that I got pregnant for him and he forced me to abort it with reasons that he’s not ready neither is he ready to be a father or married till he has his own house and car.
However, after the abortion he changed a little bit, and I did not take it really seriously until we had unprotected sex again, and I started having symptoms of pregnancy so I told him I was pregnant even though I had not confirmed it.
And the same thing repeated itself. He insisted I just abort it, telling me why do I always give him sad news, so he reduced calling me or chatting with me. In fact, he said I should be the one to sort the abortion because he has no dime to pay for it.
Later I found out I wasn’t pregnant, I was really happy when it turned out to be negative, so I planned to tell him I’m not pregnant and also to pay him a surprise visit, cos he stays in Lagos and I stay in Ibadan. He has always been the one who visits me and I don’t know where he stays in Lagos, so when I got to Lagos, I called him I’m in Lagos that he should guide me on how to reach his location but he fired up, telling me I should go back to Ibadan and that he didn’t have time to see me.
I was really hurt that I even have to lie to him that I did not have any money left with me to go back to Ibadan, but he said he doesn’t care and that I should just go back home. A week after he called me, and I picked up, so I told him I wasn’t pregnant the second time and that I only thought I was pregnant till I carry out the test and it proved negative.
He apologized that he’s sorry and since then he has been acting as sweet as he used to, begging me that he’s sorry that I should let us see so we can sort things out, he even sent me money even though I didn’t ask him to.
He’s been begging me to forgive him and let us continue the way we are , now I’m totally confused and scared , I don’t know what to do anymore, and I really need advice…..thanks
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