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He’s not showing any sign of marrying me after dating for 16 years with three kids

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I was a naive 17-year-old girl who believed everything he told me when we first started dating. He was 21 years old and an apprentice car mechanic. He currently has his own fitting business with apprentices, as I speak. I have no regrets about being with him or having three children with him. What irritates me is his personality and how domineering his family is. He is quite peaceful and serene, and he constantly wishes for peace to rule. He despises confrontation so much that if we have to debate something, he will just advise us to settle it there and not bring it up again. He stays in a chamber and a hall with me. We also have the children with us. It’s his family’s home, and the restroom is on the property.

I’ve been with him for the past ten years. It began when I became pregnant with my first kid. He said he was the father and brought some schnapps to my family to apologize for impregnating me. That is all he has accomplished. I’ve been pleading with him to make it official and marry me, but he doesn’t get it. I have the impression that he already regards me as his wife. He doesn’t understand why we should make it official because everyone calls me his wife. My mum has also persuaded me to continue living with him. After having three children with him, there is no way I could abandon him for another woman. Where should I even begin? He is incredibly compassionate and takes excellent care of us.

I’m now learning to cook and will be finished shortly. Despite the fact that he hasn’t complained, I want to complete and work full-time to support him. We’re required to alternate who sweeps the complex and cleanses the toilet and bath at his family’s residence. My boyfriend, unfortunately, has three sisters. He is the sole male. We also share the house with roughly five of his relatives, who also live there with their families. My man’s parents are both running late. When it’s my turn to sweep the courtyard and scrub the restroom, I do it without complaint. My husband has even told me that I’m doing great with it. I can add that I and one of his cousin’s wives do a good job of sweeping the complex and cleaning the restroom. His sisters and relatives were meant to assist, but they quit long ago.

We (the other wife and I) used to be really vocal about it. It didn’t seem fair to us. There are two other spouses who are meant to assist us. One of them does not even work and yet she does nothing. We mentioned this issue one day, and it quickly escalated into a large argument in the family. I was the one who went to question the eldest sister about why it is just two of us who clean the washroom and compound while there are so many of us in the house. It’s quite frustrating to watch how some of them leave the toilet in a state of disarray. Please excuse my profanity. It’s terrible. Their offspring will destroy the property and then abandon it. They do not respect either. If you accidentally touch one of the children, you will be labelled a witch in the house.

So I summoned my bravery that day and informed the woman that it wasn’t fair. She is the house’s oldest resident, in her 60s. In terms of her, I don’t expect her to accomplish anything; I just see her as an elderly woman who will convene a conference and split the job properly, easing the pressure on some of us. She began criticizing me and using nasty comments against me. She and her sisters formed a group against me that day. Some of the cousins also showed up there. They stated it was a good thing their brother didn’t marry me since my days in the house were numbered.

One of them stated that he will never marry me as long as she is alive and that he will only consider me worthy of marriage once she, the sister, is deceased. This wounded me so much that I stopped greeting them. I ceased sweeping and cleaning the area. The other woman who was assisting me was having significant disagreements with her husband and had gone to her father’s place. She is yet to return as I speak. There is no tranquillity in the house. My man’s sisters came to our home one day to knock on the door and taunt me after I quit sweeping. Fortunately, my partner was present that day to see what I had been telling him all along. He advised me not to go outside. He walked out to talk to them, and they returned to their side. But they were running around yelling ‘kansantwi’ and performing various tunes all day to get my attention.

I’ve told my boyfriend several times that we should rent, and to be honest, even though I want us to leave the house, rent is expensive, and right now, after paying the children’s tuition, we don’t have much left over for other things. We are fortunate that his father bequeathed him this chamber and hall. It’s his portion, and we just pay a little amount. Please tell me how I may live with his sisters. He has instructed me to resume welcoming them. When I welcome them, only one responds. The others don’t seem to mind. Now that the other woman is gone, it is up to me to sweep the compound every day.

I’m not even concerned with the complex. I’m concerned about the bathroom and toilet. It is quite difficult for me. His sisters have now forbidden their children from playing with mine. The third sibling is expecting her sixth kid. They are not married, yet they have children with various guys. Despite this, they treat me as though I’ve done a crime. Please advise me on how to approach them so that I do not cause any additional difficulties. I’m doing my best. It’s as though they’re driving me to abandon him. But after 16 years of dating, he’s my spouse, and I’m not leaving. I keep getting the impression that his sisters have done something to make him refuse to marry me. They must be aware of something based on their demeanour.

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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend

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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend

I used to do fraud. Someone introduced it to my buddy, who then introduced it to me. The game has different stages. We were at the bottom of the game’s ladder, so we didn’t make much money, but the risk involved was excellent. Aside from the danger, you must labour every day in order to earn GHC500 every week.

We slept very little because our clients were all over the world, and because of the time difference, we had to stay awake in order to communicate with them. I had a major hit one day. I received GHC7,000 from a bargain and immediately purchased an iPhone for my girlfriend, Cynthia. She was aware that I was involved in fraud, yet she was uninterested. She became interested in the business when I gave her the iPhone and told her how I obtained it.

So when I had a customer who claimed to be a girl, Cynthia was the one who spoke to them. She was the one who set up the video calls. We were still struggling. We halted operations since the money was not flowing as promised.

Life was difficult for two jobless lovers. I couldn’t help her. I couldn’t help myself, so we relied on the generosity of friends who were succeeding in the game.

Ernest, a buddy of mine from Canada, came over one day, and we were all hanging around. Cynthia later informed me, “Your friend likes me.” He was licking his lips and staring at me in some way. Let’s go get some money from him. Tell him I’m not your girlfriend. Allow him to take me so we may obtain money from him.”

Ernest was formerly a player in the game. He went outdoors after getting money. I warned Cynthia Ernest that she might catch the hint, but she was so enthusiastic about collecting money that we gave it a shot. “Don’t let him sleep with you,” was the lone caution. Never.”

She brought me GHC 500 a week later. “He gave me 1,000 GHC.” “That’s your cut,” she explained.

Ernest was hiding the affair because he was afraid I would be upset if I found out he was seeing my sister. He was even concealing it from the team, but we were aware of what was going on.

He was here for a month, and we earned a lot of money.

He was still sending money after he left. Cynthia gave me my portion. I got a job and advised her not to see Ernest anymore. She didn’t give up. It escalated into a brawl, in which I threatened to let the cat out of the bag. “If you try it, you’ll go to jail,” she said. You know I’m familiar with all of your previous transactions. How much money can you offer me to get me to quit seeing Ernest?”

Cynthia is currently in Canada with Ernest, where they are having the time of their life. I tear up when I see their images. When I see these videos on Instagram, I want to kick them in the video.

Ernest finally understands reality. Cynthia, I believe, informed him in a way that she wouldn’t be held responsible, saying something like, “He gave me to you so we could get money from you, but I fell for you because you’re a good person.” That sort of thing.

I must confess, they had the final laugh. Cynthia informed me the last time I spoke with her, “If you stop being bitter, I will send you something small every month.” You don’t have to hate me since I don’t hate you.”

I bowed my head and kicked the bitterness out of my heart because money is money.

That girl is the only honest scammer there is. She maintained her promise. She occasionally sends me money. She’s gradually rebuilding the bridge between me and my old friend Ernest. She duped me, but I can’t really complain. I still have feelings for her but in a different manner. I adore her as someone who looks after me.

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I adore my husband, but I also love my boss

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I adore my husband, but I also love my boss

My spouse is fantastic. He’s a wonderful father to our children, and I adore him.

Everything went well till I saw my Boss for the first time lately. I had just recently begun working at my new workplace, therefore, I had never met the Boss in person. He was smitten with me from the moment he saw me. He knows I’m married and is fine with it.

He treats me like a lady and pays all of my bills. He pays for stuff I don’t even realise I need. I enjoy spending time with him. He makes me feel incredibly protected, and with him, the world may disappear for all I care.

He is not married and, in his own words, is eager to “be here” for me.

We are yet to have shuperu, but he kissed me last night before we split ways, and I’ve been craving his kiss all day. Not only have I been thinking about his kiss, but also about what it would be like to lay in bed with him and yield to his wishes.

I tell him how much it pains me to do this to my husband, and he says, “Don’t worry. Everything will be well. He can’t be harmed by what he doesn’t know.”

He has a knack of getting under my skin emotionally. Only my husband has been able to reach me in the same manner that my employer has, and it makes me want to keep him—keep him and keep my husband.

My spouse just refers to him as my Boss. If he finds out, he would undoubtedly break down and break up with me, therefore I’ve learnt not to leave any evidence. I’m in a state of confusion right now. Confused because my husband needs to hurt me or treat me horribly in order for me to fall in love with someone else, but in this situation, everything is perfect between us, but I still long for someone new.

I desperately need my job, therefore I don’t want to offend my employer. This is the only job I’ve ever had that pays above and above my expectations. I simply cannot afford to lose it. Aside from that, I want my employer and I need my husband. I wish there was a way for the two to coexist.

The gravity of the situation is that, since meeting my employer, shuperu with my spouse has become a responsibility for me. I make myself available to him, but I don’t feel anything. It’s similar to the fable of the brook and the stone. What effect may the stream have on the stone? Nothing. He’s doing it, and I’m thinking about my employer. I am aware that I require assistance.

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Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle

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Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle

A heartbroken lady has hauled her lover, Hassan Umar, to a Kano magistrates’ court for having dumped her after spending N900,000 on him.

In court, the woman’s counsel said that the defendant claimed he was in love with his client and that they had agreed to marry.

However, after spending the money on him, Umar abandoned her and stopped seeing her.

The defendant, on the other hand, pled not guilty to the accusations, explaining that it was merely a relationship that did not survive the test of time.

Following the reading of the charges, the Magistrate requested that both sides produce their witnesses for the next postponed session.

Addressing journalists after the court sitting, the woman said:

“I doubt he didn’t charm me. Whatever he asked me I did it instantly. I cooked different types of food for him, including chicken, meat, and even two rams.

“I spent over N900,000 on him. But from there, he started showing me as if he didn’t care. Later he stopped coming to me.”

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