I know she doesn’t love me as I also don’t love her but her Dad’s reputation is on the line

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I’m living with the dirtiest woman I have come across. I always thought that women are more neat and hygenic than men, but it seems my wife missed the day God was sharing the anointing to be neat because I don’t know what else to say or do to this woman to tidy up her surroundings.

Our marriage is in its third year and we have a son. My wife is not just dirty and untidy, she is so lazy. I don’t know how she is able to continue living the way she is living without feeling any motivation to change for the better.


She and I were not in a relationship. We had a fling and she got pregnant out of it. My wife is the daughter of a pastor and we had to marry early to cover the shame. Her father was the one who even paid for the wedding because I wasn’t having the resources to. I didn’t want this marriage but my dad was also hard on me and told me to be a man and do the right thing.

Three years later and here we are. My wife has gone to Bible school and is now a full-time lady pastor. That’s her job and the church pays her. As for me, her dad kept persuading me to go to the church’s pastoral school for free, but I know I don’t have the calling so I’ve been dodging the man since. I’m just selling my electrical appliances and doing my other businesses on the side.

I’m the man in the house, I go to work from Monday to Saturday. I come home in the evening, yet I am the one who sweeps the room and scrubs the bathroom when I can. If I don’t do it, my wife will not even lift a finger to do it. She barely cooks and her excuse is that she is tired. We are always buying food outside.

On Sundays, I am forced to drag myself to church. If I don’t go, my father-in-law will call and give me a long lecture about the dangers of backsliding. I feel like I have no control in my marriage. My wife just does what she does and I can’t do anything because she threatens me with telling her daddy.

I spoke to my dad about wanting a divorce. This marriage was a mistake from the beginning. There’s no way her dad will allow me to divorce because he cares more about his reputation as a man of God than the mess of a marriage I have gotten myself into.

I know his daughter doesn’t love me and maybe that’s why she is intentionally frustrating me. I also don’t love her. This whole marriage was a big mistake and I feel trapped because I can’t divorce her.

Source: Anonymous Confessions

One thought on “I know she doesn’t love me as I also don’t love her but her Dad’s reputation is on the line

  1. He should be bold enough to tell the wife’s father or mother so that they can settle things if not he should divorce simple. Is his life not his father or inlaw period

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