I adore my girlfriend and don’t want to lose her, so I’ve brought the situation here to see if I can solve her problem. She has a terrible thieving problem, and it’s so bad that I sometimes have to check on her personally lest she embarrasses herself. When we first started dating, she would pay me a visit and I would realize that money had vanished from my wallet. I didn’t want to betray her. I couldn’t believe that a sweet girl like her would take money every time she came to see me, so I created a trap for her. I placed some money on my table, and lo and behold, it vanished as soon as she arrived and went. The funny thing is that I never leave the room, yet she is so quick that she may steal from you while your focus is elsewhere. I told her I set a trap for her, and that’s when she burst into tears.
My fiancée had a habit of stealing from her parents and siblings. She claims her mother has hit her several times over it, but nothing has changed. She has been humiliated in school, yet the problem persists. Her elderly sister had given birth, and she was on her way to assist her. Do you think my girlfriend took her sister’s husband’s phone? She had a bad day that day. The man began to whine about not being able to find his phone. My girlfriend had also not left the house, and her sister was aware that she was a thief. They examined her purse and found the phone, and they cautioned her not to come back. I haven’t told anyone about her condition. To be honest, I’ve thought of leaving her several times. But I can tell that she has a serious problem, and I want to assist her.
We’ve been dating for three years, and I can sense when she’s lying to me. She just purchased me some lovely boxer shorts for my birthday. There are six of them. I’m not sure why, but I have a feeling she took the boxers. Here’s the deal. I essentially look after her. She is not working or doing anything to earn money, and the boxers she purchased were those international pricey briefs. I sat down with her and asked her to tell me the truth. She initially became defensive, claiming that I no longer trusted her. But I calmly assured her that if she told me the truth, I wouldn’t be furious and that I understood that she wanted to purchase something for me just once to make me happy. That’s when she said she had stolen the boxers from a local shop. She wasn’t required to. I had intended for us to go out to celebrate my birthday. Despite what I told her, she did it.
She’s done a number of similar things, and I’m beginning to lose patience with her. On the one hand, I adore her. I’ve got plans for her. I’m saving up to rent a shop for her to help her get started. But with this dilemma, I’m confident she’ll steal her own money as well as the items in the shop, and the business will fail. Her family is adamantly opposed to her involvement. She has brought them shame. Everyone in her neighbourhood knows she’s a thief, so she left and now lives with me. If she hasn’t changed after three years of dating her and attempting to change her, I’m at a loss for what to do next. When I tell her about the situation these days, she bursts into tears, and I have to stop her because I don’t enjoy seeing her weep.
I’m not sure if this is a spiritual issue. I’m worried about her. What if she goes out one day and steals and gets caught? She may be assaulted, burned, or perhaps imprisoned. I’ve warned her multiple times that if the cops find her, her relatives would not rush to her aid. She has nothing except me, yet she would not listen. I didn’t like it when she took my boxers, so I haven’t worn them since. I can’t return them since it would appear suspicious. I’d want to see a definitive resolution to this. If she doesn’t make any attempt to change by the end of the year, I’ll have to let her leave. I don’t want to start the New Year with her problems. I’m not even paying attention to my life or the ambitions I have for myself because of her. It’s always her fault. Please find a long-term solution to her thieving problem. If not, even though I love her, I’ll have to split up with her.
Source: Anonymous Confessions
