My wife and I are in our forties. We’ve been married for 18 years and have four children. I hope your readers do not judge me based on what I’ve done, but rather assist me in finding a solution to the problem I’m facing. This is why I have written to you so that you can share it with them. So it’s difficult for me to commit to just one woman. It did not begin today. I first became sexually active when I was 14 or 15 years old.
Since then, I’ve found it difficult to commit to just one person. I tried everything, but it never worked. Many of my ex-partners would catch me cheating and then dump me. After many years of living this way, I became extremely cautious and made certain that none of my girlfriends ever caught me cheating again.
I even memorise the phone numbers of other ladies I’m cheating on so that I don’t save them. I used to save the numbers under various names. Even male names, but due to some events, I decided it was best not to save the number at all. I wish I could go into that story, but it would take too much time and that isn’t why I wrote this. My wife and I were together for three years. I decided to marry her because we had the longest relationship I’d ever had.
I made every effort not to cheat. It was difficult, but it wasn’t easy, and a few months after our wedding, I met a lady, and it’s been one woman from another. My wife is a reserved person. I used to believe she had no idea I had been cheating all these years, but I recently discovered my current girl’s phone number on hers. It was saved with the name of the girl. They’ve also been calling and talking for several hours. My wife’s phone has the information.
The girl in question is a 23-year-old university student I’ve been seeing on the side for almost a year. As far as I know, she is unaware that I am married and has never met my wife. I haven’t even saved her phone number. I have it saved in my memory, and our WhatsApp conversations are automatically deleted. I was going to ask her if she knew anyone with the name (my wife’s name), but I didn’t want to cause any problems.
If I ask my wife, I might get in trouble. I considered calling the girl on a different number and asking if she knows ‘osimasi,’ which is my wife, but the situation is dangerous, and any step I take could expose me to either my wife or my girl. I like them both. My wife is the mother of my children, and she looks after our home and keeps the bed warm.
In four years, I’ll be 50, and this girl makes me feel like a young man again. I have a lot of issues, but when I’m in her arms, I forget about them all and just enjoy her. I need to do something to get out of this without hurting either of the two women. It’s also possible that my wife knows the girl and it’s just a coincidence, but I’ve made certain that my wife has never met any of my mistresses.
So even if it’s just a coincidence that they know each other, I don’t feel safe at all. Do your readers think I should just ask my wife who she is in a normal conversation? What if she already knows and she has been discussing with the girl to destroy me? Knowing how quiet my wife is, she can make plans on her own and hide it from me. Please let your readers help me in making a decision. You can also reply this by telling me what you think. Thank you.
