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I want to open up to my cousin’s husband that I’ve been sharing her with him even long before they got married

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It took me days to decide whether or not to share this. In fact, I’m still not sure if sharing it is the right thing to do, but here goes. She’s 28 and I’m 29. We’re not blood relatives, but we do have a cousin in common. Adwoa is my cousin, let me explain. She is the sister of my father’s brother. Nancy (the girl whose story I’m about to tell) is Adwoa’s cousin. My uncle’s wife and Nancy’s father are siblings. I hope this makes sense. When we were kids, we met at a family gathering, and then every Saturday, my siblings and Nancy’s siblings would meet and play at Adwoa’s house. Adwoa’s father is extremely wealthy. They have a large house where many family gatherings take place. When I was 14, Nancy’s brother showed me adult content on his phone. He was more mature. He had no idea that I would later practice what he had shown me on his sister.

I didn’t make her do it. We both desired it. Nancy and I did things between the ages of 14 and 17 that are inappropriate to discuss. We grew closer than anyone else in the family over time. Adwoa had also drifted away. Those Saturday visits to Adwoa’s house ceased as we grew older. But Nancy and I had formed such a strong bond that it didn’t bother us. I broke the rules several times in SHS to see her. That was significant because our Senior High Schools were not located in the same region. However, it is the University that has exacerbated the situation. We attended the same university. While I waited a year before enrolling, she went the same year as me, so we were both there at the same time. I was staying in a four-bed hostel. She was initially in a two-in-one room, but when she had problems with her roommate, she rented a single room near campus.

I eventually moved in with her as well. I don’t need to explain what a man and a woman do when they share a room. We were family to the outside world. We were related. She called me her bestie the majority of the time, and to be honest, I was the closest person to her. We discussed everything. There are no secrets, only openness. I proposed to her at university. I couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t. We lived like a married couple, and I didn’t expect her to say no to me. I was stunned when she did. She reasoned that I was like family to her. Yes, we do things behind closed doors. I was the first guy she met and her best friend, but she refused to call me her boyfriend. I thought it was a joke until she got a boyfriend and told me about him. She told him I was her cousin and best friend. I tried to avoid her, but I’m not sure if it’s an addiction. We’ll always find a way to get together and do things we shouldn’t.

I was madly in love with her. But I realized she wasn’t feeling the same way about me, so I tried to move on. We’ve both been in and out of relationships over the last few years. But we’ve met every week to do the work. When we meet, we don’t always talk; we just get on with it like robots. It is essentially an addiction. Last year, she married. She dated him for a year and a half. I had her all to myself the night before her wedding and every week since. During this time, she has had one pregnancy terminated. She wasn’t sure about the father and didn’t want to risk anything. Her husband is completely unaware. I’ve been dating this girl for four months now. She is the closest I have come to have Nancy. For the first time, I believe I am falling in love with someone who is not her. I told her that I was sick of doing this to her. I told her I was going to be faithful to my new girl and see how things went. Nancy became envious and enraged at me.

I’m not sure what she’s saying. I’ve tried dating her several times before. She always said no to me, but when I give my full attention to someone else, she becomes envious. As I write this, I’ve been away from her for a week, and she unexpectedly came to my house and enticed me to do something I’ve worked hard to avoid. My girl does not deserve such deception. Her husband, like all the people we’ve dated before today, does not deserve it. She said nothing to me after we were finished. She took a shower and then left as if nothing had happened. I’m sick of it. This is why I’m writing to find out what I should do next. I believe in God, but I don’t think there’s anything spiritual about this. We both started something in our childhood that has had a significant impact on us.

I’m so used to being the helper in every situation that I can’t imagine talking about this with anyone, let alone a therapist. It’s too delicate to discuss. It’s too humiliating. I’m not perfect, but most people think I’m close enough, and I don’t want to upset that perception. Nancy’s husband is a nice person. He adores her. I’m willing to risk my reputation and everything I’ve said about being afraid to open up to anyone to tell him. He deserves to know that for the past year, even before they married, his wife has been sharing me with him. He and I have a good relationship because I’m close to Nancy and visit her frequently. We talk about football and politics a lot. We’ve progressed from acquaintances to friends. I’m not sure he’s mature enough to deal with this truth. I’m not sure if I’m ready to tell him. I’m not sure Nancy will be able to deal with the fallout. What about our loved ones? I can’t even imagine what will happen after that.

I wish with all my heart that this is one of those secrets to take to the grave, but she is not as willing to end it as I am, so I must be drastic. I’ve already threatened her several times with telling her husband, but she knows me too well to dare me. She understands how much I cherish our family and how this news will affect the family, particularly Adwoa, who has been out of the country for years. I’ve brought the problem here for advice and a solution. At this point, I deserve any insult, but I’m hoping for some feedback to help me make a final decision.
(All names used in the story are not the actual names of the characters.)

Source: Anonymous Confessions

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Woman confesses that her spouse always defecates in bed as he’s ready to ‘cum’

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"I've been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed. "We've tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it's too sweet and he can't contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex. "But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse."

A Ghanaian lady who is married to a “loving and responsible husband” is looking for help dealing with what she describes as “disgusting” sexual encounters with her spouse.

The married woman with two children has said that her husband always defecates in bed when he is at his height of ecstasy during sex.

Revealing her traumatic situation to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3, she stated that she is considering quitting her eleven-month marriage because she cannot bear it any longer.

“I’ve been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed.

“We’ve tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it’s too sweet and he can’t contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex.

“But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because, despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse,” she narrated.

According to her, the situation is impacting her mental health because all attempts to settle her issue have failed.

“I’m going through a lot because it makes me puke; mentally, I’m breaking down. I’m not sure whether to quit the marriage because we currently have two children. I tried every possible solution to the problem, but nothing worked,” she said.

She is presently seeking assistance to deal with the circumstance, as the problem is harming her mental health.

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I prefer to masturbate than have sex with my husband – Lady shares ordeal

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She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend. "Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand," she said Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

A Ghanaian woman has expressed her sexual discontent with her spouse.

The lady, whose identity has been kept hidden, told Confessions on TV3 that her spouse never stays in bed for more than two minutes.

She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend.

“Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand,” she said to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

Meanwhile, Life Coach Ebenezer Quaye, a guest on the show, encouraged lovers to share feedback to each other after participating in physical intimacy with their loved ones.

This, he argued, will inspire spouses to work on their sexual deficiencies.

“If you are having sex and do not receive feedback from your wife, there is a problem.” Wives should also provide feedback to their spouses. “It’s so nice and encouraging,” he commented.

He also gave some strategies for improving sexual shortcomings between lovers.

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How my husband sex trafficked me for 13 years

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When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party. "It's going to be fun." She said. "Sure. "I would love to." I didn't have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone's attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

I learned that life was unfair at an early age, and in the worst way conceivable. My stepfather used to sexually assault me, and when I eventually had the bravery to denounce him, he received only three months of treatment as punishment and was allowed to live with me again.

My mother brought him back for financial reasons, but she kept us apart. They slept below, while we slept above. Nevertheless, I was traumatised and lived in terror. As if I hadn’t gone through enough pain, I met a man who I believed loved me and who sex trafficked me.

When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party.

“It’s going to be fun.” She said.

“Sure. “I would love to.”

I didn’t have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone’s attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

“Hello, Greg. I invite you to meet my buddy Wendy. “Wendy, this is Greg.” She spoke to the guy.

Greg turned to me, smiled, and extended his hand before saying, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.”

At that point, my knees were weak. My heart began beating, and I couldn’t stop smiling.

“Can I get your number?” He asked.

“Sure,” I responded and handed it to him.

I didn’t expect him to call, but later that night he did, and we spoke for hours. That was the start of a relationship that led to my being sex trafficked.

Greg understood how to make me feel appreciated, which is all I wanted. We became amorous quickly, and I fell pregnant soon after. I had been under my mother’s care since I was 17 years old when I had my child. Greg demanded that I leave my mother’s house so that we could make our relationship work.

“How am I going to do that?” I asked.

“I’ve got a plan. You may relocate to a shelter, where they will consider you emancipated from your parents, and then you will be eligible for welfare checks, and we will be able to get an apartment and live happily ever after.” He explained.

At the time, it seemed like a fairy tale, and I was all in. I ran away from home, and Greg took me and my kid to a shelter. However, life at the shelter was not as easy as Greg made it appear.

It took long for me to receive my first welfare check, and I was running out of baby goods. So I contacted Greg and told him I needed money to take care of our child.

“Don’t worry, I have a job for us to do.” He said.

I assumed he meant cleaning people’s homes because that’s what he told me he did for money. So I picked up my kid and went to see him.

“What are we going to do?” I asked Greg.

“Well, you’re going to walk up this street, wait on that corner for a man to pick you up and you’ll have sex with that man in his car and he’ll pay you.” He explained without emotion.

I was perplexed and apprehensive, but he kept bringing up my daughter and insisting that if I loved her, I would do it. I felt like I had no option. My knees and hands shook as I proceeded to where he had instructed me to stand. As soon as I arrived, a car stopped in front of me, and the driver requested me to get in. That’s how my spouse started sex trafficking me.

“I know a place we can go in the woods.” He said.

I did not say anything. When we arrived in the woods, we both exited and walked to a private location where he began removing his clothing. I took off mine, we had sex, and he gave me the money before driving me back to where he had picked me up.

When I came out, I went to Greg, who was still standing in the same location and handed him all of the money.

“I love you.” I knew I had made the proper decision in choosing you as my wife. He said.

We went to purchase diapers and formula for the baby and had a little extra. However, a week later, we were out of diapers again.

That time, he encouraged me to take on two or three customers so that I might earn enough money to leave the shelter.

“Do you want your daughter to live in a shelter for the rest of her life?” He asked.

From there, he started one of the greatest prostitution networks in the region. It comprised four to ten females from various states. He sexually trafficked me for 13 years while I was still married to him. It varied from once a week to every other day, depending on how much money he received from the other females. I worked as a street girl, and escort, and made house calls. Not to add that I have two more children with him.

People continually questioned me why I stayed with him for so long, but no matter what I told them, they couldn’t comprehend what I was going through. Greg hooked us to drugs and physically abused us if we attempted to escape. He would also send the other girls to find any girl who had gone and beat her until she returned. I felt bonded to the other females since we weren’t permitted to have outside contact. So, anytime I managed to flee, I felt horrible and returned because I didn’t want them to suffer.

After 13 years, I was finally free of Greg. I had recently given birth and was in the kitchen making supper for us when I noticed police cruisers outside our house. The cops swooped in, arrested Greg, and detained me for interrogation.

However, I refused to talk to them because I was afraid Greg would beat me if he found out. Because I did not comply, they accused me of sex trafficking and sentenced me to 23 months in prison. Greg was also charged with sex trafficking and was sentenced to ten years in jail.

My children were removed while I was in prison, and because the judge in the custody case felt I was a sex trafficker, she promised that I would not be granted custody of my children. When I got out, I returned to school and earned an associate’s degree. In addition, I returned to the same judge who heard my custody case to request custody of my kid. I went with my attorneys, counsellors, and even the police officers who detained me to explain my situation to the court.

She returned my child to me, and I returned home to live with my mother, who sadly died later. Today, I feel comfortable and satisfied, which is a wonderful place to be. I’ve realised that there are individuals eager to help those who have faced the same hardships that I have, and if you’re going through anything similar, you don’t have to suffer alone or in silence.

This narrative is based on the Unfiltered Stories YouTube video.

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