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I want to open up to my cousin’s husband that I’ve been sharing her with him even long before they got married
It took me days to decide whether or not to share this. In fact, I’m still not sure if sharing it is the right thing to do, but here goes. She’s 28 and I’m 29. We’re not blood relatives, but we do have a cousin in common. Adwoa is my cousin, let me explain. She is the sister of my father’s brother. Nancy (the girl whose story I’m about to tell) is Adwoa’s cousin. My uncle’s wife and Nancy’s father are siblings. I hope this makes sense. When we were kids, we met at a family gathering, and then every Saturday, my siblings and Nancy’s siblings would meet and play at Adwoa’s house. Adwoa’s father is extremely wealthy. They have a large house where many family gatherings take place. When I was 14, Nancy’s brother showed me adult content on his phone. He was more mature. He had no idea that I would later practice what he had shown me on his sister.
I didn’t make her do it. We both desired it. Nancy and I did things between the ages of 14 and 17 that are inappropriate to discuss. We grew closer than anyone else in the family over time. Adwoa had also drifted away. Those Saturday visits to Adwoa’s house ceased as we grew older. But Nancy and I had formed such a strong bond that it didn’t bother us. I broke the rules several times in SHS to see her. That was significant because our Senior High Schools were not located in the same region. However, it is the University that has exacerbated the situation. We attended the same university. While I waited a year before enrolling, she went the same year as me, so we were both there at the same time. I was staying in a four-bed hostel. She was initially in a two-in-one room, but when she had problems with her roommate, she rented a single room near campus.
I eventually moved in with her as well. I don’t need to explain what a man and a woman do when they share a room. We were family to the outside world. We were related. She called me her bestie the majority of the time, and to be honest, I was the closest person to her. We discussed everything. There are no secrets, only openness. I proposed to her at university. I couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t. We lived like a married couple, and I didn’t expect her to say no to me. I was stunned when she did. She reasoned that I was like family to her. Yes, we do things behind closed doors. I was the first guy she met and her best friend, but she refused to call me her boyfriend. I thought it was a joke until she got a boyfriend and told me about him. She told him I was her cousin and best friend. I tried to avoid her, but I’m not sure if it’s an addiction. We’ll always find a way to get together and do things we shouldn’t.
I was madly in love with her. But I realized she wasn’t feeling the same way about me, so I tried to move on. We’ve both been in and out of relationships over the last few years. But we’ve met every week to do the work. When we meet, we don’t always talk; we just get on with it like robots. It is essentially an addiction. Last year, she married. She dated him for a year and a half. I had her all to myself the night before her wedding and every week since. During this time, she has had one pregnancy terminated. She wasn’t sure about the father and didn’t want to risk anything. Her husband is completely unaware. I’ve been dating this girl for four months now. She is the closest I have come to have Nancy. For the first time, I believe I am falling in love with someone who is not her. I told her that I was sick of doing this to her. I told her I was going to be faithful to my new girl and see how things went. Nancy became envious and enraged at me.
I’m not sure what she’s saying. I’ve tried dating her several times before. She always said no to me, but when I give my full attention to someone else, she becomes envious. As I write this, I’ve been away from her for a week, and she unexpectedly came to my house and enticed me to do something I’ve worked hard to avoid. My girl does not deserve such deception. Her husband, like all the people we’ve dated before today, does not deserve it. She said nothing to me after we were finished. She took a shower and then left as if nothing had happened. I’m sick of it. This is why I’m writing to find out what I should do next. I believe in God, but I don’t think there’s anything spiritual about this. We both started something in our childhood that has had a significant impact on us.
I’m so used to being the helper in every situation that I can’t imagine talking about this with anyone, let alone a therapist. It’s too delicate to discuss. It’s too humiliating. I’m not perfect, but most people think I’m close enough, and I don’t want to upset that perception. Nancy’s husband is a nice person. He adores her. I’m willing to risk my reputation and everything I’ve said about being afraid to open up to anyone to tell him. He deserves to know that for the past year, even before they married, his wife has been sharing me with him. He and I have a good relationship because I’m close to Nancy and visit her frequently. We talk about football and politics a lot. We’ve progressed from acquaintances to friends. I’m not sure he’s mature enough to deal with this truth. I’m not sure if I’m ready to tell him. I’m not sure Nancy will be able to deal with the fallout. What about our loved ones? I can’t even imagine what will happen after that.
I wish with all my heart that this is one of those secrets to take to the grave, but she is not as willing to end it as I am, so I must be drastic. I’ve already threatened her several times with telling her husband, but she knows me too well to dare me. She understands how much I cherish our family and how this news will affect the family, particularly Adwoa, who has been out of the country for years. I’ve brought the problem here for advice and a solution. At this point, I deserve any insult, but I’m hoping for some feedback to help me make a final decision.
(All names used in the story are not the actual names of the characters.)
Source: Anonymous Confessions
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I slept with 300 people in a year – detractors call me ‘disgusting,’ but I feel powerful
An Australian lady who claims to have had sex with over 300 individuals in one year described the experience as “empowering.”
Annie Knight, 26, said on “The Kyle and Jackie O Show” that she even slept with five individuals in a single day during the wild, fun-filled year.
“I felt empowered afterwards,” the adoring Australian said. “Sex makes me happy. Its purpose is to make you feel wonderful.”
Knight had sex with both men and women, and she told the radio show that she met many of her sex partners using dating apps. She does, however, have a list of “regulars” on the fast dial for when she feels like getting down and dirty.
“The messier the sex, the better,” she said.
Knight, called “Australia’s most sexually active woman,” went on to state that nothing is off limits when it comes to experimenting in the bedroom, stating, “I’m down to try anything.”
However, not everyone is thrilled by Knight’s open love of sex, with one detractor calling her “disgusting.”
Knight, who maintains an OnlyFans account, was also sacked from her marketing position when her superiors discovered her lewd online behaviour.
The sex fanatic told “The Kyle and Jackie O Show” that her website has plenty of kinky stuff since she performs “pretty much everything” on video.
Knight recently made news after speaking out about being fired from a separate site.
“The last thing I wanted to do was to get fired if someone found my OnlyFans,” she said on “SBS Insight” a few weeks ago.
“There was a list of three reasons why I was fired basically,” Knight explained, adding that she was “very upset and very angry” at her employer’s decision to fire her.
“They said I falsely advised that I had a side business, didn’t ask for permission from the company to run the side business and that I had online pornographic images of myself and crude language that was against company rules,” she went on to say.
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Some unusual qualities men want in a woman
When it comes to women, what does a man want? To a significant extent, the solution is and will continue to be a mystery.
But it hasn’t prevented scientists from trying to solve the mystery of human attraction.
On the one hand, each man has his own tastes. Qualities and features that are desirable to one guy may not be appealing to another.
However, research has discovered that many men have one trait: they prefer to believe their initial impressions. And those early moments have a significant influence on their level of attraction to certain women.
Of course, some women are born with the ability to make a terrific first impression with little to no effort, while others must work a little more.
Here are five characteristics that men find particularly appealing in women, according to a study.
Natural-looking makeup, including eye makeup and lipstick
Some males remark that they prefer women who do not wear makeup because they appear more natural. However, according to a Zoosk poll, 139 of 1,200 women who applied eye makeup in their profile photo were more likely to receive responses from males. Men were also more likely to desire to meet a lady if her profile photo included lipstick.
Women who wear “darker” cosmetics, on the other hand, were less likely to be asked out. Even if men claim they prefer women who appear “natural,” this implies you may wear “natural” cosmetics and still attract guys.
Also, fellas, it’s quite OK to remark that your girl looks great with winged eyeliner and red lipstick.
The ideal waist-to-hip ratio
This choice is based on health and fertility rather than appearance.
“Evidence also shows that waist-to-hip ratio is a strong indicator of a woman’s oestrogen levels, risk of obesity, and susceptibility to major diseases such as diabetes, ovarian cancer, and heart disease,” according to the study.
Dressing in red clothes
The colour red represents passion. It’s no surprise that males find it appealing. In a research conducted by psychologists at the University of Rochester, men were given images of various women with framed borders of either red or white and were asked how attractive they thought the ladies were.
They were then given an identical photo with the ladies dressed in either red or blue and asked how much they would spend on a date with that woman. Women who were framed in red or wore red were more likely to be considered seductive and beautiful, and males were more likely to want to spend money on a date.
A kind attitude
A pleasant demeanour always goes a long way. Researchers from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology discovered that a woman’s responsiveness to men’s needs and desires boosted her attraction to males.
A higher-pitched voice
According to studies, women prefer males with deeper voices. For males, the reverse is usually true, since some feel “[higher] voices signal reproductive fitness, femininity, and smaller body size.”
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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend
I used to do fraud. Someone introduced it to my buddy, who then introduced it to me. The game has different stages. We were at the bottom of the game’s ladder, so we didn’t make much money, but the risk involved was excellent. Aside from the danger, you must labour every day in order to earn GHC500 every week.
We slept very little because our clients were all over the world, and because of the time difference, we had to stay awake in order to communicate with them. I had a major hit one day. I received GHC7,000 from a bargain and immediately purchased an iPhone for my girlfriend, Cynthia. She was aware that I was involved in fraud, yet she was uninterested. She became interested in the business when I gave her the iPhone and told her how I obtained it.
So when I had a customer who claimed to be a girl, Cynthia was the one who spoke to them. She was the one who set up the video calls. We were still struggling. We halted operations since the money was not flowing as promised.
Life was difficult for two jobless lovers. I couldn’t help her. I couldn’t help myself, so we relied on the generosity of friends who were succeeding in the game.
Ernest, a buddy of mine from Canada, came over one day, and we were all hanging around. Cynthia later informed me, “Your friend likes me.” He was licking his lips and staring at me in some way. Let’s go get some money from him. Tell him I’m not your girlfriend. Allow him to take me so we may obtain money from him.”
Ernest was formerly a player in the game. He went outdoors after getting money. I warned Cynthia Ernest that she might catch the hint, but she was so enthusiastic about collecting money that we gave it a shot. “Don’t let him sleep with you,” was the lone caution. Never.”
She brought me GHC 500 a week later. “He gave me 1,000 GHC.” “That’s your cut,” she explained.
Ernest was hiding the affair because he was afraid I would be upset if I found out he was seeing my sister. He was even concealing it from the team, but we were aware of what was going on.
He was here for a month, and we earned a lot of money.
He was still sending money after he left. Cynthia gave me my portion. I got a job and advised her not to see Ernest anymore. She didn’t give up. It escalated into a brawl, in which I threatened to let the cat out of the bag. “If you try it, you’ll go to jail,” she said. You know I’m familiar with all of your previous transactions. How much money can you offer me to get me to quit seeing Ernest?”
Cynthia is currently in Canada with Ernest, where they are having the time of their life. I tear up when I see their images. When I see these videos on Instagram, I want to kick them in the video.
Ernest finally understands reality. Cynthia, I believe, informed him in a way that she wouldn’t be held responsible, saying something like, “He gave me to you so we could get money from you, but I fell for you because you’re a good person.” That sort of thing.
I must confess, they had the final laugh. Cynthia informed me the last time I spoke with her, “If you stop being bitter, I will send you something small every month.” You don’t have to hate me since I don’t hate you.”
I bowed my head and kicked the bitterness out of my heart because money is money.
That girl is the only honest scammer there is. She maintained her promise. She occasionally sends me money. She’s gradually rebuilding the bridge between me and my old friend Ernest. She duped me, but I can’t really complain. I still have feelings for her but in a different manner. I adore her as someone who looks after me.