I was forced to marry her because she was pregnant but it turned out after 14 years that the child is not mine

Hello, Administrator. I’m telling you this tale because I need to make a choice and I’d like to hear from you. “Two heads are better than one,” as the adage goes. I had been seeing this girl for about a year before the pregnancy issue arose. I’m not the type of person that forces a lady to get an abortion. It goes against my principles, and she was quite depressed after learning of the pregnancy. She was 24 when I was 27.

I told my family about it and was slammed and insulted, but once everything was sorted, my father and uncles went to officially notify her family, and we married just a month later before she started showing. We’ve had two children since then, 14 years later. A daughter of 11 years old and a boy of 8 years old.

My coworker informed me about performing DNA testing for his children since his neighbour received the shock of his life when he found out that his children were for someone else. Fortunately, my friend’s findings arrived, and all four of his children were his. He was urging me to go do something behind my wife’s back. I used to say there was no need because my children resembled me and I didn’t want to put my wife in question.

But I ultimately relented and went ahead and did it on all three of our children without my wife’s knowledge. The first child is not mine, but the second and third are. He was the driving force behind my marriage to my wife in the first place. It’s not that I wasn’t interested in her when we were dating, but I would have spent more time getting to know her before considering marriage. When the pregnancy came along after just 10 months of dating, I was obliged to marry.

I’m not even going to discuss the criticism I received from my relatives. It was a disaster. They continued to make me feel horrible even after the wedding. Especially my father, who said I had shamed him. I was enraged by the news. I knew I’d have a major and protracted quarrel with my wife when I arrived home that night. I didn’t want to do it in front of the kids, so I stayed silent that night, despite the fact that I desperately wanted to talk to her about it and see how she reacted. I didn’t go to work the next day because of the problem.

When the kids left for school, I approached her about the problem, and she began trembling, weeping, and pleading with me. I lost control of myself because, despite her tears, she showed no genuine sorrow for her conduct. She said that because we were having s8x, the boy could have easily been mine, but she had s8x with her ex for the final time because he was getting married to someone else and they were split due to tribal difficulties.

I struck her numerous times, and she was severely injured. I’d never done anything like that before, but I was hoping the DNA test was a mistake. It stung so much to realise that a boy I had thought was mine for 14 years wasn’t, and that she had lied to me for 14 years. The fact that I hit her became a domestic violence issue, and DOVVSU was called in because her family continued to report me after several conversations with my family.

We divorced two years ago because our marriage was no longer functioning. Every time I see the boy, I am reminded of how my ex-wife duped me into the marriage. But the boy, now 16, still refers to me as “Daddy.” He stated that I would always be his father, and although he lives with his mother, he visits me and does housework for me.

His biological father was notified. He is married with five children and is struggling right now. He is having financial difficulties and has stated that he does not want to have anything to do with his son. The boy’s mother is just apathetic and unconcerned. She is not working, and I am responsible for my two children, who alternate between being with their mother and visiting me.

The youngster came to my house and kneeled in front of me, pleading with me to continue being his father. He is in SHS and has been terminated several times for failing to pay his school fees. His mother wishes for him to drop out. I still adore the boy and want to care for him as my son. But, according to my acquaintance, it’s best if we push responsibility on the genuine father immediately.

My buddy feels that I will look after him and that when he grows up and becomes someone, his father will come and grab all the credit. He is currently writing my name right now. I want to continue to love and care for him as if he were my own kid. He can keep my name because his biological father does not care about him.

I want to know whether I’m making the proper choice. Thanks. Aside: I’d want to encourage all of my fellow males to conduct DNA tests on all of their children. It is inexpensive and will save you a lot of trouble in the long run. Take it from someone who has experienced it.