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If I divorce her, she’ll lose her Pastoral position but I don’t care because she listens to her Pastor more than me

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My wife and her entourage regard me as if I am some kind of devil sent to prevent her from answering God’s call. We both believe in God. We have raised our children in the Lord, and without Him, we would not have lasted 11 years of marriage. We attended the same church, but in 2019, one of our dear friends felt inspired to create a church. He told us about it, and I thanked him and respectfully denied his offer to accompany him out of the church. I’m fine where I am, and I’m helping in my own right. I’m not sure what he told my wife, but she immediately fell on board with his plan. My wife and I had severe conflicts about this matter, to the point that we had to attend church counselling sessions. They all persuaded her to stay since I, the husband, was not going. But she declined. She said that God was guiding her to our friend’s newly formed church. I hesitantly agreed to let her to salvage my marriage.

So she goes to church on Sundays, Thursdays, and Saturdays. There are many aspects of the scenario that I dislike, but I just ignore them since compromise is essential in every marriage, and as a man, you must ensure your wife’s happiness. The home was serene and everything was OK as long as she was pleased. Then, earlier this year, as we were about to go to bed, she informed me she was going to be ordained as a minister the following Sunday and that I needed to be there. I knew she was a devoted follower. I could see she adored God. But to think she’ll be ordained as a preacher without even consulting me was absurd. She had signed documents and gone through pastoral training without telling me anything. I was upset and did not attend.

The marriage has soured. We are not on the same page about this. We continue to have little disagreements here and there. My wife has been ordained as a minister at a church I have never visited. My children accompany me to church as well. Here comes the actual issue. My wife plans to establish a church branch in another area. She informed me about it back in March. I’m meant to leave my church with the kids and accompany her to the new location to help her develop and manage the new branch. This is a mandatory stipulation she agreed to because of her church’s regulations. A woman cannot lead a church branch if her husband and children are not there. She agreed to everything without even informing me. The most inconvenient aspect is that the area where we are intended to reside is an underdeveloped suburb in the Volta Region.

Here in Accra, I have well-paying work. Our two children attend good schools. We’re OK here. I’ve told my wife that I’ve made enough concessions for her and her needs. But this is something I will not compromise on. For the past few months, she has used every trick in the book to get me to join her in becoming the Volta Region’s chief pastor. My response has not changed. I’m not going anyplace with the kids. She is now free to leave. Several pastors from her church have visited our home to speak with me. When that didn’t work, they began using scriptures out of context to influence me into following my wife wherever she went. It’s all been mental anguish.

My wife has been given until the end of the year to persuade me to follow her, or else the post would be handed to someone else. In this marriage, there are three of us. My wife, her pastor, and I. She even looks up to the preacher more than I do. She hasn’t prepared anything for me or the kids in the last two weeks. I’ve been experimenting with Jollof in my manner. I’ve decided to divorce her. I won’t waste her time because she and I can’t agree on anything anymore. When I told her about my decision, she burst into tears. She said I was an opponent of development and God’s calling on her life. It just so happens that one of her church’s rules is that no divorcee may become a pastor. She will lose her position as a pastor if she divorces. My wife may not lead the aforementioned branch since I declined to accompany her. She is, however, still a minister in the church. She will lose her pastoral title the instant I divorce her.

To be honest, I dislike the mentioned church and its regulations. But look at how dedicated my wife is to them. Apart from her pastor, she does not listen to any other viewpoint. We used to go to church with the same person. I attempted to contact the pastor personally, but it took me days to reach him. The discussion produced no results. He accused me of letting the devil control me and urged me to join his church to be delivered. I left his office because I could see how deluded he had become. I’m about to begin divorce proceedings. But now, even the elders in my church are telling me that if I simply follow her to where she has been called to create a church, that may be God’s will. I’ve prayed about it. It’s not just a matter of following her. It’s about some of her church’s ideas and teachings that don’t sit well with me. I’ll read the comments. What should I do in this situation? I want to divorce her, but I want to be sure I’m not acting irrationally. Please help me make a decision.

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Woman confesses that her spouse always defecates in bed as he’s ready to ‘cum’

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"I've been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed. "We've tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it's too sweet and he can't contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex. "But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse."

A Ghanaian lady who is married to a “loving and responsible husband” is looking for help dealing with what she describes as “disgusting” sexual encounters with her spouse.

The married woman with two children has said that her husband always defecates in bed when he is at his height of ecstasy during sex.

Revealing her traumatic situation to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3, she stated that she is considering quitting her eleven-month marriage because she cannot bear it any longer.

“I’ve been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed.

“We’ve tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it’s too sweet and he can’t contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex.

“But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because, despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse,” she narrated.

According to her, the situation is impacting her mental health because all attempts to settle her issue have failed.

“I’m going through a lot because it makes me puke; mentally, I’m breaking down. I’m not sure whether to quit the marriage because we currently have two children. I tried every possible solution to the problem, but nothing worked,” she said.

She is presently seeking assistance to deal with the circumstance, as the problem is harming her mental health.

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I prefer to masturbate than have sex with my husband – Lady shares ordeal

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She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend. "Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand," she said Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

A Ghanaian woman has expressed her sexual discontent with her spouse.

The lady, whose identity has been kept hidden, told Confessions on TV3 that her spouse never stays in bed for more than two minutes.

She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend.

“Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand,” she said to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

Meanwhile, Life Coach Ebenezer Quaye, a guest on the show, encouraged lovers to share feedback to each other after participating in physical intimacy with their loved ones.

This, he argued, will inspire spouses to work on their sexual deficiencies.

“If you are having sex and do not receive feedback from your wife, there is a problem.” Wives should also provide feedback to their spouses. “It’s so nice and encouraging,” he commented.

He also gave some strategies for improving sexual shortcomings between lovers.

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How my husband sex trafficked me for 13 years

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When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party. "It's going to be fun." She said. "Sure. "I would love to." I didn't have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone's attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

I learned that life was unfair at an early age, and in the worst way conceivable. My stepfather used to sexually assault me, and when I eventually had the bravery to denounce him, he received only three months of treatment as punishment and was allowed to live with me again.

My mother brought him back for financial reasons, but she kept us apart. They slept below, while we slept above. Nevertheless, I was traumatised and lived in terror. As if I hadn’t gone through enough pain, I met a man who I believed loved me and who sex trafficked me.

When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party.

“It’s going to be fun.” She said.

“Sure. “I would love to.”

I didn’t have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone’s attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

“Hello, Greg. I invite you to meet my buddy Wendy. “Wendy, this is Greg.” She spoke to the guy.

Greg turned to me, smiled, and extended his hand before saying, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.”

At that point, my knees were weak. My heart began beating, and I couldn’t stop smiling.

“Can I get your number?” He asked.

“Sure,” I responded and handed it to him.

I didn’t expect him to call, but later that night he did, and we spoke for hours. That was the start of a relationship that led to my being sex trafficked.

Greg understood how to make me feel appreciated, which is all I wanted. We became amorous quickly, and I fell pregnant soon after. I had been under my mother’s care since I was 17 years old when I had my child. Greg demanded that I leave my mother’s house so that we could make our relationship work.

“How am I going to do that?” I asked.

“I’ve got a plan. You may relocate to a shelter, where they will consider you emancipated from your parents, and then you will be eligible for welfare checks, and we will be able to get an apartment and live happily ever after.” He explained.

At the time, it seemed like a fairy tale, and I was all in. I ran away from home, and Greg took me and my kid to a shelter. However, life at the shelter was not as easy as Greg made it appear.

It took long for me to receive my first welfare check, and I was running out of baby goods. So I contacted Greg and told him I needed money to take care of our child.

“Don’t worry, I have a job for us to do.” He said.

I assumed he meant cleaning people’s homes because that’s what he told me he did for money. So I picked up my kid and went to see him.

“What are we going to do?” I asked Greg.

“Well, you’re going to walk up this street, wait on that corner for a man to pick you up and you’ll have sex with that man in his car and he’ll pay you.” He explained without emotion.

I was perplexed and apprehensive, but he kept bringing up my daughter and insisting that if I loved her, I would do it. I felt like I had no option. My knees and hands shook as I proceeded to where he had instructed me to stand. As soon as I arrived, a car stopped in front of me, and the driver requested me to get in. That’s how my spouse started sex trafficking me.

“I know a place we can go in the woods.” He said.

I did not say anything. When we arrived in the woods, we both exited and walked to a private location where he began removing his clothing. I took off mine, we had sex, and he gave me the money before driving me back to where he had picked me up.

When I came out, I went to Greg, who was still standing in the same location and handed him all of the money.

“I love you.” I knew I had made the proper decision in choosing you as my wife. He said.

We went to purchase diapers and formula for the baby and had a little extra. However, a week later, we were out of diapers again.

That time, he encouraged me to take on two or three customers so that I might earn enough money to leave the shelter.

“Do you want your daughter to live in a shelter for the rest of her life?” He asked.

From there, he started one of the greatest prostitution networks in the region. It comprised four to ten females from various states. He sexually trafficked me for 13 years while I was still married to him. It varied from once a week to every other day, depending on how much money he received from the other females. I worked as a street girl, and escort, and made house calls. Not to add that I have two more children with him.

People continually questioned me why I stayed with him for so long, but no matter what I told them, they couldn’t comprehend what I was going through. Greg hooked us to drugs and physically abused us if we attempted to escape. He would also send the other girls to find any girl who had gone and beat her until she returned. I felt bonded to the other females since we weren’t permitted to have outside contact. So, anytime I managed to flee, I felt horrible and returned because I didn’t want them to suffer.

After 13 years, I was finally free of Greg. I had recently given birth and was in the kitchen making supper for us when I noticed police cruisers outside our house. The cops swooped in, arrested Greg, and detained me for interrogation.

However, I refused to talk to them because I was afraid Greg would beat me if he found out. Because I did not comply, they accused me of sex trafficking and sentenced me to 23 months in prison. Greg was also charged with sex trafficking and was sentenced to ten years in jail.

My children were removed while I was in prison, and because the judge in the custody case felt I was a sex trafficker, she promised that I would not be granted custody of my children. When I got out, I returned to school and earned an associate’s degree. In addition, I returned to the same judge who heard my custody case to request custody of my kid. I went with my attorneys, counsellors, and even the police officers who detained me to explain my situation to the court.

She returned my child to me, and I returned home to live with my mother, who sadly died later. Today, I feel comfortable and satisfied, which is a wonderful place to be. I’ve realised that there are individuals eager to help those who have faced the same hardships that I have, and if you’re going through anything similar, you don’t have to suffer alone or in silence.

This narrative is based on the Unfiltered Stories YouTube video.

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