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If I divorce her, she’ll lose her Pastoral position but I don’t care because she listens to her Pastor more than me

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My wife and her entourage regard me as if I am some kind of devil sent to prevent her from answering God’s call. We both believe in God. We have raised our children in the Lord, and without Him, we would not have lasted 11 years of marriage. We attended the same church, but in 2019, one of our dear friends felt inspired to create a church. He told us about it, and I thanked him and respectfully denied his offer to accompany him out of the church. I’m fine where I am, and I’m helping in my own right. I’m not sure what he told my wife, but she immediately fell on board with his plan. My wife and I had severe conflicts about this matter, to the point that we had to attend church counselling sessions. They all persuaded her to stay since I, the husband, was not going. But she declined. She said that God was guiding her to our friend’s newly formed church. I hesitantly agreed to let her to salvage my marriage.

So she goes to church on Sundays, Thursdays, and Saturdays. There are many aspects of the scenario that I dislike, but I just ignore them since compromise is essential in every marriage, and as a man, you must ensure your wife’s happiness. The home was serene and everything was OK as long as she was pleased. Then, earlier this year, as we were about to go to bed, she informed me she was going to be ordained as a minister the following Sunday and that I needed to be there. I knew she was a devoted follower. I could see she adored God. But to think she’ll be ordained as a preacher without even consulting me was absurd. She had signed documents and gone through pastoral training without telling me anything. I was upset and did not attend.

The marriage has soured. We are not on the same page about this. We continue to have little disagreements here and there. My wife has been ordained as a minister at a church I have never visited. My children accompany me to church as well. Here comes the actual issue. My wife plans to establish a church branch in another area. She informed me about it back in March. I’m meant to leave my church with the kids and accompany her to the new location to help her develop and manage the new branch. This is a mandatory stipulation she agreed to because of her church’s regulations. A woman cannot lead a church branch if her husband and children are not there. She agreed to everything without even informing me. The most inconvenient aspect is that the area where we are intended to reside is an underdeveloped suburb in the Volta Region.

Here in Accra, I have well-paying work. Our two children attend good schools. We’re OK here. I’ve told my wife that I’ve made enough concessions for her and her needs. But this is something I will not compromise on. For the past few months, she has used every trick in the book to get me to join her in becoming the Volta Region’s chief pastor. My response has not changed. I’m not going anyplace with the kids. She is now free to leave. Several pastors from her church have visited our home to speak with me. When that didn’t work, they began using scriptures out of context to influence me into following my wife wherever she went. It’s all been mental anguish.

My wife has been given until the end of the year to persuade me to follow her, or else the post would be handed to someone else. In this marriage, there are three of us. My wife, her pastor, and I. She even looks up to the preacher more than I do. She hasn’t prepared anything for me or the kids in the last two weeks. I’ve been experimenting with Jollof in my manner. I’ve decided to divorce her. I won’t waste her time because she and I can’t agree on anything anymore. When I told her about my decision, she burst into tears. She said I was an opponent of development and God’s calling on her life. It just so happens that one of her church’s rules is that no divorcee may become a pastor. She will lose her position as a pastor if she divorces. My wife may not lead the aforementioned branch since I declined to accompany her. She is, however, still a minister in the church. She will lose her pastoral title the instant I divorce her.

To be honest, I dislike the mentioned church and its regulations. But look at how dedicated my wife is to them. Apart from her pastor, she does not listen to any other viewpoint. We used to go to church with the same person. I attempted to contact the pastor personally, but it took me days to reach him. The discussion produced no results. He accused me of letting the devil control me and urged me to join his church to be delivered. I left his office because I could see how deluded he had become. I’m about to begin divorce proceedings. But now, even the elders in my church are telling me that if I simply follow her to where she has been called to create a church, that may be God’s will. I’ve prayed about it. It’s not just a matter of following her. It’s about some of her church’s ideas and teachings that don’t sit well with me. I’ll read the comments. What should I do in this situation? I want to divorce her, but I want to be sure I’m not acting irrationally. Please help me make a decision.

Source: Anonymous Confessions

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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend

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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend

I used to do fraud. Someone introduced it to my buddy, who then introduced it to me. The game has different stages. We were at the bottom of the game’s ladder, so we didn’t make much money, but the risk involved was excellent. Aside from the danger, you must labour every day in order to earn GHC500 every week.

We slept very little because our clients were all over the world, and because of the time difference, we had to stay awake in order to communicate with them. I had a major hit one day. I received GHC7,000 from a bargain and immediately purchased an iPhone for my girlfriend, Cynthia. She was aware that I was involved in fraud, yet she was uninterested. She became interested in the business when I gave her the iPhone and told her how I obtained it.

So when I had a customer who claimed to be a girl, Cynthia was the one who spoke to them. She was the one who set up the video calls. We were still struggling. We halted operations since the money was not flowing as promised.

Life was difficult for two jobless lovers. I couldn’t help her. I couldn’t help myself, so we relied on the generosity of friends who were succeeding in the game.

Ernest, a buddy of mine from Canada, came over one day, and we were all hanging around. Cynthia later informed me, “Your friend likes me.” He was licking his lips and staring at me in some way. Let’s go get some money from him. Tell him I’m not your girlfriend. Allow him to take me so we may obtain money from him.”

Ernest was formerly a player in the game. He went outdoors after getting money. I warned Cynthia Ernest that she might catch the hint, but she was so enthusiastic about collecting money that we gave it a shot. “Don’t let him sleep with you,” was the lone caution. Never.”

She brought me GHC 500 a week later. “He gave me 1,000 GHC.” “That’s your cut,” she explained.

Ernest was hiding the affair because he was afraid I would be upset if I found out he was seeing my sister. He was even concealing it from the team, but we were aware of what was going on.

He was here for a month, and we earned a lot of money.

He was still sending money after he left. Cynthia gave me my portion. I got a job and advised her not to see Ernest anymore. She didn’t give up. It escalated into a brawl, in which I threatened to let the cat out of the bag. “If you try it, you’ll go to jail,” she said. You know I’m familiar with all of your previous transactions. How much money can you offer me to get me to quit seeing Ernest?”

Cynthia is currently in Canada with Ernest, where they are having the time of their life. I tear up when I see their images. When I see these videos on Instagram, I want to kick them in the video.

Ernest finally understands reality. Cynthia, I believe, informed him in a way that she wouldn’t be held responsible, saying something like, “He gave me to you so we could get money from you, but I fell for you because you’re a good person.” That sort of thing.

I must confess, they had the final laugh. Cynthia informed me the last time I spoke with her, “If you stop being bitter, I will send you something small every month.” You don’t have to hate me since I don’t hate you.”

I bowed my head and kicked the bitterness out of my heart because money is money.

That girl is the only honest scammer there is. She maintained her promise. She occasionally sends me money. She’s gradually rebuilding the bridge between me and my old friend Ernest. She duped me, but I can’t really complain. I still have feelings for her but in a different manner. I adore her as someone who looks after me.

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I adore my husband, but I also love my boss

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I adore my husband, but I also love my boss

My spouse is fantastic. He’s a wonderful father to our children, and I adore him.

Everything went well till I saw my Boss for the first time lately. I had just recently begun working at my new workplace, therefore, I had never met the Boss in person. He was smitten with me from the moment he saw me. He knows I’m married and is fine with it.

He treats me like a lady and pays all of my bills. He pays for stuff I don’t even realise I need. I enjoy spending time with him. He makes me feel incredibly protected, and with him, the world may disappear for all I care.

He is not married and, in his own words, is eager to “be here” for me.

We are yet to have shuperu, but he kissed me last night before we split ways, and I’ve been craving his kiss all day. Not only have I been thinking about his kiss, but also about what it would be like to lay in bed with him and yield to his wishes.

I tell him how much it pains me to do this to my husband, and he says, “Don’t worry. Everything will be well. He can’t be harmed by what he doesn’t know.”

He has a knack of getting under my skin emotionally. Only my husband has been able to reach me in the same manner that my employer has, and it makes me want to keep him—keep him and keep my husband.

My spouse just refers to him as my Boss. If he finds out, he would undoubtedly break down and break up with me, therefore I’ve learnt not to leave any evidence. I’m in a state of confusion right now. Confused because my husband needs to hurt me or treat me horribly in order for me to fall in love with someone else, but in this situation, everything is perfect between us, but I still long for someone new.

I desperately need my job, therefore I don’t want to offend my employer. This is the only job I’ve ever had that pays above and above my expectations. I simply cannot afford to lose it. Aside from that, I want my employer and I need my husband. I wish there was a way for the two to coexist.

The gravity of the situation is that, since meeting my employer, shuperu with my spouse has become a responsibility for me. I make myself available to him, but I don’t feel anything. It’s similar to the fable of the brook and the stone. What effect may the stream have on the stone? Nothing. He’s doing it, and I’m thinking about my employer. I am aware that I require assistance.

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Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle

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Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle

A heartbroken lady has hauled her lover, Hassan Umar, to a Kano magistrates’ court for having dumped her after spending N900,000 on him.

In court, the woman’s counsel said that the defendant claimed he was in love with his client and that they had agreed to marry.

However, after spending the money on him, Umar abandoned her and stopped seeing her.

The defendant, on the other hand, pled not guilty to the accusations, explaining that it was merely a relationship that did not survive the test of time.

Following the reading of the charges, the Magistrate requested that both sides produce their witnesses for the next postponed session.

Addressing journalists after the court sitting, the woman said:

“I doubt he didn’t charm me. Whatever he asked me I did it instantly. I cooked different types of food for him, including chicken, meat, and even two rams.

“I spent over N900,000 on him. But from there, he started showing me as if he didn’t care. Later he stopped coming to me.”

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