My wife and her entourage regard me as if I am some kind of devil sent to prevent her from answering God’s call. We both believe in God. We have raised our children in the Lord, and without Him, we would not have lasted 11 years of marriage. We attended the same church, but in 2019, one of our dear friends felt inspired to create a church. He told us about it, and I thanked him and respectfully denied his offer to accompany him out of the church. I’m fine where I am, and I’m helping in my own right. I’m not sure what he told my wife, but she immediately fell on board with his plan. My wife and I had severe conflicts about this matter, to the point that we had to attend church counselling sessions. They all persuaded her to stay since I, the husband, was not going. But she declined. She said that God was guiding her to our friend’s newly formed church. I hesitantly agreed to let her to salvage my marriage.
So she goes to church on Sundays, Thursdays, and Saturdays. There are many aspects of the scenario that I dislike, but I just ignore them since compromise is essential in every marriage, and as a man, you must ensure your wife’s happiness. The home was serene and everything was OK as long as she was pleased. Then, earlier this year, as we were about to go to bed, she informed me she was going to be ordained as a minister the following Sunday and that I needed to be there. I knew she was a devoted follower. I could see she adored God. But to think she’ll be ordained as a preacher without even consulting me was absurd. She had signed documents and gone through pastoral training without telling me anything. I was upset and did not attend.
The marriage has soured. We are not on the same page about this. We continue to have little disagreements here and there. My wife has been ordained as a minister at a church I have never visited. My children accompany me to church as well. Here comes the actual issue. My wife plans to establish a church branch in another area. She informed me about it back in March. I’m meant to leave my church with the kids and accompany her to the new location to help her develop and manage the new branch. This is a mandatory stipulation she agreed to because of her church’s regulations. A woman cannot lead a church branch if her husband and children are not there. She agreed to everything without even informing me. The most inconvenient aspect is that the area where we are intended to reside is an underdeveloped suburb in the Volta Region.
Here in Accra, I have well-paying work. Our two children attend good schools. We’re OK here. I’ve told my wife that I’ve made enough concessions for her and her needs. But this is something I will not compromise on. For the past few months, she has used every trick in the book to get me to join her in becoming the Volta Region’s chief pastor. My response has not changed. I’m not going anyplace with the kids. She is now free to leave. Several pastors from her church have visited our home to speak with me. When that didn’t work, they began using scriptures out of context to influence me into following my wife wherever she went. It’s all been mental anguish.
My wife has been given until the end of the year to persuade me to follow her, or else the post would be handed to someone else. In this marriage, there are three of us. My wife, her pastor, and I. She even looks up to the preacher more than I do. She hasn’t prepared anything for me or the kids in the last two weeks. I’ve been experimenting with Jollof in my manner. I’ve decided to divorce her. I won’t waste her time because she and I can’t agree on anything anymore. When I told her about my decision, she burst into tears. She said I was an opponent of development and God’s calling on her life. It just so happens that one of her church’s rules is that no divorcee may become a pastor. She will lose her position as a pastor if she divorces. My wife may not lead the aforementioned branch since I declined to accompany her. She is, however, still a minister in the church. She will lose her pastoral title the instant I divorce her.
To be honest, I dislike the mentioned church and its regulations. But look at how dedicated my wife is to them. Apart from her pastor, she does not listen to any other viewpoint. We used to go to church with the same person. I attempted to contact the pastor personally, but it took me days to reach him. The discussion produced no results. He accused me of letting the devil control me and urged me to join his church to be delivered. I left his office because I could see how deluded he had become. I’m about to begin divorce proceedings. But now, even the elders in my church are telling me that if I simply follow her to where she has been called to create a church, that may be God’s will. I’ve prayed about it. It’s not just a matter of following her. It’s about some of her church’s ideas and teachings that don’t sit well with me. I’ll read the comments. What should I do in this situation? I want to divorce her, but I want to be sure I’m not acting irrationally. Please help me make a decision.
Source: Anonymous Confessions
