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“I’m engaged, but my fiance has just admitted to having an affair”



"I'm engaged, but my fiance has just admitted to having an affair"

Dear Coleen,

I’ve been with my boyfriend since 2016, and we got engaged a year ago. We’re getting married in August.

Although, like most couples, we’ve had ups and downs, I’d say our relationship has been good and we’re close.

So I was taken aback when he recently admitted to having a brief affair two years after we met, while I was away visiting my sister.

He said it as if it didn’t matter because it didn’t, and our relationship was still in its early stages.

It wasn’t, because we’d been seeing each other for two years!

He claims it was with a girl he met at work and lasted only a couple of weeks.

To be honest, I’m not sure what to believe anymore because my trust in him has been shattered; it’s as if I don’t even know him.

He claims it’s been eating at him, and he didn’t want to walk down the aisle and say his vows without telling me.

He wouldn’t say much about the girl other than that she left the company and he hasn’t kept in touch with her.

I’m broken and have been crying myself to sleep. How am I going to marry him now?

No one in our family is aware of this, and it would break their hearts.

I’m furious at him and need advice on how to deal with it.

Coleen says

Now that he’s done a big guilt dump, you have to deal with it.

I’m sure he’s relieved the cat’s out of the bag and is hoping you’ll just move on and that’ll be the end of it. We all know (except him) that it’s not that simple!

Make it clear that you will never be able to trust him again unless he starts telling you what happened and why.

He can’t expect you to happily walk down the aisle and marry him unless you unpack this and feel confident that you can move on while still wanting to be with him.

Putting the wedding plans on hold or rescheduling the date will give you the time you need to work it out.

I’d also recommend relationship therapy to help with the process. And don’t be concerned about upsetting your friends and family – you can’t have a wedding just to please others.

Marriage is a significant step, and you must be certain that your heart is in it and that he is fully committed before you both take the plunge.

Without a looming deadline, you need time to figure out what you want.

Don’t feel obligated to marry, and don’t do it unless it’s truly what you both want. Best of luck


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Woman impregnated by a 13-year-old who called her “mom” sentenced to 3 months in prison




Woman impregnated by a 13-year-old who called her "mom" sentenced to 3 months in prison

A lady from Colorado who admitted to having intercourse with a 13-year-old boy and then bearing his kid will serve only 90 days in prison for her acts.

Last June, police in Fountain, Colorado, roughly 15 miles south of Colorado Springs, started looking into a tip from a local therapist who claimed one of her clients had sexually abused a 13-year-old boy. Their inquiry swiftly led them to Andrea Serrano, 31, who was characterised as “a mother figure” to the youngster in the criminal document. The youngster was apparently living with Serrano at the time and had even addressed her as “mom,” according to the affidavit.

Serrano was apparently under the effect of alcohol at the time of their sexual contact, while the youngster was under the influence of marijuana. In Serrano’s car, they had sex.

On July 5, Serrano was arrested and charged with sexual assault against a child and sexual assault against a kid under the age of 15 by a person in a position of trust. Serrano apparently confessed to the severely inappropriate sexual relationship, however, she would have found it impossible to deny the relationship given that she had also become pregnant as a result of it. She gave birth to the boy’s child since then.

Serrano’s defence team reached a plea agreement with prosecutors in February. Serrano pled guilty to incest rather than sexual assault charges, and prosecutors recommended that she serve no jail time in exchange. She would, however, be required to register as a sex offender for at least ten years, if not the remainder of her life.

The victim’s mother was incensed at the idea of Serrano avoiding prison time for such a horrific crime. “She sexually abused my 13-year-old son.” “She introduced him to drugs; she should be locked up,” the woman told Judge William Moller at the time. Despite her reservations, Moller first approved the plea bargain that would have allowed Serrano to avoid jail time.

“I feel like if she was a man and he was a little girl, it would definitely be different. They would be seeking more,” the woman later said publicly. “I feel like because he is not a woman, they are not. They are having compassion for her.”

Moller, however, altered his mind at a sentencing hearing on Thursday and opted to sentence Serrano to time behind bars after all. She is now required to serve 90 days, albeit she was given credit for the seven days she had previously served. She also does not need to report to jail for a week in order to get her affairs in order, including securing interim custody of her children. She is currently caring for the victim’s infant, though the victim’s family is fighting to gain custody.

Serrano did apologise for her behaviour when her opportunity to speak at one of the hearings. “I just want to say I’m sorry,” she allegedly added, addressing her apology to both the victim and his family, as well as her own. Though she pled guilty to incest, it is unclear whether Serrano and the victim are related or whether she was permitted to plead guilty to incest because the victim was living with Serrano at the time and considered her a mother figure.

Serrano has a history of child abuse and misdemeanour violation of a protection order. The status of those instances is unknown.

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My wife does not look after me, therefore I have a side chick




My wife does not look after me, therefore I have a side chick

Tee has been isolated in his marriage for the past eight years. According to the husband and father of four, his wife does not fulfil her duties as the lady of the house.

Tee said on Joy FM’s Super Morning Show that he is a responsible guy who provides everything required for his home, but that his wife does not keep her half of the agreement.

The condition, which he claims has been going on for eight years, has sapped the marriage of any romance.

He told co-host Kojo Yankson that he feels unloved in his marriage.

“I’m a very responsible man, I have a wife and I sometimes ask her to do something for me, my intention is not to stress her, but she’ll tell ‘I don’t have time.’ This has been happening for a long time.”

“As a responsible man you go around and do everything for the family and the woman you decide to be with treats you as if you are a child staying with her,” he narrated.

Tee says the incident is what drove him to seek solace outside of his marriage.

Tee described how he met the second woman, dubbed “side chick,” by saying he was usually buying food outdoors and this lady voiced worry.

Tee claimed the lady, who was only a friend at the time, has now taken on the duty to ensure he is well-fed and cared for, though he didn’t say why.

“I’m not saying that it is a behaviour that everyone should do but sometimes the behaviour of some wives to push men into this behaviour. Men are like kids, if you don’t give your child food to eat, he will go somewhere to eat,” he said.

He went on to say that, while he has no desire to cheat on his marriage, his wife’s actions has steadily driven him away.

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My husband is impotent and I am having an affair




My husband is impotent and I am having an affair

I’ve been married for four years, and my spouse lives in another country. Our marriage was not consummated after our wedding, and he returned to his job in another country. I returned to India. When he returned after 10 months, I recognised he was medically unsuitable to have sex. My spouse is sterile.

I discovered I was in a sexless marriage. It was quite disheartening to see how inept he was. I attempted to ask him about his problem and if we could talk about it, but he is not interested in talking about it. Is impotence a cause of divorce?

I’ve heard that erectile dysfunction leads to divorce. But I had no idea how to deal with my impotent spouse and sexless marriage because there was no way to communicate about it. How might I assist my hubby with his impotence? I had no idea since he had made the subject of sex completely off-limits.

Because of my husband’s impotence, I’m having an affair.

I am now in a relationship with another individual who sexually delights me. I had no choice but to become involved since I couldn’t stand my sexless marriage any longer. I understand that erectile problems and wife affairs are frequent, but I am unable to deal with the stress this is causing me.

However, I am quite concerned about this connection. Please provide a solution. How should I proceed? Is it possible to heal an impotent man?

Dear Perplexed Lady,

I absolutely understand your disappointment at not being able to finalise your marriage. But did this scenario arise after the wedding, or was it present from the start?

What you could do is as follows.

Is the husband’s medical condition irreversible?

Is your husband’s medical condition, in which he is physically unable to have sex, permanent? If you answered yes, you should consider what you desire. Can you live with this for the rest of your life?

If you can get your husband, who I know is unwilling to talk with you about this, to consult a therapist, he could open up about the problem.

Stress, trauma, or medicine that he is taking can all cause erectile dysfunction. If he consults a doctor or a sexologist, there may be some hope at the end of the tunnel.

An affair provides momentary relief.

While you have been indulging your sexual need with another individual, keep in mind that you still have a husband to return to. Living a double life causes tension and worry. Something you’re already unable to handle. If your affair continues for an extended period of time, it may cause more worry than pleasure.

To stay married or to divorce

You’ve been married for four years, and your husband lives far away. If your bodily requirements are not satisfied, this may not offer you anything in the long term. Please consult with the family elders and seek their support after making a choice.

Yes, erectile dysfunction and an unfinished marriage might be grounds for divorce, but you should consult with a lawyer about this.

Remember, this is your life. Seek answers rather than difficulties. There is no doubt that living a sexless marriage is difficult, but having an affair is not a solution.

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