My fiancee is a very beautiful, intelligent a hardworking woman, very supportive and every man’s dream woman. She is the churchy type, and my problem is, she’s very religious and spiritual.
She initiated no sex before marriage which I agree(although we’ve had a couple of sex in the past) but I don’t have a problem with our new initiative about sex – it’s the right thing though.
Here is the whole drama: when you call her, say in the morning, she’ll be like; “Kwabena have you done your morning devotion?
“You need to talk to God first even before calling me cos He is your first love”. I’d have to hang the call.
When you’re stepping out for work or already at work, she will be like, “Kwabena, did you do your morning devotion today?
“How many hours did you pray? And so on”…
When she visits me, no be small social distancing we dey do for there oo…”gyae”! You dare not touch her or try to be a bit romantic. it’s more like a prayer conference at home.
To my knowledge, I’m a “at least”, a good Christian, and worship leader and a music director too. I believe I have a personal relationship with God, I fear God, I pray and do my normal religious responsibilities as a normal Christian.
Moreover, I believe relationship/marriage is different from one’s personal relationship with God, and must not interfere with relationship as though the other person is imposing on the other.
I do really love her, and I’m faithful to her – and it’s her alone I am with. But the issue is I feel she’s overly religious dodo!! She makes me feel like my pastor hasn’t taught me anything better or, all that I was trained with, pertaining my Christian life is archaic.
I am a very calm/gentle-like person, who believes in having a personal intimacy with God; hence I pray softly and keenly. But this my wife-to-be wants me to “blast in tongues” as she normally says it anytime we are together and praying. I once visited her church for an all night, not knowing she was monitoring me during the prayer session. And she was like; “you’re too gentle when you’re praying. You need to clap your hands and blast in tongues like you’re crazy, honey”
I have a feeling she’s imposing “too much” religion on me, and I can’t match her standard/ religious expectation since she’s not willing to accept my Christian faith just as calm as I am.
She claims I’m a good man and I’m all that she prayed for in a man, but my spirituality is her problem.
Family, I’m beginning to get tired and confused since she doesn’t want accept me for who I am. I want to end this whole relationship thing. Or I am overreacting?
Please I need advice.
