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I’m Going To Use The Money I Saved For Marriage To Take Care Of My Side Chick

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I found Abena when I was in my fourth year at the University. She was in her second year. We had a three-day training program on campus and she was there throughout.

That was where she caught my attention, very elegant and eloquent. When we talked the first time, she gave me the impression of a woman who doesn’t have time for men. As time went on, she mellowed until we became good friends.

Being friends with her wasn’t the final destination but it gave me the opportunity to know who she really was and what her dreams were. She didn’t want so much in life; “Just to make it in my chosen career and build a family I can come home to when my career stresses me.’

Apart from the love I had for her, I also fell in love with her approach to life, very firm but easygoing when you get to know her very well. When it came to the expression of feelings, she always had a poker face on.

I couldn’t tell how she was feeling for me. Unlike me, my emotions were all over the place and at any given opportunity, I let her know that I loved her. One day I stopped acting it out and spoke my mind; “I want you to be my girlfriend.

That’s what I’d always wanted right from the beginning. Here I am, telling you what’s on my heart for you. What do you say?”

Her answer was, “OK.”

“OK? OK, what?”

“You said you want me to be your girlfriend, right? So OK.”

“Meaning you’ve accepted my proposal?”

“That’s exactly what OK means.’

A semester later, I completed school and left campus. We were both scared. We thought we were going to lose what we had.

We were just budding lovers and were scared the new weather in our lives was going to shrink our leaves. We made promises. Promises like, “I won’t leave you, no matter what. I will do everything to have us together instead of apart.”

We kept the promises. We were apart but always found ways and means to be connected with each other. I had started a new job in a town not too far from Accra when the lockdown was announced. Two days before the lockdown, she packed her things and travelled to lock down with me.

That should have been the happiest day of our lives but I started noticing behaviours that made it difficult for me to see a future in her.

Abena will sleep until she smells the aroma of what I was cooking before she will wake up. She’ll eat and leave the dishes there until I tell her to clean them. We stayed for almost two weeks, she never cleaned anything in the house.

My room shared a toilet and bath with two other tenants so cleaning the washroom and toilet was shared responsibility. My co-tenants had their girlfriends doing it for them whenever it was their turn but when it got to my turn, I had to go and clean it myself. She saw me doing it but didn’t care. It was like that until she finally left.

I loved her too much to call her behaviour a red flag. I told myself, “When we marry, I will mould her to suit the needs of the marriage.” I proposed marriage to her last year and she accepted. I thought that will change her but it didn’t.

She’ll visit me and won’t touch anything until I complain. Her latest excuse is, “I love it when my man does things like that for me. It makes me feel loved.” I asked her, “Does it mean it’s going to remain like this after marriage?” She told me, “Of course not. Marriage is different. It’s a lifetime thing so I can’t watch my husband do all that for me every day until death do us part.

I still loved her and couldn’t imagine my world without her in it. In March this year, we did our knocking rite and started preparing for marriage.

Currently, we don’t live together. She works in a different region but we see each other twice a month. When there’s a long holiday, we spend it together.

Not too long ago, I met a young lady in town and we became friends. She’s a twenty-three-years old pupils’ teacher in a school not far from where I work. Our friendship didn’t last. At some point, emotions developed and I proposed to her and she accepted. It’s this lady who’s currently turning my world around. She’s the one whose attitude is telling me that I deserve better than I already have in Abena.

The first time she came to my house, she told me, “Allow me to fix this place for you.” She wasn’t even my girlfriend then. Just within an hour, my room was looking like a new place I’d rented. The following weekend, Abena came to visit. She saw my room and said, “For the first in our relationship, you cleaned your room in anticipation of my visit. You deserve two rounds for that.”

By the time she was leaving, my place was in a mess again. I had to push her before she would clean the kitchen she herself used. It’s not like that with my new girlfriend. I don’t have to say anything. When she comes around, everything looks better. My life gets a different rhythm in her presence. She’s very hardworking, just that her family doesn’t have it so she’s having it tough in life.

She wants to go to university but there’s no money. It’s the reason she’s teaching to raise money for school. I am saving for marriage. Every penny I put down has marriage written on it but the woman I’m going to marry isn’t worth it. Slowly, my mind has shifted to this new girl and she’s the one I want to settle down with.

I told her the other time, “When the forms come out, I will buy them for you. Whatever you have, I’ll top up for you to go to school and I’ll help until you’re done.” I’m determined to use the money I’m saving for marriage to help this new girl to go to school.

Usually, my conscience pricks me when I’m doing something wrong but this time around, I don’t feel any guilt whatsoever about what I’m about to do. This new girl is the helper that I need to make it in this life.

Abena wants a man who will clean after her while she’s busy queening around. I’m not that man. I’m ready to help but not to the extent that Abena wants it.

My only problem now is how to let Abena go. We’ve come far, especially with the knocking that we did. Family is involved now and it complicates things a little bit.

Her parents love me like their own. They will call me every now and then to tell me that they’re praying for me. Her mom will tell me, “I know God is working miracles in your life. Very soon, it will manifest for us to have a great wedding and a beautiful marriage.

God is fighting on your side so don’t worry.” Her dad too will often call and give me the same motivation. My parents are so in love with Abena that I don’t think I can change their minds that easily.

If I even succeed to make them understand, I don’t think they’ll open their hearts wholly to the next woman in my life. They’ll forever see her as the woman who I left Abena for and that ain’t fair to this new girl.

How do I make things easy? How do I calm all the hearts involved in this issue after I’d told them what’s on my mind? That’s my trouble now. Please help me to decide.

Source: Silent Beads

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Things to think about before breaking a Guinness World Record

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Breaking a Guinness World Record is a difficult but rewarding endeavour that demands thorough organisation and execution. Aspiring record-breakers may improve their chances of success and create a memorable experience for themselves and others who witness their amazing exploits by taking into account the criteria described above. Remember that breaking a record is about motivating others to push their boundaries and strive for greatness as well as attaining a personal milestone.

The desire to pursue or break records captivated many people in 2023, with some reaching viral fame while others went disregarded.

However, attempting such exploits needs considerable preparation outside of the spotlight.

Before going on a record-breaking adventure, consider the following factors:

Think About Your Health

The pursuit of a record sometimes necessitates considerable physical and mental effort. Before embarking on such endeavours, it is critical to analyse your existing health situation. Consider the toll it may have on your body, since inconsistent sleep patterns and hard exercise regimens may hurt your health.

Take into account the available resources

Record-breaking attempts have financial ramifications. Determine if you have the means or funding to support your endeavour. Consider the price of a decent automobile, gasoline, maintenance, and other necessary expenses for certain records, such as a drive-a-thon.

Think about what you’ll get out of it

Recognise the motivation behind your ambition to set or break a record. Common motives include recognition, personal fulfilment, and promotional chances for your company. If the prospective rewards coincide with your objectives, it may be a worthwhile endeavour. However, if the endeavour does not provide real rewards, you should reassess your commitment.

Take a look at the rules and regulations

Each record category frequently comes with a set of regulations and guidelines established by organisations such as Guinness World Records. Learn about these rules and restrictions. Check that you can follow the regulations, as failing to do so may result in disqualification. Wasting time and effort on a project that does not fit the requirements yields an unsatisfactory result.

Prepare for a Positive or Negative Outcome

Understand that not every attempt to break a record will result in immediate success or fame. Prepare for the consequences, whether success, failure, or a lack of attention. Consider how the experience, whether you win or lose, may help you with personal development, skill development, or other elements of your life.

Setting off on a voyage to establish or break a record is admirable, but it takes careful planning and deliberation.

You may make an informed selection and boost your chances of a successful and enjoyable record-breaking event by carefully assessing these elements.

Conclusion

Breaking a Guinness World Record is a difficult but rewarding endeavour that demands thorough organisation and execution. Aspiring record-breakers may improve their chances of success and create a memorable experience for themselves and others who witness their amazing exploits by taking into account the criteria described above. Remember that breaking a record is about motivating others to push their boundaries and strive for greatness as well as attaining a personal milestone.

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Consumers of pepper soup enjoy longer lives

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Food containing 3% chilli powder, on the other hand, reduced the longevity of male cohorts by 9%. According to a study of diet and mortality data from four big, multinational studies, ingestion of chilli peppers may lower the relative risk of cardiovascular disease mortality by 26%, according to a previous research by the American Heart Association (2020). Chilli pepper usage was related with a 25% reduction in all-cause mortality and a 23% reduction in cancer mortality when compared to persons who never or only seldom ingested chilli pepper.

Consumers of pepper soup should rejoice. A recent study by Semaniuk et al.(2022) found that eating chilli peppers regularly, whether in soup or other forms, increases life span.

Chilli pepper fruits do contain phenolic compounds that are structurally similar to those that have anti-ageing activities.

Chilli powder given to diet at doses of 0.04%-0.12% significantly increased the median longevity of fruit fly cohorts of both genders by 9% to 13%.

Food containing 3% chilli powder, on the other hand, reduced the longevity of male cohorts by 9%.

According to a study of diet and mortality data from four big, multinational studies, ingestion of chilli peppers may lower the relative risk of cardiovascular disease mortality by 26%, according to previous research by the American Heart Association (2020).

Chilli pepper usage was related to a 25% reduction in all-cause mortality and a 23% reduction in cancer mortality when compared to persons who never or only seldom ingested chilli pepper.

This research piqued my interest in Nigerian pepper soup and Ghanaian light soups with spicy spices. For example, Jiang TA(2019) discovered that frequent consumption of spicy meals was also associated with a decreased risk of mortality from cancer, ischemic heart disease, and respiratory system disorders.

However, the real effect of spices and herbs in health maintenance, especially in preventing the development of chronic, noncommunicable illnesses, is still unknown.

Nigerian pepper soup has a rush of natural flavours and spices that excite your culinary senses and put your hunger right. It is quite adaptable since it can be created using a variety of meaty meats such as turkey, chicken, fish, and even our nutrient-dense offals.

Adegoke et al. (2015) conducted a study to assess customer perceptions of the gastronomic, social, and health characteristics of pepper soup. A systematic questionnaire was utilised to determine the reasons for eating pepper soup, the chosen type of pepper soup, the social setting for pepper soup consumption, beverage accompaniment preferred with pepper soup, and food categories preferred as accompaniment with pepper soup.

It also assessed people’s perceptions of the stated health advantages of pepper soup’s ingredients. According to the poll, respondents ate pepper soup on a weekly and occasional basis for enjoyment (68.3%) and relaxation (55.8%).

90.2, 85.9, 90.2, and 92% of respondents liked catfish, goat meat, chicken, and cow tail as the meaty components in their pepper soup, respectively.

Colour, texture, and flavour preferences were light or dark brown, thick or light, and peppery and spicy. 97% of respondents chose hot pepper soup, while 65.8% preferred warm pepper soup.

Respondents (66.3 and 79%) chose beer and wine with their pepper soup, whereas 75.9 and 90.7% selected non-alcoholic beverages as accompaniments, respectively, carbonated beverages and juices or mineral water.

The majority of respondents (60.5 8.52%) strongly disagreed that pepper soup held the majority of the health advantages associated with herbs, spices, and other pepper soup elements, showing that pepper soup may not be taken for its claimed therapeutic value.

The nutritional value of pepper soup is usually dependent on the components used in its preparation. The spices and condiments utilised have shown to be useful in medicinal treatments.

Pepper soup is a nutrient-dense, nutritious food. The soup is low in calories and fat, and it’s high in protein.

Pepper soup has a lot of vitamins and minerals, including vitamin C, iron, and potassium. Pepper soup is not only nutritious, but it is also tasty and simple to prepare. You may make the soup using chicken, goat meat, or yams. Spice the pepper soup to taste.

An article in the Tribune by Eunice Olaleye(2022) stated that a scientific evaluation by Dr Heben’s team on DrHealthBenefits.com concluded that the soup does assist in managing heart rate.

It also aids in blood pressure regulation, preventing it from becoming dangerously high or low. In other terms, it aids in blood pressure stabilisation.

Because pepper soup is an antioxidant, it also drives away free radicals that might cause cancer (Nwose EU, 2009; Agbor et al., 2019).

Pepper soup might help you recover from a cold or cough. There are various therapeutic benefits that you should be aware of.

The soup is also beneficial in chilly weather, according to the author. Hot and spicy pepper soup is crucial for keeping your body warm. It’s a win-win situation. You enjoy your pepper soup while also warming up your body.

According to youmustgethealthy.com, the elements in pepper soup are what make it healthy. Pepper soup contains unripe plantain, fresh catfish, cow skin, beef, or goat meat, which not only tastes good but also contains anti-oxidants.

Consuming pepper soup is one strategy to maintain proper vitamin intake while being hydrated. Because of the spicy nature, one tends to drink a lot of water.

Key Takeaways

According to the literature, pepper soup with local spices has several health advantages. According to a review of diet and mortality data from four major, multinational studies, intake of peppers or spicy spices may lower the relative risk of cardiovascular disease death by 26%, according to the American Heart Association(2020). Chilli pepper usage was related to a 25% reduction in all-cause mortality and a 23% reduction in cancer mortality when compared to persons who never or only seldom ingested chilli pepper.

With this knowledge, fans of spicy spices may include them in their diets in any way to improve their health.

NB: Prof. Nyarkotey follows stringent source requirements and bases his articles on peer-reviewed studies, academic research institutes, and medical societies. My posts are for educational purposes only and do not constitute medical advice for treatment. My goal is to educate the public about scientific evidence-based Naturopathic Therapies.

The author is a Naturopathic Healthcare Professor, a Medical Journalist, and a scientific writer. Professor40naturopathy@gmail.com is the email address.

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Accra College of Education: History, Programs and Location

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Accra College of Education is a leader in teacher education, educating the next generation of educators who will play a critical role in shaping the minds of Ghana's children. With a commitment to quality, a long history, and a devotion to comprehensive education, the institution continues to have a significant effect on the Accra and beyond education sectors.

Accra College of Education is a notable teacher education college in Ghana, located in the Eastern or Greater Accra zone. Following the Colleges of Education Act of 2012 (Act 847), the college was upgraded to tertiary status, allowing it to issue degrees in Basic Education. The university recently welcomed 321 new students into its academic community, demonstrating the institution’s ongoing involvement in creating the next generation of educators.

The college’s dedication to practical, scientific-based education is seen in projects such as “Experiment Share,” which attempts to improve science instruction through engaging and exciting live experiments.

History and Background

Accra College of Education’s long history and commitment to educational quality have positioned it as a significant role in Ghana’s teacher training and growth. The institution’s programmes and activities, as well as its cutting-edge Teaching and Learning Resource Centre, highlight its continual efforts to improve teacher education quality and foster creative, practice-based learning.

The college’s willingness to adapt to the changing demands of the education sector, emphasis on practical teaching techniques, and excellent leadership under Dr. Samuel Awinkene Atintono, Principal, highlight its importance in the field of teacher education in Ghana.

Accra College of Education continues to play an important role in defining the country’s educational future by providing prospective teachers with the information, skills, and practical experience required to flourish in their careers.

Academic Programs

Accra College of Education is well-known for its wide range of academic programmes for prospective educators. The institution provides a Bachelor of Education (B.Ed.) programme that is aimed to provide students with the information, skills, and pedagogical strategies necessary for effective teaching. The programme frequently includes specialisations in many fields, allowing students to focus on their individual areas of interest.

Furthermore, the institution may offer diploma programmes in education, which would provide an alternate avenue for students seeking a more condensed teacher training programme.

Faculty and Staff

The quality of any educational institution’s faculty and staff is directly related to its success. Accra College of Education is proud of its staff of passionate educators and professionals who are not only specialists in their disciplines but also dedicated to building a supportive learning environment. The faculty frequently engages in research and intellectual endeavours that help to develop education in Ghana.

Campus Facilities

Accra College of Education provides a welcoming learning environment with cutting-edge technology to improve the entire student experience. These may include well-equipped classrooms, scientific and computer laboratories, a library with pertinent materials, and recreational areas where students may relax.

Campus Life

The institution emphasises a comprehensive approach to education, recognising that the college experience goes beyond the classroom. Accra College of Education has a bustling campus life that includes a variety of extracurricular activities, organisations, and events. These programmes allow kids to gain leadership skills, create long-lasting friendships, and participate in community service.

Partnerships and Collaborations

Accra College of Education frequently forms alliances and collaborations with other educational institutions, both nationally and worldwide, in order to keep informed of educational breakthroughs and global best practices. These collaborations may enable student exchange programmes, collaborative research projects, and faculty development opportunities.

Contributions to Education

Accra College of Education has made important contributions to Ghana’s education landscape by generating a cadre of trained and competent teachers who go on to serve in a variety of positions within the education sector. The college’s effect extends beyond its campus, impacting the quality of education in schools and communities across the country.

Conclusion

Accra College of Education is a leader in teacher education, educating the next generation of educators who will play a critical role in shaping the minds of Ghana’s children. With a commitment to quality, a long history, and a devotion to comprehensive education, the institution continues to have a significant effect on Accra and beyond education sectors.

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