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I’ve Done Two Abortions For Him But He Wants To Marry My Younger Sister

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I never thought I would be one of those people who put my story out but my heart is breaking beyond what I can take and I urgently need advice. If there was ever a time that I could curse men it would be now. Never in my life have I felt so let down and betrayed in my life. This is my story.

When I was in senior high school, I wasn’t one of the girls you see running around with the other girls looking for big men to sponsor them. I couldn’t do that. I wasn’t going to be used and dumped. Never. I kept my virginity throughout SSS and even through all of the university. There were a lot of suitors and potential boyfriends and to be honest, s*x was the only thing on their minds. They’d just use marriage as an excuse to get into your pants. Ghanaian men are like that, they think if they mention marriage, it removes the padlock to your underwear. It wasn’t going to work on me.

Not focusing on men brought be a lot of joy especially career-wise. Working in a bank and giving it all my attention meant that my bosses loved my productivity. I didn’t have all of those baby daddy issues, breakup stress and marriage issues. Don’t get me wrong but I was happy for my friends who were paired up. It just wasn’t what I was interested in. My nickname was “Career Woman” and if you think your parents are worrying you about getting married because you’re getting too old, you should meet mine.

I am sure my parents could have had another child within the time they were pressuring me to have one. Anyway, in the course of my rounds one day I went to one of our branches to perform a risk assessment. The minute I entered, I realized there were too many people waiting to be served but there was an old woman in particular who was standing in the queue. She badly needed to sit but it took the outburst of this young guy to cause someone to give up their seat. I found it very charming of him as you don’t see many acts of chivalry of late especially when it comes to men. It was a coincidence that I met him on the way home and offered him a lift. He was still in university at the time so I took him to campus.

We had a very interesting conversation and he came across as very mature even his thinking and he was only 22!

We grew close after that, I became his mentor and even helped him pay for tuition and other costs he incurred. I mean, I only have one sister and we were doing okay as a family financially so taking care of an extra person wasn’t a problem. We even used him as a handyman whenever we needed someone to change the bulbs or fix something in the house and he didn’t mind. He becomes close to my family. Now I don’t know whether this is when things went wrong.

I had become so dependent on him for everything that I perhaps took it too far. He was only 22 and I was 29. I was suffering from back pain badly on one of the weekends and since he was fixing something in the house, I called him to give me a massage. It was all okay at first but he mistakenly touched me somewhere and it triggered my feelings. It was just above my thigh but I didn’t say anything. A few minutes later it happened again and I knew it was on purpose. I jokingly said to him “you know I’m your big sister, right?” and he said, “I know.” I didn’t stop him the third time as he went all the way. I had reached the point of no return and before I realized we were having s*x.

It was my first time and I was still a bit green even though I was older. He took control and moved me about like a pro and it was the best feeling, trust me. I was so shocked after that I didn’t know what to say. I became addicted and would often call him to come over to “fix things”. I think my family suspected that there was something happening but I kept him as my toyboy and the relationship secret. He never complained and we used to make fun of our special relationship by booking appointments and all till I got pregnant. I swore to never tell him and I realized I was pregnant early enough so I had it aborted because there was no way I was going to tell my family and friends that I was carrying a baby for someone who was young enough to be my brother. But this world is funny because in the seven years that we’ve had this “situation-ship”, I have had another abortion.

I decided to tell him the second time I got pregnant but he was torn apart saying that he wasn’t ready to have a child considering his circumstances and even when I promised to take care of the child and everything, he reassured me that he wanted us to be together and take an active part in the child’s life by being responsible and helping with the finances so we needed to plan for it. Again, to me, that was a mature way to put it so I went ahead to do another abortion. The hurt was more painful than the first time and I was told explicitly by the doctor that my chances of having a baby had reduced drastically because of the scarring the procedures had caused.

I turned 35 over the weekend and my little sister came to me with tears of joy. After hugging her and calming her down she said she had a birthday present for me. She’d accepted a marriage proposal and wanted me to be maid-of-honour. I was a bit jealous because she’d be getting married first but I felt happy for her and asked to see which “idiot” had fallen for her. We laughed and she said I knew him but I was a bit confused because we don’t share the same friends so when she showed me a picture of this same boy I’ve been pregnant for twice I could feel my head spinning. I just burst into tears and lied through my teeth that they were more tears of joy.

I’ve been stuck in my room crying since Monday and I can’t believe I’ve been taken for a fool. There’s no way in heaven or hell I’m going to let this marriage happen. I haven’t confronted the guy because my hands shake every time I pick up the phone. Where do I start from again at my age? I might not even be able to have a child. How do I get away from this mess?

I’ve been stuck in my room crying since Monday and I can’t believe I’ve been taken for a fool. There’s no way in heaven or hell I’m going to let this marriage happen. I haven’t confronted the guy because my hands shake every time I pick up the phone. Where do I start from again at my age? I might not even be able to have a child. How do I get away from this mess?

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Things to think about before breaking a Guinness World Record

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Breaking a Guinness World Record is a difficult but rewarding endeavour that demands thorough organisation and execution. Aspiring record-breakers may improve their chances of success and create a memorable experience for themselves and others who witness their amazing exploits by taking into account the criteria described above. Remember that breaking a record is about motivating others to push their boundaries and strive for greatness as well as attaining a personal milestone.

The desire to pursue or break records captivated many people in 2023, with some reaching viral fame while others went disregarded.

However, attempting such exploits needs considerable preparation outside of the spotlight.

Before going on a record-breaking adventure, consider the following factors:

Think About Your Health

The pursuit of a record sometimes necessitates considerable physical and mental effort. Before embarking on such endeavours, it is critical to analyse your existing health situation. Consider the toll it may have on your body, since inconsistent sleep patterns and hard exercise regimens may hurt your health.

Take into account the available resources

Record-breaking attempts have financial ramifications. Determine if you have the means or funding to support your endeavour. Consider the price of a decent automobile, gasoline, maintenance, and other necessary expenses for certain records, such as a drive-a-thon.

Think about what you’ll get out of it

Recognise the motivation behind your ambition to set or break a record. Common motives include recognition, personal fulfilment, and promotional chances for your company. If the prospective rewards coincide with your objectives, it may be a worthwhile endeavour. However, if the endeavour does not provide real rewards, you should reassess your commitment.

Take a look at the rules and regulations

Each record category frequently comes with a set of regulations and guidelines established by organisations such as Guinness World Records. Learn about these rules and restrictions. Check that you can follow the regulations, as failing to do so may result in disqualification. Wasting time and effort on a project that does not fit the requirements yields an unsatisfactory result.

Prepare for a Positive or Negative Outcome

Understand that not every attempt to break a record will result in immediate success or fame. Prepare for the consequences, whether success, failure, or a lack of attention. Consider how the experience, whether you win or lose, may help you with personal development, skill development, or other elements of your life.

Setting off on a voyage to establish or break a record is admirable, but it takes careful planning and deliberation.

You may make an informed selection and boost your chances of a successful and enjoyable record-breaking event by carefully assessing these elements.

Conclusion

Breaking a Guinness World Record is a difficult but rewarding endeavour that demands thorough organisation and execution. Aspiring record-breakers may improve their chances of success and create a memorable experience for themselves and others who witness their amazing exploits by taking into account the criteria described above. Remember that breaking a record is about motivating others to push their boundaries and strive for greatness as well as attaining a personal milestone.

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Consumers of pepper soup enjoy longer lives

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Food containing 3% chilli powder, on the other hand, reduced the longevity of male cohorts by 9%. According to a study of diet and mortality data from four big, multinational studies, ingestion of chilli peppers may lower the relative risk of cardiovascular disease mortality by 26%, according to a previous research by the American Heart Association (2020). Chilli pepper usage was related with a 25% reduction in all-cause mortality and a 23% reduction in cancer mortality when compared to persons who never or only seldom ingested chilli pepper.

Consumers of pepper soup should rejoice. A recent study by Semaniuk et al.(2022) found that eating chilli peppers regularly, whether in soup or other forms, increases life span.

Chilli pepper fruits do contain phenolic compounds that are structurally similar to those that have anti-ageing activities.

Chilli powder given to diet at doses of 0.04%-0.12% significantly increased the median longevity of fruit fly cohorts of both genders by 9% to 13%.

Food containing 3% chilli powder, on the other hand, reduced the longevity of male cohorts by 9%.

According to a study of diet and mortality data from four big, multinational studies, ingestion of chilli peppers may lower the relative risk of cardiovascular disease mortality by 26%, according to previous research by the American Heart Association (2020).

Chilli pepper usage was related to a 25% reduction in all-cause mortality and a 23% reduction in cancer mortality when compared to persons who never or only seldom ingested chilli pepper.

This research piqued my interest in Nigerian pepper soup and Ghanaian light soups with spicy spices. For example, Jiang TA(2019) discovered that frequent consumption of spicy meals was also associated with a decreased risk of mortality from cancer, ischemic heart disease, and respiratory system disorders.

However, the real effect of spices and herbs in health maintenance, especially in preventing the development of chronic, noncommunicable illnesses, is still unknown.

Nigerian pepper soup has a rush of natural flavours and spices that excite your culinary senses and put your hunger right. It is quite adaptable since it can be created using a variety of meaty meats such as turkey, chicken, fish, and even our nutrient-dense offals.

Adegoke et al. (2015) conducted a study to assess customer perceptions of the gastronomic, social, and health characteristics of pepper soup. A systematic questionnaire was utilised to determine the reasons for eating pepper soup, the chosen type of pepper soup, the social setting for pepper soup consumption, beverage accompaniment preferred with pepper soup, and food categories preferred as accompaniment with pepper soup.

It also assessed people’s perceptions of the stated health advantages of pepper soup’s ingredients. According to the poll, respondents ate pepper soup on a weekly and occasional basis for enjoyment (68.3%) and relaxation (55.8%).

90.2, 85.9, 90.2, and 92% of respondents liked catfish, goat meat, chicken, and cow tail as the meaty components in their pepper soup, respectively.

Colour, texture, and flavour preferences were light or dark brown, thick or light, and peppery and spicy. 97% of respondents chose hot pepper soup, while 65.8% preferred warm pepper soup.

Respondents (66.3 and 79%) chose beer and wine with their pepper soup, whereas 75.9 and 90.7% selected non-alcoholic beverages as accompaniments, respectively, carbonated beverages and juices or mineral water.

The majority of respondents (60.5 8.52%) strongly disagreed that pepper soup held the majority of the health advantages associated with herbs, spices, and other pepper soup elements, showing that pepper soup may not be taken for its claimed therapeutic value.

The nutritional value of pepper soup is usually dependent on the components used in its preparation. The spices and condiments utilised have shown to be useful in medicinal treatments.

Pepper soup is a nutrient-dense, nutritious food. The soup is low in calories and fat, and it’s high in protein.

Pepper soup has a lot of vitamins and minerals, including vitamin C, iron, and potassium. Pepper soup is not only nutritious, but it is also tasty and simple to prepare. You may make the soup using chicken, goat meat, or yams. Spice the pepper soup to taste.

An article in the Tribune by Eunice Olaleye(2022) stated that a scientific evaluation by Dr Heben’s team on DrHealthBenefits.com concluded that the soup does assist in managing heart rate.

It also aids in blood pressure regulation, preventing it from becoming dangerously high or low. In other terms, it aids in blood pressure stabilisation.

Because pepper soup is an antioxidant, it also drives away free radicals that might cause cancer (Nwose EU, 2009; Agbor et al., 2019).

Pepper soup might help you recover from a cold or cough. There are various therapeutic benefits that you should be aware of.

The soup is also beneficial in chilly weather, according to the author. Hot and spicy pepper soup is crucial for keeping your body warm. It’s a win-win situation. You enjoy your pepper soup while also warming up your body.

According to youmustgethealthy.com, the elements in pepper soup are what make it healthy. Pepper soup contains unripe plantain, fresh catfish, cow skin, beef, or goat meat, which not only tastes good but also contains anti-oxidants.

Consuming pepper soup is one strategy to maintain proper vitamin intake while being hydrated. Because of the spicy nature, one tends to drink a lot of water.

Key Takeaways

According to the literature, pepper soup with local spices has several health advantages. According to a review of diet and mortality data from four major, multinational studies, intake of peppers or spicy spices may lower the relative risk of cardiovascular disease death by 26%, according to the American Heart Association(2020). Chilli pepper usage was related to a 25% reduction in all-cause mortality and a 23% reduction in cancer mortality when compared to persons who never or only seldom ingested chilli pepper.

With this knowledge, fans of spicy spices may include them in their diets in any way to improve their health.

NB: Prof. Nyarkotey follows stringent source requirements and bases his articles on peer-reviewed studies, academic research institutes, and medical societies. My posts are for educational purposes only and do not constitute medical advice for treatment. My goal is to educate the public about scientific evidence-based Naturopathic Therapies.

The author is a Naturopathic Healthcare Professor, a Medical Journalist, and a scientific writer. Professor40naturopathy@gmail.com is the email address.

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Accra College of Education: History, Programs and Location

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Accra College of Education is a leader in teacher education, educating the next generation of educators who will play a critical role in shaping the minds of Ghana's children. With a commitment to quality, a long history, and a devotion to comprehensive education, the institution continues to have a significant effect on the Accra and beyond education sectors.

Accra College of Education is a notable teacher education college in Ghana, located in the Eastern or Greater Accra zone. Following the Colleges of Education Act of 2012 (Act 847), the college was upgraded to tertiary status, allowing it to issue degrees in Basic Education. The university recently welcomed 321 new students into its academic community, demonstrating the institution’s ongoing involvement in creating the next generation of educators.

The college’s dedication to practical, scientific-based education is seen in projects such as “Experiment Share,” which attempts to improve science instruction through engaging and exciting live experiments.

History and Background

Accra College of Education’s long history and commitment to educational quality have positioned it as a significant role in Ghana’s teacher training and growth. The institution’s programmes and activities, as well as its cutting-edge Teaching and Learning Resource Centre, highlight its continual efforts to improve teacher education quality and foster creative, practice-based learning.

The college’s willingness to adapt to the changing demands of the education sector, emphasis on practical teaching techniques, and excellent leadership under Dr. Samuel Awinkene Atintono, Principal, highlight its importance in the field of teacher education in Ghana.

Accra College of Education continues to play an important role in defining the country’s educational future by providing prospective teachers with the information, skills, and practical experience required to flourish in their careers.

Academic Programs

Accra College of Education is well-known for its wide range of academic programmes for prospective educators. The institution provides a Bachelor of Education (B.Ed.) programme that is aimed to provide students with the information, skills, and pedagogical strategies necessary for effective teaching. The programme frequently includes specialisations in many fields, allowing students to focus on their individual areas of interest.

Furthermore, the institution may offer diploma programmes in education, which would provide an alternate avenue for students seeking a more condensed teacher training programme.

Faculty and Staff

The quality of any educational institution’s faculty and staff is directly related to its success. Accra College of Education is proud of its staff of passionate educators and professionals who are not only specialists in their disciplines but also dedicated to building a supportive learning environment. The faculty frequently engages in research and intellectual endeavours that help to develop education in Ghana.

Campus Facilities

Accra College of Education provides a welcoming learning environment with cutting-edge technology to improve the entire student experience. These may include well-equipped classrooms, scientific and computer laboratories, a library with pertinent materials, and recreational areas where students may relax.

Campus Life

The institution emphasises a comprehensive approach to education, recognising that the college experience goes beyond the classroom. Accra College of Education has a bustling campus life that includes a variety of extracurricular activities, organisations, and events. These programmes allow kids to gain leadership skills, create long-lasting friendships, and participate in community service.

Partnerships and Collaborations

Accra College of Education frequently forms alliances and collaborations with other educational institutions, both nationally and worldwide, in order to keep informed of educational breakthroughs and global best practices. These collaborations may enable student exchange programmes, collaborative research projects, and faculty development opportunities.

Contributions to Education

Accra College of Education has made important contributions to Ghana’s education landscape by generating a cadre of trained and competent teachers who go on to serve in a variety of positions within the education sector. The college’s effect extends beyond its campus, impacting the quality of education in schools and communities across the country.

Conclusion

Accra College of Education is a leader in teacher education, educating the next generation of educators who will play a critical role in shaping the minds of Ghana’s children. With a commitment to quality, a long history, and a devotion to comprehensive education, the institution continues to have a significant effect on Accra and beyond education sectors.

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