I’m not even sure where to begin. I adored this man. We had been dating for two years, and things were going well for us. I was admitted to the hospital in October after contracting typhoid fever. The doctor in charge of the day shift was very friendly with me and gave me his personal contact information. He said he doesn’t do that with his patients, but he genuinely wanted to see me improve. I recovered and was then released. I had a few checkups, and then I was done. My doctor friend used to send me medical advice via WhatsApp. When I post a picture on my status, he responds within minutes and compliments me. Sometimes he’ll simply respond with some love emojis.
It’s normal for guys to be like that around me, so I didn’t take him seriously. But, in early November, he told me he was leaving work and that I should meet him in front of the hospital. It wasn’t far because it was a private hospital in my neighbourhood. When I arrived, he greeted me and we sat in his car, where he opened up to me. He said all of this while showing me signs of his feelings for me, but I ignored him. He stated that he likes me and that he wants us to date. He was aware that I was in a relationship. He was the doctor on duty the day my boyfriend brought me to the hospital, and he found out about our relationship. In our WhatsApp conversations, he’ll ask about my boyfriend as if he wanted to know if we’re still together. I let him express his feelings to me, and when he was finished, I told him I was sorry but I was already taken. I can still be his friend, but nothing can happen between us.
He agreed, and we proceeded from there. Along the way, my guy began to misbehave. I’ll call, but he won’t answer. He won’t call back later, either, but he’ll be on Whatsapp and posting memes on his status. When I tell him about his behaviour, he says he’s fine and was just distracted. He will apologize to me and do it again. I play with him on occasion. He won’t do it if I don’t message or call him. The doctor was checking on me every day during this time. I lost contact with my guy because I stopped calling or checking in on him. I stopped visiting him, and he didn’t contact me for over a month. That’s when I decided to trust the doctor. We began dating, and he was so sweet and thoughtful. But, after only two months of dating him, a tenant in his house approached me on my way to see him and asked if I was dating the doctor. She stated that the man has a wife in another area. Despite the fact that they did not have a white wedding, he had done knocking and they have children together.
I refused to believe it and confronted him about it. It wasn’t 29 years that I didn’t know the doctor. He was 36. He stated that he no longer wishes to marry the woman and that she was only his baby mama. It’s a long story, and I was devastated at the time. Then, out of nowhere, my guy called to apologize for being silent for four months. He explained that he was studying for exams and needed to concentrate. He was doing Masters and is now finished. I’m not bragging, but these two men do not deserve me. They’re both deceivers. So I’ve decided to distance myself from both of them.
My big sister, who is 33 and unmarried, advises me to manage my first guy because I was approaching 30 at the time and shouldn’t be walking out of relationships like that. Should I, however, put up with every bad attitude because I have to marry? My first guy had obviously begun a relationship with someone else. That’s why he began to distance himself from me. I asked him several times if there was a problem, but he remained silent. Why has he suddenly appeared to inform me that he is preoccupied with exams? Is that even a sufficient reason? Regarding the doctor, I’ve already blocked him. His wife is expecting him at home. Please tell me if I’m making the right decision by dumping both men. Thank you very much!
