For the past five years, I’ve been in a relationship with the love of my life. I adore him to pieces. I can’t imagine my life without him, and he feels the same way about me. We met at university and have been dating ever since. My boyfriend suffers from epilepsy. We had been dating for a year before he had an epileptic seizure. He was too shy to tell me about it, and I wouldn’t have known if he hadn’t fallen on our way to lectures. It was a terrifying experience at the time. I became enraged with him for not telling me, and we ended our relationship as a result. He kept pleading with me, and I adore him, so I accepted his apology. I’ve seen him have seizures and helped him get through them over the years.
I’ve learned a lot about his condition, and with the help of his medications, it doesn’t happen very often. If he takes good care of himself, he can go an entire year with only two episodes. I’m the only girl who has stayed after learning the truth. He wanted me to notify my parents before they discovered the truth on their own. He is certain they will. He has officially visited my parents, and the wedding date has been set for March of next year. I was chatting with my parents recently when I brought up the subject of epilepsy. I purposefully told them that a friend of mine has the condition, and the family of the girl he wants to marry has rejected him as a result. My mother stated that the family made the correct decision and that epilepsy is a spiritual curse on my friend’s family. She then advised me not to associate with him because he could spread it to people close to him.
My father disagreed with my mother. He stated that the family’s rejection of my friend was very archaic because, contrary to what they were told in the past, the condition is purely medical and can be managed. This minor discussion turned into an argument between my parents, and I was left wondering what they would do if they discovered that the man they had accepted to marry me had the condition. My boyfriend still insists on telling them before we marry. I don’t agree with him. I have a feeling they won’t find out, and even if they do, it will be too late because we’ll be married by then. His parents have been extremely private about his condition, which is not severe. When he has a seizure, he does not foam at the mouth. He simply passes out for a few seconds and then awakens.
Many people have seen that happen to him and assumed he just collapsed, so they are unaware that he has epilepsy. With everything I’ve said, do you still think it’s necessary to notify my parents? My guy says he doesn’t want to have problems with them in the future and that he wants to be honest and truthful with them right now. But by not telling them, we are not being dishonest. We’re just trying to keep our relationship safe. I don’t want anything to come between us, and this is a minor illness in comparison to some chronic diseases people face. I’m not sure why epilepsy, in particular, is regarded with such contempt. Please let me know if I should tell my parents or if you have any other suggestions. I’d like to marry this man. Thanks
Source: Anonymous Confessions
