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My friend who persuaded me to break up with my girl is going to marry her

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I was dating this nice girl during our school time. She was everything I needed in a girl and both of us loved each other very much. I used to tell my best paddy about how the girl was very different from other girls I’ve met and been with and he’ll just rubbish my words and say that she was faking it and all girls are the same, even so-called church girls.

But I kept ignoring him. When we completed school, (my friend and I), I was coming to campus to visit my girl every evening. We’re two years ahead of her in school. So luckily where I was doing my NSS wasn’t far from campus so I will pass by and we’ll chat. Sometimes when I come, she has cooked and she’ll give me some and we’ll eat. When I finished NSS, I wasn’t getting a job to do.

I partnered with two friends to be selling summer shorts, singlets, boxers, sweatpants and all that stuff online. I was managing with that small small but my girlfriend never complained or anything. She was rather encouraging me that things will get better. She won’t ask for money, but I was sending her what I could from my heart and she will call and thank me so much that I always have the urge to even do more and give her more.

Around this time I was not in contact with my close friend. The guy who was warning me about my girl. His dad has links so he got a good job after NSS and we weren’t meeting anymore but we were chatting on whatsapp and he will always ask me about my girlfriend and I’ll tell him we’re good. But he always had a way of planting doubts in my head.

He will say things like no girl can be faithful to his guy if he has completed school. By this time she’s with another guy on campus and I should stop being dull and also have fun with girls. You know how guys talk. But I ignored him because I trusted my girl. But one time I came over to her side and there was this guy with her. Her roommates were not there and they were the only two in the room. I didn’t like that at all. The guy too is a nice guy.

I later asked about the guy and she said they’re coursemates and there is nothing more. But I couldn’t shake the feeling off. On his birthday, she wished the guy on her status and I started getting jealous although she posted me on my birthday with a lot of sweet words and even bought new gamepads for me because she knew the ones I had stopped working.

But I just started getting angry at her because every group picture she takes with other coursemates that guy will be there. One time I called my friend and told him about it. He said he knew that’s how campus girls are and this girl has proved to me that he was just keeping me on the side. Well long story short, I broke up with her. She called me on the phone crying and promising me that there was nothing between her and the guy but I don’t know what came over me and I couldn’t trust her anymore so I broke up with her even though I was hurting myself. I deleted her number from my phone and all our chats. I unfriended and unfollowed her everywhere because I didn’t want to be seeing her pictures anywhere to cause me problems. After that I tried dating some other girls but none of them were like her and I missed her so much. I informed my friend about the breakup and he said I did the right thing

It’s been about five years now and I still think about her. I’ve dated others but it didn’t work out and right now I’m a single guy. I wasn’t hearing from my friend as we used to. Still trying to get the online business running after all these years. Life as a man is not easy in Ghana. I started borrowing money here and there from my friend. I was always broke and this constant borrowing has also affected our friendship. Now when he sees my message, he takes days to reply. He knows I’m coming to borrow from him so I have stopped messaging him. Then last month, I saw a wedding invite on his status. My friend, the guy who persuaded me to break up with my girl is going to marry her. There was this other guy who knew I was dating the girl and he messaged me to ask me if I’ve seen the wedding invitation cos my friend sent it to him and even he was very surprised because he knew that was my girl during school time.

When I saw the wedding invite on his status, I sent him a long message asking him if this was his plan all along. I’m sure he forgot to block me from seeing the status because he intentionally didn’t send the invitation to me but sent it to other friends. The message has ticked blue since last month and he has still not replied. When I call his number, he doesn’t answer and when I use a different number and he answers, he will cut the line when he realizes it’s me. I started looking for my ex’s number and I got it from one of her friends. When I called her, we had a long chat for over two hours.

According to her my friend got close to her after I broke her heart and he was there for her from that time until now. They were in a serious relationship for four years and she gave him a chance because she knew him and he wasn’t a stranger she was now going to do talking stage with. My ex politely told me to move on because she has moved on. What even pains me is that she told me it wasn’t my friend’s fault even when I told her what my friend did. My ex said I was the one who decided not to trust her and I shouldn’t blame anyone. When we hang up, I tried calling her again the next day and I realized she has blocked me. What my friend has done to me eerh, he should have used a knife to stab me rather. Their wedding is this coming weekend and I feel so down. What should I do please?

Source: Anonymous Confessions

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Woman confesses that her spouse always defecates in bed as he’s ready to ‘cum’

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"I've been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed. "We've tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it's too sweet and he can't contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex. "But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse."

A Ghanaian lady who is married to a “loving and responsible husband” is looking for help dealing with what she describes as “disgusting” sexual encounters with her spouse.

The married woman with two children has said that her husband always defecates in bed when he is at his height of ecstasy during sex.

Revealing her traumatic situation to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3, she stated that she is considering quitting her eleven-month marriage because she cannot bear it any longer.

“I’ve been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed.

“We’ve tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it’s too sweet and he can’t contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex.

“But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because, despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse,” she narrated.

According to her, the situation is impacting her mental health because all attempts to settle her issue have failed.

“I’m going through a lot because it makes me puke; mentally, I’m breaking down. I’m not sure whether to quit the marriage because we currently have two children. I tried every possible solution to the problem, but nothing worked,” she said.

She is presently seeking assistance to deal with the circumstance, as the problem is harming her mental health.

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I prefer to masturbate than have sex with my husband – Lady shares ordeal

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She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend. "Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand," she said Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

A Ghanaian woman has expressed her sexual discontent with her spouse.

The lady, whose identity has been kept hidden, told Confessions on TV3 that her spouse never stays in bed for more than two minutes.

She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend.

“Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand,” she said to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

Meanwhile, Life Coach Ebenezer Quaye, a guest on the show, encouraged lovers to share feedback to each other after participating in physical intimacy with their loved ones.

This, he argued, will inspire spouses to work on their sexual deficiencies.

“If you are having sex and do not receive feedback from your wife, there is a problem.” Wives should also provide feedback to their spouses. “It’s so nice and encouraging,” he commented.

He also gave some strategies for improving sexual shortcomings between lovers.

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How my husband sex trafficked me for 13 years

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When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party. "It's going to be fun." She said. "Sure. "I would love to." I didn't have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone's attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

I learned that life was unfair at an early age, and in the worst way conceivable. My stepfather used to sexually assault me, and when I eventually had the bravery to denounce him, he received only three months of treatment as punishment and was allowed to live with me again.

My mother brought him back for financial reasons, but she kept us apart. They slept below, while we slept above. Nevertheless, I was traumatised and lived in terror. As if I hadn’t gone through enough pain, I met a man who I believed loved me and who sex trafficked me.

When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party.

“It’s going to be fun.” She said.

“Sure. “I would love to.”

I didn’t have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone’s attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

“Hello, Greg. I invite you to meet my buddy Wendy. “Wendy, this is Greg.” She spoke to the guy.

Greg turned to me, smiled, and extended his hand before saying, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.”

At that point, my knees were weak. My heart began beating, and I couldn’t stop smiling.

“Can I get your number?” He asked.

“Sure,” I responded and handed it to him.

I didn’t expect him to call, but later that night he did, and we spoke for hours. That was the start of a relationship that led to my being sex trafficked.

Greg understood how to make me feel appreciated, which is all I wanted. We became amorous quickly, and I fell pregnant soon after. I had been under my mother’s care since I was 17 years old when I had my child. Greg demanded that I leave my mother’s house so that we could make our relationship work.

“How am I going to do that?” I asked.

“I’ve got a plan. You may relocate to a shelter, where they will consider you emancipated from your parents, and then you will be eligible for welfare checks, and we will be able to get an apartment and live happily ever after.” He explained.

At the time, it seemed like a fairy tale, and I was all in. I ran away from home, and Greg took me and my kid to a shelter. However, life at the shelter was not as easy as Greg made it appear.

It took long for me to receive my first welfare check, and I was running out of baby goods. So I contacted Greg and told him I needed money to take care of our child.

“Don’t worry, I have a job for us to do.” He said.

I assumed he meant cleaning people’s homes because that’s what he told me he did for money. So I picked up my kid and went to see him.

“What are we going to do?” I asked Greg.

“Well, you’re going to walk up this street, wait on that corner for a man to pick you up and you’ll have sex with that man in his car and he’ll pay you.” He explained without emotion.

I was perplexed and apprehensive, but he kept bringing up my daughter and insisting that if I loved her, I would do it. I felt like I had no option. My knees and hands shook as I proceeded to where he had instructed me to stand. As soon as I arrived, a car stopped in front of me, and the driver requested me to get in. That’s how my spouse started sex trafficking me.

“I know a place we can go in the woods.” He said.

I did not say anything. When we arrived in the woods, we both exited and walked to a private location where he began removing his clothing. I took off mine, we had sex, and he gave me the money before driving me back to where he had picked me up.

When I came out, I went to Greg, who was still standing in the same location and handed him all of the money.

“I love you.” I knew I had made the proper decision in choosing you as my wife. He said.

We went to purchase diapers and formula for the baby and had a little extra. However, a week later, we were out of diapers again.

That time, he encouraged me to take on two or three customers so that I might earn enough money to leave the shelter.

“Do you want your daughter to live in a shelter for the rest of her life?” He asked.

From there, he started one of the greatest prostitution networks in the region. It comprised four to ten females from various states. He sexually trafficked me for 13 years while I was still married to him. It varied from once a week to every other day, depending on how much money he received from the other females. I worked as a street girl, and escort, and made house calls. Not to add that I have two more children with him.

People continually questioned me why I stayed with him for so long, but no matter what I told them, they couldn’t comprehend what I was going through. Greg hooked us to drugs and physically abused us if we attempted to escape. He would also send the other girls to find any girl who had gone and beat her until she returned. I felt bonded to the other females since we weren’t permitted to have outside contact. So, anytime I managed to flee, I felt horrible and returned because I didn’t want them to suffer.

After 13 years, I was finally free of Greg. I had recently given birth and was in the kitchen making supper for us when I noticed police cruisers outside our house. The cops swooped in, arrested Greg, and detained me for interrogation.

However, I refused to talk to them because I was afraid Greg would beat me if he found out. Because I did not comply, they accused me of sex trafficking and sentenced me to 23 months in prison. Greg was also charged with sex trafficking and was sentenced to ten years in jail.

My children were removed while I was in prison, and because the judge in the custody case felt I was a sex trafficker, she promised that I would not be granted custody of my children. When I got out, I returned to school and earned an associate’s degree. In addition, I returned to the same judge who heard my custody case to request custody of my kid. I went with my attorneys, counsellors, and even the police officers who detained me to explain my situation to the court.

She returned my child to me, and I returned home to live with my mother, who sadly died later. Today, I feel comfortable and satisfied, which is a wonderful place to be. I’ve realised that there are individuals eager to help those who have faced the same hardships that I have, and if you’re going through anything similar, you don’t have to suffer alone or in silence.

This narrative is based on the Unfiltered Stories YouTube video.

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