My girlfriend and I are both open-minded people who believe s*xuality is fluid. She is South African, I’m a Ghanaian who spent some years in the U.K. In 2019, a friend of mine organized a very coded s*x party in his apartment at East Legon and that’s how I met my girl. You can call us bisexuals or pansexuals, but we just don’t do labels. We have fun and fall in love with people, not gender. We first had s*x in that party I spoke about and then we became friends with benefits after that. In 2020, we decided to make it more of an open relationship with one s*xual partner at a time. Not a throuple, but I wanted to know who my girlfriend is having fun with and she wanted the same too.
We have had females join us in the relationship from time to time and our agreement is that we won’t have s*x with a third person if one of us is not present. My girlfriend likes it when we invite another female for threesomes. That way, we’re both present and we both have fun. We’re on PREP and we do medical check-ups often, we have also taken hepatitis vaccines so there’s no need to be alarmed or judgemental. My girlfriend and I are also agnostic, so I would appreciate it if the readers avoid religious advices, Ghanaians are extremely fond of that. I have followed this particular page for a while and I silently read comments and marvel at how overly religious solutions are applied to problems that do not even need religion to solve. I just felt like putting this across before I proceed to talk about the main reason I wrote my story.
Now last year, I told my girlfriend that we should try a guy for the first time. We have had our fair share of ladies and I wanted us to have fun with a guy for a change. It was difficult to get a bisexual guy, but I spoke to my friend, the one who organized the party. He is Caucasian and he hooked us up with his friend who was also white. It was one of the best s*xual experiences I have had and my girl confirmed it as well. The guy was so good with everything. We started out with some oral fun. I’m a top with guys, so he went down for me to f*ck him while he was licking my girlfriend. Then I watched as my girlfriend pegged him to his satisfaction. Then he watched me f*ck my girlfriend. It was just a fun time; only second to the s*x party which gave us more variety.
After that first encounter, the white guy and the two of us were having crazy fun every weekend. He works in one of the Embassies. After a series of complicated events, I started suspecting my girlfriend of cheating on me. She started acting secretive and weird. Then I caught her cheating on me with the white guy. The two were sleeping and goofing around behind my back, even inviting the white guy’s new girlfriend to join them in a threesome. My girlfriend has returned to apologize for cheating. I’m so hurt by the cheating that I have fallen out of love with her. My girlfriend is threatening to leak our sex tapes if I break up with her. We have some incredibly extreme fantasies and fetishes exhibited on those videos. We also have the threesomes we have had over the years. We both have copies we keep for solo s*x.
My girlfriend is not Ghanaian, she can easily leave the country and not care if her videos are out there. But I don’t want everyone to see me having s*x with men. I wouldn’t care if I was in the UK, but in Ghana, it’s just not safe. I could be in danger. I also work in the media, and I’m quite a known face, so this could destroy me. My girlfriend and I are still together because of her threats. I’ve been trying to get a hold of her copy of our s*xual experiences, but she has hidden them well. I’ve also found another lady I’m in love with. Should I risk it and ignore her threats as just hollow words? Do you guys think she is being serious? Diverse opinions will help me decide on what to do. I will patiently read every comment. Thank you
