Relationship
My Husband Has A Favourite Child And It’s Not My Child
My husband and I met at Law school. He did his LLB at Tech and I did mine at UG. We started out as a group of study mates. We were about 8 initially, but our numbers reduced and soon it was just the two of us meeting to study.
I fell in love with him easily because he was a very intelligent and outspoken man. Our course was very demanding and it required a lot of reading, but he somehow eased the burden and made it easier.
We were called to the Bar some years ago and we have given ourselves fully to the legal profession. We married six years ago and we have a five year old son and a two-year-old daughter.
My husband has a daughter with a different lady. According to him, he had a fling with her in his teens and she conceived. He was careful enough to conceal that part of his life from me during our dating period.
If I recall precisely, it was just about a month to our wedding that he informed me about his daughter. He was visibly nervous and he painstakingly chose his words. If my family hadn’t intervened in the mayhem, I would have walked out on him.
I don’t want to recount the ordeal I went through during that period, but I was forced to meet his daughter and have a conversation with her. All of these happened 6 years ago, but I’m trying to create a premise for the rest of my story.
I would also like to put this across: My husband is indefatigable and altruistic. In fact, it was his willingness to think of others and the altruism he radiated that made me gravitate towards him. Now the issue is, my husband’s attention span amongst his children is not balanced.
His first daughter’s well-being takes precedence over everything in his life; including my kids and our marriage. This is not a mere hunch or a fleeting assumption. He pays her fees before he thinks about paying the fees of our children. I’m capable of paying for the fees of my children.
But my husband and I have come to a resolution. He pays the kids’ fees and I handle the utility bills. When it comes to food and expenses, we have sculpted a system that works smoothly for us.
A couple of months ago, my son was admitted in the hospital. He had contracted an infection and my husband knew about it. He chose to attend his other daughter’s opening day at school even when I suggested that her mother can do that. Opening days happen many times but he stared at me deviously, as if I had suggested a vile thing.
As adults who are conscious about raising children at home, our arguments as a couple have been filled with whispers that do not echo beyond the walls of our bedroom.
But his excessive love and sentimentality toward his first daughter has created more strained arguments between us and now, his screams erupt at the least provocation and his actions and words towards me during those rather heated moments are counterintuitive.
He argues that I am refusing to see reason, but that is not the case at all. I have keenly observed that his baby mama has taken advantage of the situation to extract money from my husband.
Her impromptu calls to him with claims that his daughter wants to speak to him or she wants money are enough evidence to prove my point but my husband won’t listen.
I told him we could arrive at a compromise. I wouldn’t mind if my stepdaughter comes to stay with us. At least with that, my husband won’t be divided in making decisions.
His rather obnoxious baby mama has vehemently disagreed with this proposed arrangement and she claims that her daughter’s place is with her. The girl in question hasn’t made a decision.
She seems to be conflicted by the whole issue and her inability to make a decision has continued to increase the tension between my husband and I.
I want to avoid handling this issue through the lens of a legal person. What would you do if you were me?
Source: Anonymous Confessions
Relationship
I slept with 300 people in a year – detractors call me ‘disgusting,’ but I feel powerful
An Australian lady who claims to have had sex with over 300 individuals in one year described the experience as “empowering.”
Annie Knight, 26, said on “The Kyle and Jackie O Show” that she even slept with five individuals in a single day during the wild, fun-filled year.
“I felt empowered afterwards,” the adoring Australian said. “Sex makes me happy. Its purpose is to make you feel wonderful.”
Knight had sex with both men and women, and she told the radio show that she met many of her sex partners using dating apps. She does, however, have a list of “regulars” on the fast dial for when she feels like getting down and dirty.
“The messier the sex, the better,” she said.
Knight, called “Australia’s most sexually active woman,” went on to state that nothing is off limits when it comes to experimenting in the bedroom, stating, “I’m down to try anything.”
However, not everyone is thrilled by Knight’s open love of sex, with one detractor calling her “disgusting.”
Knight, who maintains an OnlyFans account, was also sacked from her marketing position when her superiors discovered her lewd online behaviour.
The sex fanatic told “The Kyle and Jackie O Show” that her website has plenty of kinky stuff since she performs “pretty much everything” on video.
Knight recently made news after speaking out about being fired from a separate site.
“The last thing I wanted to do was to get fired if someone found my OnlyFans,” she said on “SBS Insight” a few weeks ago.
“There was a list of three reasons why I was fired basically,” Knight explained, adding that she was “very upset and very angry” at her employer’s decision to fire her.
“They said I falsely advised that I had a side business, didn’t ask for permission from the company to run the side business and that I had online pornographic images of myself and crude language that was against company rules,” she went on to say.
Relationship
Some unusual qualities men want in a woman
When it comes to women, what does a man want? To a significant extent, the solution is and will continue to be a mystery.
But it hasn’t prevented scientists from trying to solve the mystery of human attraction.
On the one hand, each man has his own tastes. Qualities and features that are desirable to one guy may not be appealing to another.
However, research has discovered that many men have one trait: they prefer to believe their initial impressions. And those early moments have a significant influence on their level of attraction to certain women.
Of course, some women are born with the ability to make a terrific first impression with little to no effort, while others must work a little more.
Here are five characteristics that men find particularly appealing in women, according to a study.
Natural-looking makeup, including eye makeup and lipstick
Some males remark that they prefer women who do not wear makeup because they appear more natural. However, according to a Zoosk poll, 139 of 1,200 women who applied eye makeup in their profile photo were more likely to receive responses from males. Men were also more likely to desire to meet a lady if her profile photo included lipstick.
Women who wear “darker” cosmetics, on the other hand, were less likely to be asked out. Even if men claim they prefer women who appear “natural,” this implies you may wear “natural” cosmetics and still attract guys.
Also, fellas, it’s quite OK to remark that your girl looks great with winged eyeliner and red lipstick.
The ideal waist-to-hip ratio
This choice is based on health and fertility rather than appearance.
“Evidence also shows that waist-to-hip ratio is a strong indicator of a woman’s oestrogen levels, risk of obesity, and susceptibility to major diseases such as diabetes, ovarian cancer, and heart disease,” according to the study.
Dressing in red clothes
The colour red represents passion. It’s no surprise that males find it appealing. In a research conducted by psychologists at the University of Rochester, men were given images of various women with framed borders of either red or white and were asked how attractive they thought the ladies were.
They were then given an identical photo with the ladies dressed in either red or blue and asked how much they would spend on a date with that woman. Women who were framed in red or wore red were more likely to be considered seductive and beautiful, and males were more likely to want to spend money on a date.
A kind attitude
A pleasant demeanour always goes a long way. Researchers from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology discovered that a woman’s responsiveness to men’s needs and desires boosted her attraction to males.
A higher-pitched voice
According to studies, women prefer males with deeper voices. For males, the reverse is usually true, since some feel “[higher] voices signal reproductive fitness, femininity, and smaller body size.”
Relationship
I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend
I used to do fraud. Someone introduced it to my buddy, who then introduced it to me. The game has different stages. We were at the bottom of the game’s ladder, so we didn’t make much money, but the risk involved was excellent. Aside from the danger, you must labour every day in order to earn GHC500 every week.
We slept very little because our clients were all over the world, and because of the time difference, we had to stay awake in order to communicate with them. I had a major hit one day. I received GHC7,000 from a bargain and immediately purchased an iPhone for my girlfriend, Cynthia. She was aware that I was involved in fraud, yet she was uninterested. She became interested in the business when I gave her the iPhone and told her how I obtained it.
So when I had a customer who claimed to be a girl, Cynthia was the one who spoke to them. She was the one who set up the video calls. We were still struggling. We halted operations since the money was not flowing as promised.
Life was difficult for two jobless lovers. I couldn’t help her. I couldn’t help myself, so we relied on the generosity of friends who were succeeding in the game.
Ernest, a buddy of mine from Canada, came over one day, and we were all hanging around. Cynthia later informed me, “Your friend likes me.” He was licking his lips and staring at me in some way. Let’s go get some money from him. Tell him I’m not your girlfriend. Allow him to take me so we may obtain money from him.”
Ernest was formerly a player in the game. He went outdoors after getting money. I warned Cynthia Ernest that she might catch the hint, but she was so enthusiastic about collecting money that we gave it a shot. “Don’t let him sleep with you,” was the lone caution. Never.”
She brought me GHC 500 a week later. “He gave me 1,000 GHC.” “That’s your cut,” she explained.
Ernest was hiding the affair because he was afraid I would be upset if I found out he was seeing my sister. He was even concealing it from the team, but we were aware of what was going on.
He was here for a month, and we earned a lot of money.
He was still sending money after he left. Cynthia gave me my portion. I got a job and advised her not to see Ernest anymore. She didn’t give up. It escalated into a brawl, in which I threatened to let the cat out of the bag. “If you try it, you’ll go to jail,” she said. You know I’m familiar with all of your previous transactions. How much money can you offer me to get me to quit seeing Ernest?”
Cynthia is currently in Canada with Ernest, where they are having the time of their life. I tear up when I see their images. When I see these videos on Instagram, I want to kick them in the video.
Ernest finally understands reality. Cynthia, I believe, informed him in a way that she wouldn’t be held responsible, saying something like, “He gave me to you so we could get money from you, but I fell for you because you’re a good person.” That sort of thing.
I must confess, they had the final laugh. Cynthia informed me the last time I spoke with her, “If you stop being bitter, I will send you something small every month.” You don’t have to hate me since I don’t hate you.”
I bowed my head and kicked the bitterness out of my heart because money is money.
That girl is the only honest scammer there is. She maintained her promise. She occasionally sends me money. She’s gradually rebuilding the bridge between me and my old friend Ernest. She duped me, but I can’t really complain. I still have feelings for her but in a different manner. I adore her as someone who looks after me.