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My husband is impotent and I am having an affair

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My husband is impotent and I am having an affair

I’ve been married for four years, and my spouse lives in another country. Our marriage was not consummated after our wedding, and he returned to his job in another country. I returned to India. When he returned after 10 months, I recognised he was medically unsuitable to have sex. My spouse is sterile.

I discovered I was in a sexless marriage. It was quite disheartening to see how inept he was. I attempted to ask him about his problem and if we could talk about it, but he is not interested in talking about it. Is impotence a cause of divorce?

I’ve heard that erectile dysfunction leads to divorce. But I had no idea how to deal with my impotent spouse and sexless marriage because there was no way to communicate about it. How might I assist my hubby with his impotence? I had no idea since he had made the subject of sex completely off-limits.

Because of my husband’s impotence, I’m having an affair.

I am now in a relationship with another individual who sexually delights me. I had no choice but to become involved since I couldn’t stand my sexless marriage any longer. I understand that erectile problems and wife affairs are frequent, but I am unable to deal with the stress this is causing me.

However, I am quite concerned about this connection. Please provide a solution. How should I proceed? Is it possible to heal an impotent man?

Dear Perplexed Lady,

I absolutely understand your disappointment at not being able to finalise your marriage. But did this scenario arise after the wedding, or was it present from the start?

What you could do is as follows.

Is the husband’s medical condition irreversible?

Is your husband’s medical condition, in which he is physically unable to have sex, permanent? If you answered yes, you should consider what you desire. Can you live with this for the rest of your life?

If you can get your husband, who I know is unwilling to talk with you about this, to consult a therapist, he could open up about the problem.

Stress, trauma, or medicine that he is taking can all cause erectile dysfunction. If he consults a doctor or a sexologist, there may be some hope at the end of the tunnel.

An affair provides momentary relief.

While you have been indulging your sexual need with another individual, keep in mind that you still have a husband to return to. Living a double life causes tension and worry. Something you’re already unable to handle. If your affair continues for an extended period of time, it may cause more worry than pleasure.

To stay married or to divorce

You’ve been married for four years, and your husband lives far away. If your bodily requirements are not satisfied, this may not offer you anything in the long term. Please consult with the family elders and seek their support after making a choice.

Yes, erectile dysfunction and an unfinished marriage might be grounds for divorce, but you should consult with a lawyer about this.

Remember, this is your life. Seek answers rather than difficulties. There is no doubt that living a sexless marriage is difficult, but having an affair is not a solution.

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Woman impregnated by a 13-year-old who called her “mom” sentenced to 3 months in prison

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Woman impregnated by a 13-year-old who called her "mom" sentenced to 3 months in prison

A lady from Colorado who admitted to having intercourse with a 13-year-old boy and then bearing his kid will serve only 90 days in prison for her acts.

Last June, police in Fountain, Colorado, roughly 15 miles south of Colorado Springs, started looking into a tip from a local therapist who claimed one of her clients had sexually abused a 13-year-old boy. Their inquiry swiftly led them to Andrea Serrano, 31, who was characterised as “a mother figure” to the youngster in the criminal document. The youngster was apparently living with Serrano at the time and had even addressed her as “mom,” according to the affidavit.

Serrano was apparently under the effect of alcohol at the time of their sexual contact, while the youngster was under the influence of marijuana. In Serrano’s car, they had sex.

On July 5, Serrano was arrested and charged with sexual assault against a child and sexual assault against a kid under the age of 15 by a person in a position of trust. Serrano apparently confessed to the severely inappropriate sexual relationship, however, she would have found it impossible to deny the relationship given that she had also become pregnant as a result of it. She gave birth to the boy’s child since then.

Serrano’s defence team reached a plea agreement with prosecutors in February. Serrano pled guilty to incest rather than sexual assault charges, and prosecutors recommended that she serve no jail time in exchange. She would, however, be required to register as a sex offender for at least ten years, if not the remainder of her life.

The victim’s mother was incensed at the idea of Serrano avoiding prison time for such a horrific crime. “She sexually abused my 13-year-old son.” “She introduced him to drugs; she should be locked up,” the woman told Judge William Moller at the time. Despite her reservations, Moller first approved the plea bargain that would have allowed Serrano to avoid jail time.

“I feel like if she was a man and he was a little girl, it would definitely be different. They would be seeking more,” the woman later said publicly. “I feel like because he is not a woman, they are not. They are having compassion for her.”

Moller, however, altered his mind at a sentencing hearing on Thursday and opted to sentence Serrano to time behind bars after all. She is now required to serve 90 days, albeit she was given credit for the seven days she had previously served. She also does not need to report to jail for a week in order to get her affairs in order, including securing interim custody of her children. She is currently caring for the victim’s infant, though the victim’s family is fighting to gain custody.

Serrano did apologise for her behaviour when her opportunity to speak at one of the hearings. “I just want to say I’m sorry,” she allegedly added, addressing her apology to both the victim and his family, as well as her own. Though she pled guilty to incest, it is unclear whether Serrano and the victim are related or whether she was permitted to plead guilty to incest because the victim was living with Serrano at the time and considered her a mother figure.

Serrano has a history of child abuse and misdemeanour violation of a protection order. The status of those instances is unknown.

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My wife does not look after me, therefore I have a side chick

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Tee has been isolated in his marriage for the past eight years. According to the husband and father of four, his wife does not fulfil her duties as the lady of the house.

Tee said on Joy FM’s Super Morning Show that he is a responsible guy who provides everything required for his home, but that his wife does not keep her half of the agreement.

The condition, which he claims has been going on for eight years, has sapped the marriage of any romance.

He told co-host Kojo Yankson that he feels unloved in his marriage.

“I’m a very responsible man, I have a wife and I sometimes ask her to do something for me, my intention is not to stress her, but she’ll tell ‘I don’t have time.’ This has been happening for a long time.”

“As a responsible man you go around and do everything for the family and the woman you decide to be with treats you as if you are a child staying with her,” he narrated.

Tee says the incident is what drove him to seek solace outside of his marriage.

Tee described how he met the second woman, dubbed “side chick,” by saying he was usually buying food outdoors and this lady voiced worry.

Tee claimed the lady, who was only a friend at the time, has now taken on the duty to ensure he is well-fed and cared for, though he didn’t say why.

“I’m not saying that it is a behaviour that everyone should do but sometimes the behaviour of some wives to push men into this behaviour. Men are like kids, if you don’t give your child food to eat, he will go somewhere to eat,” he said.

He went on to say that, while he has no desire to cheat on his marriage, his wife’s actions has steadily driven him away.

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‘You can never love a stepchild as much as you love your own kid’

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'You can never love a stepchild as much as you love your own kid'

Because of his own childhood experiences, a Joy FM caller called Kelvin says he does not condone dating or marrying a single parent.

Dating or marrying someone who already has a kid, according to the Osu resident, does more harm than good because the child may never be cherished as if they were biological.

“I just got to know that when you marry somebody with a child, no matter what, you don’t have that kind of love that you have for the child, like the way you have for your biological children,” he said.

On Joy FM’s Super Morning Show on Friday, he discussed the contentious question of whether single parents are less beautiful and whether it is wise to marry them.

Kelvin stated that he lost his original father when he was 10 years old and that after a few years, his mother began seeing this young man who was meant to be his “stepfather.”

He recalls being expelled from school as a youngster due to unpaid tuition. Following the event, his mother told him that he would receive the money when his stepfather returned from work that evening.

Kelvin stated that the subsequent dialogue between his guardians was really harsh, but they both terminated the disagreement because he was present and they felt uncomfortable.

The aspect that he claims saddened him was when his mother awoke the next morning only to be confronted with nasty comments from the man.

These comments, according to the Osu resident, continue to ring in his brain to this day. This, he claims, has affected his determination to never date a single mother.

“To my hearing, the man was asking my mother, is he my child for you to bother me with school fees like that?”

“That statement has really hurt me till date that I never want to even experience it or hear anybody telling me something like that, to date somebody who has a child,” Kelvin revealed.

He went on to say that following that episode, he tried everything he could to undermine his mother’s connection with the man, and he was pleasantly successful.

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