Connect with us

Relationship

My wife is a good woman but I want to divorce her and marry my ex

Published

on

MAFS Boston 1200x900 1

I want to make this confession because I’m feeling very bad and my wife doesn’t deserve all that’s happening to her. I had an abusive father, and he used to beat my mother when they were together. My mum left him when he seriously beat her during the time she was pregnant with me. That was the last straw for her and the marriage ended. I didn’t see much of my dad when I was growing up.

It was mum and her parents who raised me. My dad got married to another woman and then when I was in my teens, we heard the woman left her because he kept beating her, he was doing the same thing he did to my mum. Being raised by a single mum always left me feeling inadequate and my mum always had ways of reminding me that she had sacrificed so much for me and she wasn’t having a dating life because of me.

She never said it in a bad way but I somehow grew up feeling responsible for my mum’s loneliness. She was able to endure dad’s abuse but had to leave the marriage to save my life because she could have lost me. When my grandparents died a year apart, my mum became even more lonely. In uni, she would call me and cry on the phone, telling me she can’t wait for vacation because she was missing my company.

I always felt responsible. So fast forward, I finished school and got a job. I wanted to get a job around home so I can stay with my mum in her family house, but I got work in a different region. It was far from home. I was able to rent a single room s/c near the place I got work and my Mum wanted to come with me but I didn’t like the idea. It was the first time I had denied my mother something and she started with all the guilt.

It was a difficult thing to do but I left Accra and went to Kumasi without her. I met a girl and we fell in love. We dated for three years and then when I told her I wanted to marry her, she started crying. It was a weird reaction. It will take me months before she told me she couldn’t give birth and she had an accident as a teenager which affected her reproductive system. The whole thing was complicated. I was in love with her so much and I had hope that we could find a solution to the problem. Maybe the doctor didn’t diagnose it well or something.

So we kept dating and my mother even knew her because I was visiting my mum with her on some weekends. Mum started pushing me to marry her. She didn’t understand what I was waiting for. I was nearing 30 and I had been with her for over 4 years. My mum said she wanted grandchildren. I always told her I wasn’t ready for marriage until one day, I informed her about the issue.

I told my mum I still wanted to marry her but I was planning to go to a fertility clinic with her first and see. My mum said we should end it immediately and I shouldn’t be with anyone who won’t give her any grandchildren. She later started acting cold towards the girl. She noticed it and got hurt. Then she broke up with me.

Fast forward, I attended a funeral with my mum. One of her friend’s husband passed away and we went to the funeral. It was there I met my wife. The thing is I knew her a little when we were kids but I haven’t seen her for years. She’s the daughter of my mum’s friend. When we started dating, my mum was always saying that I shouldn’t waste time marrying her because she already knows her family well and we will have nice kids.

I have been chatting with my ex all this while though. Just about a year later, I married the girl. I was never in love with her from the start but she has been in love with me from the very beginning.

I dated her because my mum approved of it. Now we’ve been married for six years. She’s pregnant with our fourth child. My mum was so keen on having grandkids that I impregnated my wife before we got married, just to be sure. Every time I inform my mum that we’re expecting another child, she seems happier than me. I’m not a happy man. I’m grateful for such a patient and loving wife who sees my lack of affection and tries even harder to make me love her. I’m happy I have kids and I adore them very much. But all these years, I have been seeing my ex.

We have s*x all the time. She is 36 and unmarried and by the way things are going she doesn’t see herself marrying. There was a widower in his 40s who expressed interest in her. The man has two children and when she told him about her problem, he was willing to marry her and be with her. They even went out for a few months but she broke up with him and told me it was me she is in love with.

I married my wife because I wanted her to give my mother grandchildren. I married her because she was the girl my mother wanted me to marry. I am now starting to see how manipulative my mum has been all these years. I’m in my late 30s and my mum is still controlling my life, even telling me to make sure we add a fifth child after this baby is born so that she will have 5 grandchildren. My mum wants my first daughter to grow up a little so she can come and stay with her. My wife has agreed to it, but she doesn’t look happy about it and I’m not happy about it either.

Sometimes I feel like my wife knows I’m cheating but she has intentionally decided to ignore all the signs and pray for me instead. She is very God-fearing and it’s even the main reason why I feel very guilty about what I’m doing. I married her for my mother and now I’m not happy. Truth is, I want to divorce her and marry the one I love but it will hurt her. She is also pregnant with my child. I can’t leave the girl I love. That option is off the table. What should I do?

Relationship

Woman confesses that her spouse always defecates in bed as he’s ready to ‘cum’

Published

on

By

"I've been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed. "We've tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it's too sweet and he can't contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex. "But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse."

A Ghanaian lady who is married to a “loving and responsible husband” is looking for help dealing with what she describes as “disgusting” sexual encounters with her spouse.

The married woman with two children has said that her husband always defecates in bed when he is at his height of ecstasy during sex.

Revealing her traumatic situation to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3, she stated that she is considering quitting her eleven-month marriage because she cannot bear it any longer.

“I’ve been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed.

“We’ve tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it’s too sweet and he can’t contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex.

“But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because, despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse,” she narrated.

According to her, the situation is impacting her mental health because all attempts to settle her issue have failed.

“I’m going through a lot because it makes me puke; mentally, I’m breaking down. I’m not sure whether to quit the marriage because we currently have two children. I tried every possible solution to the problem, but nothing worked,” she said.

She is presently seeking assistance to deal with the circumstance, as the problem is harming her mental health.

Continue Reading

Relationship

I prefer to masturbate than have sex with my husband – Lady shares ordeal

Published

on

By

She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend. "Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand," she said Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

A Ghanaian woman has expressed her sexual discontent with her spouse.

The lady, whose identity has been kept hidden, told Confessions on TV3 that her spouse never stays in bed for more than two minutes.

She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend.

“Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand,” she said to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

Meanwhile, Life Coach Ebenezer Quaye, a guest on the show, encouraged lovers to share feedback to each other after participating in physical intimacy with their loved ones.

This, he argued, will inspire spouses to work on their sexual deficiencies.

“If you are having sex and do not receive feedback from your wife, there is a problem.” Wives should also provide feedback to their spouses. “It’s so nice and encouraging,” he commented.

He also gave some strategies for improving sexual shortcomings between lovers.

Continue Reading

Relationship

How my husband sex trafficked me for 13 years

Published

on

By

When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party. "It's going to be fun." She said. "Sure. "I would love to." I didn't have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone's attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

I learned that life was unfair at an early age, and in the worst way conceivable. My stepfather used to sexually assault me, and when I eventually had the bravery to denounce him, he received only three months of treatment as punishment and was allowed to live with me again.

My mother brought him back for financial reasons, but she kept us apart. They slept below, while we slept above. Nevertheless, I was traumatised and lived in terror. As if I hadn’t gone through enough pain, I met a man who I believed loved me and who sex trafficked me.

When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party.

“It’s going to be fun.” She said.

“Sure. “I would love to.”

I didn’t have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone’s attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

“Hello, Greg. I invite you to meet my buddy Wendy. “Wendy, this is Greg.” She spoke to the guy.

Greg turned to me, smiled, and extended his hand before saying, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.”

At that point, my knees were weak. My heart began beating, and I couldn’t stop smiling.

“Can I get your number?” He asked.

“Sure,” I responded and handed it to him.

I didn’t expect him to call, but later that night he did, and we spoke for hours. That was the start of a relationship that led to my being sex trafficked.

Greg understood how to make me feel appreciated, which is all I wanted. We became amorous quickly, and I fell pregnant soon after. I had been under my mother’s care since I was 17 years old when I had my child. Greg demanded that I leave my mother’s house so that we could make our relationship work.

“How am I going to do that?” I asked.

“I’ve got a plan. You may relocate to a shelter, where they will consider you emancipated from your parents, and then you will be eligible for welfare checks, and we will be able to get an apartment and live happily ever after.” He explained.

At the time, it seemed like a fairy tale, and I was all in. I ran away from home, and Greg took me and my kid to a shelter. However, life at the shelter was not as easy as Greg made it appear.

It took long for me to receive my first welfare check, and I was running out of baby goods. So I contacted Greg and told him I needed money to take care of our child.

“Don’t worry, I have a job for us to do.” He said.

I assumed he meant cleaning people’s homes because that’s what he told me he did for money. So I picked up my kid and went to see him.

“What are we going to do?” I asked Greg.

“Well, you’re going to walk up this street, wait on that corner for a man to pick you up and you’ll have sex with that man in his car and he’ll pay you.” He explained without emotion.

I was perplexed and apprehensive, but he kept bringing up my daughter and insisting that if I loved her, I would do it. I felt like I had no option. My knees and hands shook as I proceeded to where he had instructed me to stand. As soon as I arrived, a car stopped in front of me, and the driver requested me to get in. That’s how my spouse started sex trafficking me.

“I know a place we can go in the woods.” He said.

I did not say anything. When we arrived in the woods, we both exited and walked to a private location where he began removing his clothing. I took off mine, we had sex, and he gave me the money before driving me back to where he had picked me up.

When I came out, I went to Greg, who was still standing in the same location and handed him all of the money.

“I love you.” I knew I had made the proper decision in choosing you as my wife. He said.

We went to purchase diapers and formula for the baby and had a little extra. However, a week later, we were out of diapers again.

That time, he encouraged me to take on two or three customers so that I might earn enough money to leave the shelter.

“Do you want your daughter to live in a shelter for the rest of her life?” He asked.

From there, he started one of the greatest prostitution networks in the region. It comprised four to ten females from various states. He sexually trafficked me for 13 years while I was still married to him. It varied from once a week to every other day, depending on how much money he received from the other females. I worked as a street girl, and escort, and made house calls. Not to add that I have two more children with him.

People continually questioned me why I stayed with him for so long, but no matter what I told them, they couldn’t comprehend what I was going through. Greg hooked us to drugs and physically abused us if we attempted to escape. He would also send the other girls to find any girl who had gone and beat her until she returned. I felt bonded to the other females since we weren’t permitted to have outside contact. So, anytime I managed to flee, I felt horrible and returned because I didn’t want them to suffer.

After 13 years, I was finally free of Greg. I had recently given birth and was in the kitchen making supper for us when I noticed police cruisers outside our house. The cops swooped in, arrested Greg, and detained me for interrogation.

However, I refused to talk to them because I was afraid Greg would beat me if he found out. Because I did not comply, they accused me of sex trafficking and sentenced me to 23 months in prison. Greg was also charged with sex trafficking and was sentenced to ten years in jail.

My children were removed while I was in prison, and because the judge in the custody case felt I was a sex trafficker, she promised that I would not be granted custody of my children. When I got out, I returned to school and earned an associate’s degree. In addition, I returned to the same judge who heard my custody case to request custody of my kid. I went with my attorneys, counsellors, and even the police officers who detained me to explain my situation to the court.

She returned my child to me, and I returned home to live with my mother, who sadly died later. Today, I feel comfortable and satisfied, which is a wonderful place to be. I’ve realised that there are individuals eager to help those who have faced the same hardships that I have, and if you’re going through anything similar, you don’t have to suffer alone or in silence.

This narrative is based on the Unfiltered Stories YouTube video.

Continue Reading

Trending

Optimized by Optimole