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Never date someone who does the following 10 things



Never date someone who does the following 10 things

Dating can be a lot of fun. With social media and apps making it possible to meet someone with the press of a button, getting a date is often easier than summoning the guts to ask someone out in person.

Dating success can set the path for future happy and healthy partnerships.

The tricky aspect is that we all (including me) bring our best selves on dates. Especially on first dates. We arrive happy and pleasant, and any red signals are frequently pushed under the rug.

Nobody is flawless, and we all have imperfections, but keeping an eye out for these ten qualities might spare you a lot of sorrow if your relationship isn’t as great as it appears.

They’re always on their phone (or are sneaky with it)

Even in the most romantic of scenarios, your date may need to be on their phone at some point. They may need to interrupt a beautiful meal to take an important business call, or they may need to break a movie night to chat with their grandmother.

But imagine you’re holding hands and viewing a gorgeous sunset with your spouse when you turn to them…They’re also on TikTok.

They try and play mind games and make you jealous

If you feel like you’re playing mental chess with the person you’re dating, they’re probably not the one.

We see a lot of it: she takes four hours to respond to a text, and you take five. He posts a narrative about having a good time at the club, and you upload a steamy thirst trap to show him what he’s missing.

However, genuine and healthy relationships almost never involve gaming.

They pin all their self-worth and happiness on your relationship

It could feel great at first. They are continually telling you that your presence in their lives is the finest thing that has ever happened to them. They see you as the centre of their universe. One text message from you brightens their day.

But then you forget to send that text message, and everything falls apart.

They try and isolate you from your friends and family

Honeymoon periods are popular. Early on, you may find yourself wanting to spend every second with your date.

However, be wary of anyone who attempts to prevent you from spending time with your family and friends. This might be an indication of controlling behaviour, which could lead to you being isolated from everyone except your spouse and being in an abusive and poisonous relationship.

They’re flirty with other people

When it comes to romantic limits, everyone has their own set of rules.

Someone who is extremely tactile, feely, and flirtatious with other people, on the other hand, is often a red sign if it makes you uncomfortable.

I’d want to tell you differently, but after witnessing my own ex snuggling up and making eyes at a lady at a bar with the excuse of “That’s just who I am, I flirt with everyone,” only to discover a year of infidelity, I’d suggest avoiding highly flirty people.

They’re disrespectful towards other people

When they’re with you, they could be a real darling. However, they are disrespectful to the waitress. Or even to their mother. They also kick kittens.

Hopefully, no kitten-kicking occurs, but seeing how a person treats people around them might provide insight into their actual nature.

Consider how your date treats others (including animals), and avoid those who are rude or nasty.

They try and force you to be intimate

There’s a lot of debate these days about whether it’s appropriate to be intimate, especially in the early stages of dating.

There is, however, no correct response.

Whatever the reason, if someone attempts to compel you to do something you’re not comfortable with, or before you’re comfortable with it, avoid it.

They don’t brush their teeth

Okay, this one may seem obvious, but overall hygiene is essential.

We don’t all go to the dentist as often as we should (I haven’t in over a year), but someone who neglects basic hygiene and sanitation, such as cleaning their teeth or washing, is typically a no-go.

You must be able to take care of yourself in order to be in a successful relationship.

They call all their exes ‘crazy’

If you see a pattern where every ex your date mentions is labelled as ‘crazy,’ it’s generally a hint that they’re the one who’s insane. Or that their previous behaviour was enough to drive these people to act in desperate ways.

My ex’s exes were all ‘crazy’. They searched his phone for his whereabouts, smelt his pillows, and looked beneath the bed for hair strands. They were insane.

They can’t accept blame or apologize

Everyone makes errors.

There will undoubtedly be moments when mistakes are made, especially in partnerships. It might range from tee-totaling your partner’s automobile to washing all of their white garments with a bright pink towel.

What counts most of the time is not the error itself, but how the blame and apologies are handled.

A person who is unwilling to accept responsibility for their actions is a major red flag, especially if they try to shift the blame on you. Avoid dating someone who cannot admit and apologise for their faults.


I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend




I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend

I used to do fraud. Someone introduced it to my buddy, who then introduced it to me. The game has different stages. We were at the bottom of the game’s ladder, so we didn’t make much money, but the risk involved was excellent. Aside from the danger, you must labour every day in order to earn GHC500 every week.

We slept very little because our clients were all over the world, and because of the time difference, we had to stay awake in order to communicate with them. I had a major hit one day. I received GHC7,000 from a bargain and immediately purchased an iPhone for my girlfriend, Cynthia. She was aware that I was involved in fraud, yet she was uninterested. She became interested in the business when I gave her the iPhone and told her how I obtained it.

So when I had a customer who claimed to be a girl, Cynthia was the one who spoke to them. She was the one who set up the video calls. We were still struggling. We halted operations since the money was not flowing as promised.

Life was difficult for two jobless lovers. I couldn’t help her. I couldn’t help myself, so we relied on the generosity of friends who were succeeding in the game.

Ernest, a buddy of mine from Canada, came over one day, and we were all hanging around. Cynthia later informed me, “Your friend likes me.” He was licking his lips and staring at me in some way. Let’s go get some money from him. Tell him I’m not your girlfriend. Allow him to take me so we may obtain money from him.”

Ernest was formerly a player in the game. He went outdoors after getting money. I warned Cynthia Ernest that she might catch the hint, but she was so enthusiastic about collecting money that we gave it a shot. “Don’t let him sleep with you,” was the lone caution. Never.”

She brought me GHC 500 a week later. “He gave me 1,000 GHC.” “That’s your cut,” she explained.

Ernest was hiding the affair because he was afraid I would be upset if I found out he was seeing my sister. He was even concealing it from the team, but we were aware of what was going on.

He was here for a month, and we earned a lot of money.

He was still sending money after he left. Cynthia gave me my portion. I got a job and advised her not to see Ernest anymore. She didn’t give up. It escalated into a brawl, in which I threatened to let the cat out of the bag. “If you try it, you’ll go to jail,” she said. You know I’m familiar with all of your previous transactions. How much money can you offer me to get me to quit seeing Ernest?”

Cynthia is currently in Canada with Ernest, where they are having the time of their life. I tear up when I see their images. When I see these videos on Instagram, I want to kick them in the video.

Ernest finally understands reality. Cynthia, I believe, informed him in a way that she wouldn’t be held responsible, saying something like, “He gave me to you so we could get money from you, but I fell for you because you’re a good person.” That sort of thing.

I must confess, they had the final laugh. Cynthia informed me the last time I spoke with her, “If you stop being bitter, I will send you something small every month.” You don’t have to hate me since I don’t hate you.”

I bowed my head and kicked the bitterness out of my heart because money is money.

That girl is the only honest scammer there is. She maintained her promise. She occasionally sends me money. She’s gradually rebuilding the bridge between me and my old friend Ernest. She duped me, but I can’t really complain. I still have feelings for her but in a different manner. I adore her as someone who looks after me.

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I adore my husband, but I also love my boss




I adore my husband, but I also love my boss

My spouse is fantastic. He’s a wonderful father to our children, and I adore him.

Everything went well till I saw my Boss for the first time lately. I had just recently begun working at my new workplace, therefore, I had never met the Boss in person. He was smitten with me from the moment he saw me. He knows I’m married and is fine with it.

He treats me like a lady and pays all of my bills. He pays for stuff I don’t even realise I need. I enjoy spending time with him. He makes me feel incredibly protected, and with him, the world may disappear for all I care.

He is not married and, in his own words, is eager to “be here” for me.

We are yet to have shuperu, but he kissed me last night before we split ways, and I’ve been craving his kiss all day. Not only have I been thinking about his kiss, but also about what it would be like to lay in bed with him and yield to his wishes.

I tell him how much it pains me to do this to my husband, and he says, “Don’t worry. Everything will be well. He can’t be harmed by what he doesn’t know.”

He has a knack of getting under my skin emotionally. Only my husband has been able to reach me in the same manner that my employer has, and it makes me want to keep him—keep him and keep my husband.

My spouse just refers to him as my Boss. If he finds out, he would undoubtedly break down and break up with me, therefore I’ve learnt not to leave any evidence. I’m in a state of confusion right now. Confused because my husband needs to hurt me or treat me horribly in order for me to fall in love with someone else, but in this situation, everything is perfect between us, but I still long for someone new.

I desperately need my job, therefore I don’t want to offend my employer. This is the only job I’ve ever had that pays above and above my expectations. I simply cannot afford to lose it. Aside from that, I want my employer and I need my husband. I wish there was a way for the two to coexist.

The gravity of the situation is that, since meeting my employer, shuperu with my spouse has become a responsibility for me. I make myself available to him, but I don’t feel anything. It’s similar to the fable of the brook and the stone. What effect may the stream have on the stone? Nothing. He’s doing it, and I’m thinking about my employer. I am aware that I require assistance.

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Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle




Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle

A heartbroken lady has hauled her lover, Hassan Umar, to a Kano magistrates’ court for having dumped her after spending N900,000 on him.

In court, the woman’s counsel said that the defendant claimed he was in love with his client and that they had agreed to marry.

However, after spending the money on him, Umar abandoned her and stopped seeing her.

The defendant, on the other hand, pled not guilty to the accusations, explaining that it was merely a relationship that did not survive the test of time.

Following the reading of the charges, the Magistrate requested that both sides produce their witnesses for the next postponed session.

Addressing journalists after the court sitting, the woman said:

“I doubt he didn’t charm me. Whatever he asked me I did it instantly. I cooked different types of food for him, including chicken, meat, and even two rams.

“I spent over N900,000 on him. But from there, he started showing me as if he didn’t care. Later he stopped coming to me.”

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