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No one is above insanity. Sometimes we see mad people around and we unconsciously think that we are above them

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We shared a rented property with two other renters. I’m married and have five children. Our side of the house is the largest and has three bedrooms. Mr Ansah is with his wife and three children in a chamber and a hall room. Then we have Kwame, who is self-contained in a single room. Kwame’s room is in the back of the house due to the way the house was designed, and we rarely see him. When we do, it’s just a “good morning,” and he goes into his room.

But we were more like a family to Mr Ansah and his family. His wife could even go to town and get drinks for my children, so I began doing the same. When my kids are watching cartoons, they will summon Mr Ansah’s children and invite them to join them. We came to meet them at their home and became fast friends.

A period came when the Ansahs were always quarrelling. It was terrible. We used to hear them arguing on top of their voices and using insulting language on each other in the evenings every now and then. My husband walked over to their side of the house and spoke to them through the window. At the moment, the door was mostly shut. Sometimes hubby is successful in resolving the dispute early in the morning, and Mr Ansah is so ashamed that he would personally apologise to my hubby.

It’s not that we don’t argue; we do have disagreements, but we don’t yell at one other and we manage to move on from our disagreements. Mr Ansah’s wife is an introvert, yet when they argue, her voice is very loud. She doesn’t say much on a typical day. Her husband enjoys conversing and engaging us in a discussion.

The squabbles continued. They got worse till we heard them hurling objects at each other. Mrs Ansah then packed her belongings and left the man. Their children are in primary school, and we noticed how hard the man worked, especially in the mornings, to get the kids ready and take them to school. It grew so severe that my spouse asked me to assist him.

The squabbles continued. They got worse till we heard them hurling objects at each other. Mrs Ansah then packed her belongings and left the man. Their children are in primary school, and we noticed how hard the man worked, especially in the mornings, to get the kids ready and take them to school. It grew so severe that my spouse asked me to assist him.

Our children attend different schools, but I began accompanying him to assist him in getting them ready. Two of my children are teenagers who are old enough to assist their younger siblings. Mr Ansah will always be grateful to me. He began telling me how much he misses his wife and how he has been phoning and pleading with her to return but to no effect. My husband and I even got involved, pleading with her to return for the sake of the children.

She stated that we were siding with her spouse, that she has no plans to return, and that she is filing for divorce. I became so engrossed in it that my husband encouraged me one night to take a step back and focus on our family. How I was continuously checking up on Mr Ansah didn’t present a good picture, so hubby advised me to try to decrease my visits to his side, and I listened. We were there, and Mr Ansah had brought a young girl with him.

In this generation, it’s always the young girls who go after men who are old enough to be their fathers. The girl was in her early 20s. If Mr Ansah had had a child early, he would have been her father. The man is in his 40s. He just didn’t settle down early. At first, we all thought she was going to be a nanny and help him with the children. We were hoping that was the case because we didn’t want anything to make matters worse.

He didn’t even introduce us to the girl, which is unusual of him, and he began acting shady. He seemed to be avoiding us since he knew we’d ask him about the female. We’ve all been in our businesses for a long time, so he knows we’ll ask him. When the opportunity arose, my husband inquired about the lady.

He claimed she was essentially a housekeeper and was becoming impatient, so my husband took him at his word and left him. We didn’t want him to date any girl, but he was still a married man, and we wanted him to do the right thing for the sake of the children. If he wants to date again, he should legally divorce his wife and become a free man.

When the lady became pregnant, it was no longer a mystery. I’m not sure how his wife heard it, but one day she stormed into the house and insulted both her husband and the girl. We tried to stop the disagreement, but when it became clear that they didn’t want to stop, my husband drew me to our side. Mr Ansah was attacking us and claiming that by telling his wife, we stabbed him in the back. We didn’t do any of that.

Our friendship deteriorated and we stopped communicating. Everyone was in their respective lanes. For a while, everything was even tranquil. We then learned that the wife had finalised the divorce. Then she came one day to get the kids. The man was not present. It was only his pregnant girlfriend that was there. The woman abducted all three of them. Mr Ansah was intoxicated and screaming all over the place when he returned. Threatening to kill his ex-wife if she does not return the children.

Then one day, his girlfriend slipped. We heard she was showering and that she had fallen. She suffered a miscarriage. She left him and never returned to the house. She was never seen again. Mr Ansah got very lonely. We tried to contact him, but he always reacted aggressively and blamed us. The man began drinking heavily. Then various girls came to see him in his room. Soon after, some strange-looking men began to pay him visits. The fragrance of marijuana began to pervade the air at that point. Mr Ansah’s other renter, Kwame, arrived to meet with him.

He didn’t pay attention. Kwame informed the landlord about him. Mr Ansah is well regarded by the landlord because he arrived before any of us. The landlord simply spoke to him and then departed. Things worsened as we attempted to locate Mr Ansah’s family. We managed to contact his brother. Mr Ansah is the firstborn son of deceased parents. The supposed brother came around once and then disappeared.

Mr. Ansah was fired. He’ll be in the room for weeks without being seen. My husband was taken aback when he saw him one day. He’d dropped a lot of weight and hadn’t shaved in a long time. Then we began to hear him talking to himself. He’ll come in and sit in front of his door, talking to himself. Depression seems to be taking over his sanity. Finally, the landlord admitted him to Accra Psychiatric Hospital, where he is currently being treated.

All of this occurred in the span of four years. It concerns me to think about how rapidly Mr Ansah changed and transformed into someone else. No one is immune to insanity. When we observe insane people, we automatically believe that we are above them. However, having our neighbour go insane right in front of us teaches us that any minor alteration, if left unchecked, might have a negative impact on our mental health.

When you’re going through hell, please don’t isolate yourself. Your mental wellness is critical. I just felt like sharing because every time I think of Mr Ansah, I cry and wish I could have done more. But my spouse and I gave it our all. God bless you for taking the time to read this.

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Woman confesses that her spouse always defecates in bed as he’s ready to ‘cum’

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"I've been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed. "We've tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it's too sweet and he can't contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex. "But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse."

A Ghanaian lady who is married to a “loving and responsible husband” is looking for help dealing with what she describes as “disgusting” sexual encounters with her spouse.

The married woman with two children has said that her husband always defecates in bed when he is at his height of ecstasy during sex.

Revealing her traumatic situation to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3, she stated that she is considering quitting her eleven-month marriage because she cannot bear it any longer.

“I’ve been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed.

“We’ve tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it’s too sweet and he can’t contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex.

“But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because, despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse,” she narrated.

According to her, the situation is impacting her mental health because all attempts to settle her issue have failed.

“I’m going through a lot because it makes me puke; mentally, I’m breaking down. I’m not sure whether to quit the marriage because we currently have two children. I tried every possible solution to the problem, but nothing worked,” she said.

She is presently seeking assistance to deal with the circumstance, as the problem is harming her mental health.

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I prefer to masturbate than have sex with my husband – Lady shares ordeal

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She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend. "Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand," she said Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

A Ghanaian woman has expressed her sexual discontent with her spouse.

The lady, whose identity has been kept hidden, told Confessions on TV3 that her spouse never stays in bed for more than two minutes.

She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend.

“Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand,” she said to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

Meanwhile, Life Coach Ebenezer Quaye, a guest on the show, encouraged lovers to share feedback to each other after participating in physical intimacy with their loved ones.

This, he argued, will inspire spouses to work on their sexual deficiencies.

“If you are having sex and do not receive feedback from your wife, there is a problem.” Wives should also provide feedback to their spouses. “It’s so nice and encouraging,” he commented.

He also gave some strategies for improving sexual shortcomings between lovers.

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How my husband sex trafficked me for 13 years

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When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party. "It's going to be fun." She said. "Sure. "I would love to." I didn't have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone's attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

I learned that life was unfair at an early age, and in the worst way conceivable. My stepfather used to sexually assault me, and when I eventually had the bravery to denounce him, he received only three months of treatment as punishment and was allowed to live with me again.

My mother brought him back for financial reasons, but she kept us apart. They slept below, while we slept above. Nevertheless, I was traumatised and lived in terror. As if I hadn’t gone through enough pain, I met a man who I believed loved me and who sex trafficked me.

When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party.

“It’s going to be fun.” She said.

“Sure. “I would love to.”

I didn’t have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone’s attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

“Hello, Greg. I invite you to meet my buddy Wendy. “Wendy, this is Greg.” She spoke to the guy.

Greg turned to me, smiled, and extended his hand before saying, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.”

At that point, my knees were weak. My heart began beating, and I couldn’t stop smiling.

“Can I get your number?” He asked.

“Sure,” I responded and handed it to him.

I didn’t expect him to call, but later that night he did, and we spoke for hours. That was the start of a relationship that led to my being sex trafficked.

Greg understood how to make me feel appreciated, which is all I wanted. We became amorous quickly, and I fell pregnant soon after. I had been under my mother’s care since I was 17 years old when I had my child. Greg demanded that I leave my mother’s house so that we could make our relationship work.

“How am I going to do that?” I asked.

“I’ve got a plan. You may relocate to a shelter, where they will consider you emancipated from your parents, and then you will be eligible for welfare checks, and we will be able to get an apartment and live happily ever after.” He explained.

At the time, it seemed like a fairy tale, and I was all in. I ran away from home, and Greg took me and my kid to a shelter. However, life at the shelter was not as easy as Greg made it appear.

It took long for me to receive my first welfare check, and I was running out of baby goods. So I contacted Greg and told him I needed money to take care of our child.

“Don’t worry, I have a job for us to do.” He said.

I assumed he meant cleaning people’s homes because that’s what he told me he did for money. So I picked up my kid and went to see him.

“What are we going to do?” I asked Greg.

“Well, you’re going to walk up this street, wait on that corner for a man to pick you up and you’ll have sex with that man in his car and he’ll pay you.” He explained without emotion.

I was perplexed and apprehensive, but he kept bringing up my daughter and insisting that if I loved her, I would do it. I felt like I had no option. My knees and hands shook as I proceeded to where he had instructed me to stand. As soon as I arrived, a car stopped in front of me, and the driver requested me to get in. That’s how my spouse started sex trafficking me.

“I know a place we can go in the woods.” He said.

I did not say anything. When we arrived in the woods, we both exited and walked to a private location where he began removing his clothing. I took off mine, we had sex, and he gave me the money before driving me back to where he had picked me up.

When I came out, I went to Greg, who was still standing in the same location and handed him all of the money.

“I love you.” I knew I had made the proper decision in choosing you as my wife. He said.

We went to purchase diapers and formula for the baby and had a little extra. However, a week later, we were out of diapers again.

That time, he encouraged me to take on two or three customers so that I might earn enough money to leave the shelter.

“Do you want your daughter to live in a shelter for the rest of her life?” He asked.

From there, he started one of the greatest prostitution networks in the region. It comprised four to ten females from various states. He sexually trafficked me for 13 years while I was still married to him. It varied from once a week to every other day, depending on how much money he received from the other females. I worked as a street girl, and escort, and made house calls. Not to add that I have two more children with him.

People continually questioned me why I stayed with him for so long, but no matter what I told them, they couldn’t comprehend what I was going through. Greg hooked us to drugs and physically abused us if we attempted to escape. He would also send the other girls to find any girl who had gone and beat her until she returned. I felt bonded to the other females since we weren’t permitted to have outside contact. So, anytime I managed to flee, I felt horrible and returned because I didn’t want them to suffer.

After 13 years, I was finally free of Greg. I had recently given birth and was in the kitchen making supper for us when I noticed police cruisers outside our house. The cops swooped in, arrested Greg, and detained me for interrogation.

However, I refused to talk to them because I was afraid Greg would beat me if he found out. Because I did not comply, they accused me of sex trafficking and sentenced me to 23 months in prison. Greg was also charged with sex trafficking and was sentenced to ten years in jail.

My children were removed while I was in prison, and because the judge in the custody case felt I was a sex trafficker, she promised that I would not be granted custody of my children. When I got out, I returned to school and earned an associate’s degree. In addition, I returned to the same judge who heard my custody case to request custody of my kid. I went with my attorneys, counsellors, and even the police officers who detained me to explain my situation to the court.

She returned my child to me, and I returned home to live with my mother, who sadly died later. Today, I feel comfortable and satisfied, which is a wonderful place to be. I’ve realised that there are individuals eager to help those who have faced the same hardships that I have, and if you’re going through anything similar, you don’t have to suffer alone or in silence.

This narrative is based on the Unfiltered Stories YouTube video.

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