She divorced me because I cheated on her, but she’s now pleading for a comeback

I was married to my wife for eight years. She wasn’t paying attention to me or giving me sx. She was either tired, or she wasn’t in the mood—one reason after another. I approached the housekeeper, who assisted me. I stopped bothering Wifey with sx, and whenever I needed it, the housekeeper was there to help me out. My wife discovered that I hadn’t asked for s*x and began accusing me of cheating. She had no evidence, but she was very familiar with me. She was well aware that I couldn’t go days without it. When she accused me of cheating, I never denied it. I told her that she could believe whatever she wanted. I was hoping she’d come around and ask for it because women enjoy sex as well. Some enjoy it more than men. When we were dating early in our marriage, my wife never denied me sx.

But once the kids arrived and her job became more demanding, she became arrogant and refused me s*x. Her education and salary were both higher than mine. All of this occurred after we were married. That didn’t bother me as long as she saw me as her husband. She never caught me with the maid red-handed. I used to sneak out of bed at midnight and join the girl in her room. My wife worked hard all day, so when she sleeps, she sleeps deeply. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t wake up at midnight to pee. She awoke one midnight when I wasn’t there, and she either heard us fighting or put two and two together. She’s a wise woman. We awoke one day to find out she wanted a divorce. She said I was a cheat and there was no reason for her to stay with me.

She told me I could marry the housekeeper because she was doing an excellent job as a wife. I tried to persuade her to forgive me and fire the girl to save our marriage. We men are moved by what we see, so perhaps if I don’t see her in the house, I won’t pursue her. My wife did not pay attention. She dumped me and took the children with her. The children were only with me on weekends. I made no complaint. I was at home with the housekeeper. I’m not sure what to call our relationship. S*x was involved, but she was merely a housekeeper who worked for me and lived under my roof. To clarify, she was not underage. My wife told another website about how I cheated and how men cheated. I read that story and wanted to respond, but I just let it go and did my business.

Covid occurred. It significantly impacted my ex-wife’s business; They began laying off employees. My wife was not fired. However, the company has recently gone bankrupt. I work as a bank teller. We tellers dress nicely, but the pay is insufficient. My Wifey came to see me two months ago. She hasn’t done that since she divorced me. She hired a driver to bring my two children and return them to me. She vowed never to return to my house. She claimed to despise me. We didn’t part on good terms, and the few times we spoke on the phone were about something involving the children. One weekend, Wifey came to see me. She wants to see me again…lol. Maybe she misses my d*ck but is too shy to admit it. She stated that her financial situation is dire. She got a small hustle but nothing more. Meanwhile, she transferred the children from the school I had placed them in and enrolled them in an expensive Montessori school.

I didn’t complain because she was paying the fees. She now claims that the school is good and does not want us to remove the children from there. Instead, we should remarry and pool our resources to raise our children. She claims she is ready to forgive my betrayal. I forgot to mention that my housekeeper left me last year. She had to return to her family. I’m missing my wife. I miss having s*x with her. I missed our dating days when we were both madly in love. But too much has happened for us to return to being together. I cheated, and she said some disturbing things to me. I can accept her and never bring up our past with her. But I know a woman, and I’m familiar with her paaa. With the slightest misunderstanding, she will become enraged and accuse me of cheating. Everyone around me is telling me that I should either accept her back or forget her.

My parents want me to take her back, but they can’t. I’m an adult who makes his own decisions. Her parents were no longer alive, but her big brother called me a cheat, and we almost got into a fight. He doesn’t want me anywhere near his sister. Friends are saying various things. We could reunite for the sake of the children. But our marriage has been shattered so many ways that I’m not sure we can mend it. The love for her remains, but… I’m just a confused guy right now, and I’m curious to hear what you say. I cannot guarantee that I will not cheat again. But I’ll stick with her if she doesn’t deny me s*x. I’m 40 years old, and I’m still young as a guy. Perhaps I should move on and meet someone better. I’m having a lot of thoughts right now. You are welcome to share your thoughts. Admin. I’m grateful.

Source: Anonymous Confessions