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The selfish or emotional one? Lady caught in the web of two men

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Admin, you’re doing a great job. God bless you. Hmmm, my tale may seem amusing to some, but it’s close to my heart, and it’s important to me. Therefore, I’m hoping for feedback to help me determine what to do. So both of these guys are interested in me. They are both former classmates, and we are all 36 years old. We have no children and have never been married. We had this get-together after one of our friends’ wedding, and it seemed like very few of us were still single, and our other friends were all taunting us about the marriage issue. So, fast forward, I swapped contacts with a number of my friends for whom I didn’t previously have contact information. These two men I’m referring to were involved. They haven’t left me alone since the day we swapped phone numbers.

They both have well-paying careers and are content. The first guy has a physical appearance. He is tall and black, and he has a great beard. We went on a date, and when I inquired why he was still single, he answered that some of the girls don’t think he is. Others believe he is a player because of the way he acts. He enjoys interacting with others. He has a lot of friends everywhere he goes, so it was tough for me to accept him. People like these, erh, they’re not going to have time for you. If they go out with you, they will abandon you to talk to other individuals. We’ve gone out a few times, and he’s done it to me. The first man requested me to accompany him to the inauguration of one of his friends’ shops. He was quite well-liked. Everyone was yelling at him, and he left me alone for hours. Meanwhile, I don’t know anybody else who works there.

When another guy noticed I was alone, he approached me and began conversing with me, keeping me company. I could tell the dude wasn’t interested in me since he didn’t even ask for my phone number. Let’s simply name the first person Emmanuel. So when Emmanuel returned, he discovered that I was chatting to someone and became enraged. In the meanwhile, I have yet to consent to be in a relationship with him. I suggested that we go out as friends and see what happens. When we returned from the location, he gave me the silent treatment since I was chatting with another man. Meanwhile, he was all over the place, embracing and conversing with various ladies. What kind of self-centeredness is this? I was even taken aback. So I inquired of him. “How about all the females you were hugging?” He didn’t seem to mind me ooo. He simply dropped me off at my place and drove away, enraged.

So, let us call the second classmate Enoch. So Enoch is not unattractive. He is fair, slim, and not particularly tall. Just a hair taller than me. If it was simply physical appearance, I’d go for Emmanuel since he fits my profile. Enoch, on the other hand, is a decent man. He is attentive and polite, and he genuinely cares about me. I’ve also gone out with him as a buddy, and he’s a true gentleman. He would insist on answering the door and even cooking for you. He is the opposite of Emmanuel in terms of quietness. He drove me to the wedding of one of his coworkers and never left me alone. He even introduced me to his coworkers as a “good friend.” He likes to hold hands with you and will always ask for your opinion before doing anything. He makes me feel so special.

But Emmanuel is also far too sensitive. As a woman, I am even braver than he is. We were watching an emotional movie and by the time I saw, Emmanuel had tears in his eyes. Ei! The man is too emotional. One time he was asking me when I will accept him and marry him because we are growing and he really loves me. He was just telling me this naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa He’s gone through a lot. 8 years ago, a woman he was going to marry died a few months to the wedding and it made him shut himself off from women and focus on doing his Masters and now he is doing his PhD. The first time he narrated the death of his fiance to me, he cried like a baby and I had to console him. He is too emotional as a man and I am wondering if maybe he hasn’t gotten over his fiance.

These are two males I’ve been hanging out with for the past eight months as pals. I’d like my hubby to be one of them. I haven’t had any sexual relations with any of them. I require assistance in making my decision. I’m too mature to jump from one man to the next. I also do my own work, so it’s not like I’m seeking someone to come and look after me. I would have embraced Emmanuel by now if it hadn’t been for his selfishness and acute jealousy. He couldn’t even apologise to me, and he just messaged me weeks later, as if nothing had occurred.

When I tried to bring it up, he claimed he doesn’t like talking about things that happened in the past. Enoch is also a good man. He treats me so wonderfully, and I’ve witnessed how he speaks to and respects his parents. But the man is far too gentle, ei. He has the right to cry for Ghana. How can such a man console or even protect me when I am crying? Please allow me to read the comments.

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Woman confesses that her spouse always defecates in bed as he’s ready to ‘cum’

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"I've been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed. "We've tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it's too sweet and he can't contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex. "But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse."

A Ghanaian lady who is married to a “loving and responsible husband” is looking for help dealing with what she describes as “disgusting” sexual encounters with her spouse.

The married woman with two children has said that her husband always defecates in bed when he is at his height of ecstasy during sex.

Revealing her traumatic situation to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3, she stated that she is considering quitting her eleven-month marriage because she cannot bear it any longer.

“I’ve been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed.

“We’ve tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it’s too sweet and he can’t contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex.

“But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because, despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse,” she narrated.

According to her, the situation is impacting her mental health because all attempts to settle her issue have failed.

“I’m going through a lot because it makes me puke; mentally, I’m breaking down. I’m not sure whether to quit the marriage because we currently have two children. I tried every possible solution to the problem, but nothing worked,” she said.

She is presently seeking assistance to deal with the circumstance, as the problem is harming her mental health.

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I prefer to masturbate than have sex with my husband – Lady shares ordeal

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She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend. "Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand," she said Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

A Ghanaian woman has expressed her sexual discontent with her spouse.

The lady, whose identity has been kept hidden, told Confessions on TV3 that her spouse never stays in bed for more than two minutes.

She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend.

“Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand,” she said to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

Meanwhile, Life Coach Ebenezer Quaye, a guest on the show, encouraged lovers to share feedback to each other after participating in physical intimacy with their loved ones.

This, he argued, will inspire spouses to work on their sexual deficiencies.

“If you are having sex and do not receive feedback from your wife, there is a problem.” Wives should also provide feedback to their spouses. “It’s so nice and encouraging,” he commented.

He also gave some strategies for improving sexual shortcomings between lovers.

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How my husband sex trafficked me for 13 years

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When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party. "It's going to be fun." She said. "Sure. "I would love to." I didn't have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone's attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

I learned that life was unfair at an early age, and in the worst way conceivable. My stepfather used to sexually assault me, and when I eventually had the bravery to denounce him, he received only three months of treatment as punishment and was allowed to live with me again.

My mother brought him back for financial reasons, but she kept us apart. They slept below, while we slept above. Nevertheless, I was traumatised and lived in terror. As if I hadn’t gone through enough pain, I met a man who I believed loved me and who sex trafficked me.

When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party.

“It’s going to be fun.” She said.

“Sure. “I would love to.”

I didn’t have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone’s attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

“Hello, Greg. I invite you to meet my buddy Wendy. “Wendy, this is Greg.” She spoke to the guy.

Greg turned to me, smiled, and extended his hand before saying, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.”

At that point, my knees were weak. My heart began beating, and I couldn’t stop smiling.

“Can I get your number?” He asked.

“Sure,” I responded and handed it to him.

I didn’t expect him to call, but later that night he did, and we spoke for hours. That was the start of a relationship that led to my being sex trafficked.

Greg understood how to make me feel appreciated, which is all I wanted. We became amorous quickly, and I fell pregnant soon after. I had been under my mother’s care since I was 17 years old when I had my child. Greg demanded that I leave my mother’s house so that we could make our relationship work.

“How am I going to do that?” I asked.

“I’ve got a plan. You may relocate to a shelter, where they will consider you emancipated from your parents, and then you will be eligible for welfare checks, and we will be able to get an apartment and live happily ever after.” He explained.

At the time, it seemed like a fairy tale, and I was all in. I ran away from home, and Greg took me and my kid to a shelter. However, life at the shelter was not as easy as Greg made it appear.

It took long for me to receive my first welfare check, and I was running out of baby goods. So I contacted Greg and told him I needed money to take care of our child.

“Don’t worry, I have a job for us to do.” He said.

I assumed he meant cleaning people’s homes because that’s what he told me he did for money. So I picked up my kid and went to see him.

“What are we going to do?” I asked Greg.

“Well, you’re going to walk up this street, wait on that corner for a man to pick you up and you’ll have sex with that man in his car and he’ll pay you.” He explained without emotion.

I was perplexed and apprehensive, but he kept bringing up my daughter and insisting that if I loved her, I would do it. I felt like I had no option. My knees and hands shook as I proceeded to where he had instructed me to stand. As soon as I arrived, a car stopped in front of me, and the driver requested me to get in. That’s how my spouse started sex trafficking me.

“I know a place we can go in the woods.” He said.

I did not say anything. When we arrived in the woods, we both exited and walked to a private location where he began removing his clothing. I took off mine, we had sex, and he gave me the money before driving me back to where he had picked me up.

When I came out, I went to Greg, who was still standing in the same location and handed him all of the money.

“I love you.” I knew I had made the proper decision in choosing you as my wife. He said.

We went to purchase diapers and formula for the baby and had a little extra. However, a week later, we were out of diapers again.

That time, he encouraged me to take on two or three customers so that I might earn enough money to leave the shelter.

“Do you want your daughter to live in a shelter for the rest of her life?” He asked.

From there, he started one of the greatest prostitution networks in the region. It comprised four to ten females from various states. He sexually trafficked me for 13 years while I was still married to him. It varied from once a week to every other day, depending on how much money he received from the other females. I worked as a street girl, and escort, and made house calls. Not to add that I have two more children with him.

People continually questioned me why I stayed with him for so long, but no matter what I told them, they couldn’t comprehend what I was going through. Greg hooked us to drugs and physically abused us if we attempted to escape. He would also send the other girls to find any girl who had gone and beat her until she returned. I felt bonded to the other females since we weren’t permitted to have outside contact. So, anytime I managed to flee, I felt horrible and returned because I didn’t want them to suffer.

After 13 years, I was finally free of Greg. I had recently given birth and was in the kitchen making supper for us when I noticed police cruisers outside our house. The cops swooped in, arrested Greg, and detained me for interrogation.

However, I refused to talk to them because I was afraid Greg would beat me if he found out. Because I did not comply, they accused me of sex trafficking and sentenced me to 23 months in prison. Greg was also charged with sex trafficking and was sentenced to ten years in jail.

My children were removed while I was in prison, and because the judge in the custody case felt I was a sex trafficker, she promised that I would not be granted custody of my children. When I got out, I returned to school and earned an associate’s degree. In addition, I returned to the same judge who heard my custody case to request custody of my kid. I went with my attorneys, counsellors, and even the police officers who detained me to explain my situation to the court.

She returned my child to me, and I returned home to live with my mother, who sadly died later. Today, I feel comfortable and satisfied, which is a wonderful place to be. I’ve realised that there are individuals eager to help those who have faced the same hardships that I have, and if you’re going through anything similar, you don’t have to suffer alone or in silence.

This narrative is based on the Unfiltered Stories YouTube video.

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