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For Our Marriage To Succeed, He’ll Always Have To Be The Husband
I don’t remember our first meeting clearly but I remember there was a day we met in a group meeting. I had already seen Prince on Facebook. He was a friend to a very good friend of mine and he commented on that friend’s post a lot.
I started noticing him, though I never interacted with him on Facebook. We were not even friends in the first place. I was only admiring his way of writing things and how controversial he sounded sometimes. I was invited to that group meeting by our mutual friend, Dede.
During the meeting, first-timers were asked to introduce themselves and they all did. When it got to my turn and I stood up, Prince said, “Oh that’s Erica. I know her on Facebook and I’ve been reading her updates all the time.”
He won’t let me do my own introduction. He mentioned my name and even told them what I did for a living. I was shocked; “How did he know all that about me? We’ve never talked and are not friends on Facebook so how could he know so much about me?” At that moment I thought he had been talking to our Dede about me but later when I asked her she told me she’d never spoken to Prince about me. After the group meeting, I walked up to him and asked, “How come you know so much about me but I don’t?” He smiled; “I’ve been following you. Dede tagged you in her post one day and I went to check you out. Since then, I go to your page every now and then to check what you’ve been up to.”
I also confessed my admiration for him and what he does; “You’re controversial sometimes but I feel it adds to the spice of who you are and it’s a good thing.” We spoke all evening after the program. He walked me to the bus stop and stopped a taxi for me.
I left that evening with a piece of him with me. I liked him but not in an amorous way. I loved his way of thinking and the fact that he also liked me. We built some friendships from that day on.
When we were on the phone, there was nothing we didn’t talk about. He spoke fondly of his girlfriend and I spoke fondly of my boyfriend to him. The only difference was that my boyfriend was an imaginary one. He was a guy I admired and wished he would propose to me but he wasn’t even a friend.
One day Prince told me, “Go for him. Do everything to get his attention, who knows? he would fall for you too.” I told him, “I like him but I don’t think he would be that guy for me. I don’t think he can wait until marriage before we do shuperu. He’s too hot.
He has a lot of women around him and I know he gets what he wants from them. What would he use me for? A girl with all these beliefs and values won’t attract his attention.” We delved deeper into why I wanted to hold on until marriage.
He asked me, “So you mean you haven’t done it before? At your age and how hot you are? Why are you doing this to yourself? You’re missing out on a lot of fun.” I told him I wasn’t losing anything; “If anything at all, I’m losing out on a lot of heartbreaks because my friends who go into it and later come out come with a story that says, “I shouldn’t have given myself to him.”
We were friends for over a year when his girlfriend left him. I was the shoulder he came to cry on. He loved that girl deeply and that breakup nearly destroyed him. Within that year, I had dated about three different guys and they all had left me because I wouldn’t let them see my nakedness.
Anytime they left and I was crying, Prince will tell me, “Give them a little show. Maybe you won’t let them go all the way but a little of something isn’t bad.” He always accused me when my guys left me so when his girlfriend left him and he was breaking down, I told him. “You that you were doing everything, where did that take you to? Tell me. Are you married to any of them now?” He slapped my back and we both burst out laughing.
He told me, “The thing, I’m beginning to believe that it’s luck. Because some people have it so easy and there are us who must pass through the valley of death before we get to our destination.”
I agreed with him on that. I said, “But it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t persevere. We have to go on and on until God blesses us with the flesh of our own flesh.”
The next person I fell in love with was a married man. Prince was like, “Herh, you of all people? Craving for a married man?” I told him, “It’s a crazy heart I have, it’s not my fault. My biggest strength is the fact that I have control over my urges. I love him and it shows whenever I’m around him.
He has a clue now and he might be warming up to propose to me but when he proposes, you know I’ll say no. I won’t go ahead with it though I love him to death. There are so many things we love but don’t end up owning all of them. He’ll be one of those things I love but can’t have.”
The day that man proposed to me through a text message, I sent a screenshot to Prince. I said, “Your man did it, finally.” He asked me, “So what are you going to tell him.” I responded, “I’m thinking about it.” His words were, “If you love him as you proclaim, then let him know.
It will make him happy for a while and that takes away all the burden. Just don’t go through with it.” I took his advice so my response to the man was, “I love you too. You represent all the qualities I need in my husband-the way you take care of your family and how you’re always bantering with your wife on Facebook excites me.
I wish to have a man like that but I wouldn’t like to steal someone’s own. I love you, I like you just as you like me but I don’t think I can do anything with you considering your situation.”
He pestered me for a while but later gave up on me. He became a good friend. Whenever I needed help and I reached out to him, he willingly offered his help. On my birthday, he bought me my first iPhone and a perfume I loved so much but couldn’t afford to buy for myself.
We were good. Whenever he needed me to escort him to places, I made myself available to him. We were those good friends who built a fence around their fire so they don’t get consumed by their own fire.
When life was throwing me in and out of an emotional rollercoaster, Prince was also going through his own relationship issues. He’ll come and tell me about a beautiful girl he met yesterday and how their kids are going to be beautiful and all that.
A week later, that girl wouldn’t be around. Sometimes it’s his fault that they run away. Oftentimes, it’s the fault of those women. They didn’t know how to hold a man like Prince down.
One evening we were on the phone talking and the conversation veered towards the street of our relationship issues. Clearly, he was suffering and I understood it. He said, “I’m thirty-two going to thirty-three.
The dream was to get married before thirty. I want my kids to see me as a young man before I grow old. Look at me now, at this age, I don’t even have a girlfriend I can boldly say in a year or two I’m going to marry her.
This love life thing is a field of sorrows, it seems. You can’t just be happy in peace.” What he said touched me. It looked like he was talking about my own love issues. I told him, “Prince, I’m here. We can work things out.
I know we both have different values but we still can. Next time when you need a girl, I will be here for you. Just call me and I will come.”
He laughed at me. He called me a joke. He said, “I’ve always told you to go and look for a guy who wants to be a pastor. I and my kind are not good for you.” He took the whole thing as a joke but I was insistent and steadfast. He asked, “Erica, are you serious?” I asked him, “Prince, haven’t you suffered enough? I know you and you know me. How many years this, five years? What don’t we know about each other.”
Honestly, I didn’t know what I was saying or what I was getting myself into. Maybe I was overcome by emotions looking at what we were both going through. We started something but it took a long time for both of us to believe that we were actually doing this.
He was scared to get closer to me because he knew I won’t allow it. I was yearning for him to get closer so I prove to him that I was ready. When we were together, it looked like there was a vast gulf between us.
He would be at the far end of the room and I would be at the other end. I had to make the move so one day I did. He took my hand and I pushed in closer. He said, “What are we doing?” I answered, “You tell me.”
That day we kissed. It wasn’t my first kiss but it felt like it was. I’d never really allowed myself to have emotions but that day it was me letting myself go so the whole thing felt different. And the fact that I was doing it with a bad boy like Prince filled me with some sort of horror and fulfilment at the same time all the way.
At some point, I was even ready to go all the with him if that would prove to him that I was serious about him. He said, “Let’s play your game and see where it takes us too. You’re a friend, if this doesn’t work, I don’t want to lose that friendship.” I answered 99 times, “It will work and I know it.’
We dated for seven months and got married in the month of August because he wanted our marriage to coincide with his 34th birthday. We got married on the 4th of August 2017.
Soon it would be our fifth anniversary, our wooden year in marriage. People will talk about how long they’ve been married and later say, “It hasn’t been easy…” Ours have been easy.
I don’t really know what accounts for the smoothness we enjoy in our marriage now but maybe I will say it all boils down to our beginning and what we came to expect from each other.
He tells me he had lost a lot of good things in his life so he knows now how to hold on to good things. I tell him I still see him as that bad boy so whatever good things he does surprises me so he shouldn’t stop being this good until the end of our days.
When our first child came it was very tough. I didn’t know how to put a baby to sleep or how to make him stop crying. We didn’t have the benefit of having a parent or an elder relative stay with us. We did it all alone.
Baby cries at night and I tell him, “Do something and let’s see if it will work.” He would carry him around and rock him until he goes quiet. He’ll tell me, “Write it down, rocking a baby gently can make him stop crying.” When we were in doubt and didn’t know what to do, we resorted to a Google search; “How will I know the reason my baby is crying isn’t about food?” That was our first search because at some point we felt we were overfeeding the baby. Anytime he cried, a nipple went into his mouth. “It couldn’t always be hunger, right?” He asked so we searched.
We conquered our fears and won over our baby flawlessly. We have a second one now and that is easier. Some of the old tricks don’t work but a lot of them work so we take it a day at a time. For us to perpetuate this feeling we have in our marriage, we’ve both agreed that I will always be a wife and he’ll always be a husband—the meaning, we don’t even know but so far so good.
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The desire to pursue or break records captivated many people in 2023, with some reaching viral fame while others went disregarded.
However, attempting such exploits needs considerable preparation outside of the spotlight.
Before going on a record-breaking adventure, consider the following factors:
Think About Your Health
The pursuit of a record sometimes necessitates considerable physical and mental effort. Before embarking on such endeavours, it is critical to analyse your existing health situation. Consider the toll it may have on your body, since inconsistent sleep patterns and hard exercise regimens may hurt your health.
Take into account the available resources
Record-breaking attempts have financial ramifications. Determine if you have the means or funding to support your endeavour. Consider the price of a decent automobile, gasoline, maintenance, and other necessary expenses for certain records, such as a drive-a-thon.
Think about what you’ll get out of it
Recognise the motivation behind your ambition to set or break a record. Common motives include recognition, personal fulfilment, and promotional chances for your company. If the prospective rewards coincide with your objectives, it may be a worthwhile endeavour. However, if the endeavour does not provide real rewards, you should reassess your commitment.
Take a look at the rules and regulations
Each record category frequently comes with a set of regulations and guidelines established by organisations such as Guinness World Records. Learn about these rules and restrictions. Check that you can follow the regulations, as failing to do so may result in disqualification. Wasting time and effort on a project that does not fit the requirements yields an unsatisfactory result.
Prepare for a Positive or Negative Outcome
Understand that not every attempt to break a record will result in immediate success or fame. Prepare for the consequences, whether success, failure, or a lack of attention. Consider how the experience, whether you win or lose, may help you with personal development, skill development, or other elements of your life.
Setting off on a voyage to establish or break a record is admirable, but it takes careful planning and deliberation.
You may make an informed selection and boost your chances of a successful and enjoyable record-breaking event by carefully assessing these elements.
Conclusion
Breaking a Guinness World Record is a difficult but rewarding endeavour that demands thorough organisation and execution. Aspiring record-breakers may improve their chances of success and create a memorable experience for themselves and others who witness their amazing exploits by taking into account the criteria described above. Remember that breaking a record is about motivating others to push their boundaries and strive for greatness as well as attaining a personal milestone.
Consumers of pepper soup should rejoice. A recent study by Semaniuk et al.(2022) found that eating chilli peppers regularly, whether in soup or other forms, increases life span.
Chilli pepper fruits do contain phenolic compounds that are structurally similar to those that have anti-ageing activities.
Chilli powder given to diet at doses of 0.04%-0.12% significantly increased the median longevity of fruit fly cohorts of both genders by 9% to 13%.
Food containing 3% chilli powder, on the other hand, reduced the longevity of male cohorts by 9%.
According to a study of diet and mortality data from four big, multinational studies, ingestion of chilli peppers may lower the relative risk of cardiovascular disease mortality by 26%, according to previous research by the American Heart Association (2020).
Chilli pepper usage was related to a 25% reduction in all-cause mortality and a 23% reduction in cancer mortality when compared to persons who never or only seldom ingested chilli pepper.
This research piqued my interest in Nigerian pepper soup and Ghanaian light soups with spicy spices. For example, Jiang TA(2019) discovered that frequent consumption of spicy meals was also associated with a decreased risk of mortality from cancer, ischemic heart disease, and respiratory system disorders.
However, the real effect of spices and herbs in health maintenance, especially in preventing the development of chronic, noncommunicable illnesses, is still unknown.
Nigerian pepper soup has a rush of natural flavours and spices that excite your culinary senses and put your hunger right. It is quite adaptable since it can be created using a variety of meaty meats such as turkey, chicken, fish, and even our nutrient-dense offals.
Adegoke et al. (2015) conducted a study to assess customer perceptions of the gastronomic, social, and health characteristics of pepper soup. A systematic questionnaire was utilised to determine the reasons for eating pepper soup, the chosen type of pepper soup, the social setting for pepper soup consumption, beverage accompaniment preferred with pepper soup, and food categories preferred as accompaniment with pepper soup.
It also assessed people’s perceptions of the stated health advantages of pepper soup’s ingredients. According to the poll, respondents ate pepper soup on a weekly and occasional basis for enjoyment (68.3%) and relaxation (55.8%).
90.2, 85.9, 90.2, and 92% of respondents liked catfish, goat meat, chicken, and cow tail as the meaty components in their pepper soup, respectively.
Colour, texture, and flavour preferences were light or dark brown, thick or light, and peppery and spicy. 97% of respondents chose hot pepper soup, while 65.8% preferred warm pepper soup.
Respondents (66.3 and 79%) chose beer and wine with their pepper soup, whereas 75.9 and 90.7% selected non-alcoholic beverages as accompaniments, respectively, carbonated beverages and juices or mineral water.
The majority of respondents (60.5 8.52%) strongly disagreed that pepper soup held the majority of the health advantages associated with herbs, spices, and other pepper soup elements, showing that pepper soup may not be taken for its claimed therapeutic value.
The nutritional value of pepper soup is usually dependent on the components used in its preparation. The spices and condiments utilised have shown to be useful in medicinal treatments.
Pepper soup is a nutrient-dense, nutritious food. The soup is low in calories and fat, and it’s high in protein.
Pepper soup has a lot of vitamins and minerals, including vitamin C, iron, and potassium. Pepper soup is not only nutritious, but it is also tasty and simple to prepare. You may make the soup using chicken, goat meat, or yams. Spice the pepper soup to taste.
An article in the Tribune by Eunice Olaleye(2022) stated that a scientific evaluation by Dr Heben’s team on DrHealthBenefits.com concluded that the soup does assist in managing heart rate.
It also aids in blood pressure regulation, preventing it from becoming dangerously high or low. In other terms, it aids in blood pressure stabilisation.
Because pepper soup is an antioxidant, it also drives away free radicals that might cause cancer (Nwose EU, 2009; Agbor et al., 2019).
Pepper soup might help you recover from a cold or cough. There are various therapeutic benefits that you should be aware of.
The soup is also beneficial in chilly weather, according to the author. Hot and spicy pepper soup is crucial for keeping your body warm. It’s a win-win situation. You enjoy your pepper soup while also warming up your body.
According to youmustgethealthy.com, the elements in pepper soup are what make it healthy. Pepper soup contains unripe plantain, fresh catfish, cow skin, beef, or goat meat, which not only tastes good but also contains anti-oxidants.
Consuming pepper soup is one strategy to maintain proper vitamin intake while being hydrated. Because of the spicy nature, one tends to drink a lot of water.
Key Takeaways
According to the literature, pepper soup with local spices has several health advantages. According to a review of diet and mortality data from four major, multinational studies, intake of peppers or spicy spices may lower the relative risk of cardiovascular disease death by 26%, according to the American Heart Association(2020). Chilli pepper usage was related to a 25% reduction in all-cause mortality and a 23% reduction in cancer mortality when compared to persons who never or only seldom ingested chilli pepper.
With this knowledge, fans of spicy spices may include them in their diets in any way to improve their health.
NB: Prof. Nyarkotey follows stringent source requirements and bases his articles on peer-reviewed studies, academic research institutes, and medical societies. My posts are for educational purposes only and do not constitute medical advice for treatment. My goal is to educate the public about scientific evidence-based Naturopathic Therapies.
The author is a Naturopathic Healthcare Professor, a Medical Journalist, and a scientific writer. Professor40naturopathy@gmail.com is the email address.
Accra College of Education is a notable teacher education college in Ghana, located in the Eastern or Greater Accra zone. Following the Colleges of Education Act of 2012 (Act 847), the college was upgraded to tertiary status, allowing it to issue degrees in Basic Education. The university recently welcomed 321 new students into its academic community, demonstrating the institution’s ongoing involvement in creating the next generation of educators.
The college’s dedication to practical, scientific-based education is seen in projects such as “Experiment Share,” which attempts to improve science instruction through engaging and exciting live experiments.
History and Background
Accra College of Education’s long history and commitment to educational quality have positioned it as a significant role in Ghana’s teacher training and growth. The institution’s programmes and activities, as well as its cutting-edge Teaching and Learning Resource Centre, highlight its continual efforts to improve teacher education quality and foster creative, practice-based learning.
The college’s willingness to adapt to the changing demands of the education sector, emphasis on practical teaching techniques, and excellent leadership under Dr. Samuel Awinkene Atintono, Principal, highlight its importance in the field of teacher education in Ghana.
Accra College of Education continues to play an important role in defining the country’s educational future by providing prospective teachers with the information, skills, and practical experience required to flourish in their careers.
Academic Programs
Accra College of Education is well-known for its wide range of academic programmes for prospective educators. The institution provides a Bachelor of Education (B.Ed.) programme that is aimed to provide students with the information, skills, and pedagogical strategies necessary for effective teaching. The programme frequently includes specialisations in many fields, allowing students to focus on their individual areas of interest.
Furthermore, the institution may offer diploma programmes in education, which would provide an alternate avenue for students seeking a more condensed teacher training programme.
Faculty and Staff
The quality of any educational institution’s faculty and staff is directly related to its success. Accra College of Education is proud of its staff of passionate educators and professionals who are not only specialists in their disciplines but also dedicated to building a supportive learning environment. The faculty frequently engages in research and intellectual endeavours that help to develop education in Ghana.
Campus Facilities
Accra College of Education provides a welcoming learning environment with cutting-edge technology to improve the entire student experience. These may include well-equipped classrooms, scientific and computer laboratories, a library with pertinent materials, and recreational areas where students may relax.
Campus Life
The institution emphasises a comprehensive approach to education, recognising that the college experience goes beyond the classroom. Accra College of Education has a bustling campus life that includes a variety of extracurricular activities, organisations, and events. These programmes allow kids to gain leadership skills, create long-lasting friendships, and participate in community service.
Partnerships and Collaborations
Accra College of Education frequently forms alliances and collaborations with other educational institutions, both nationally and worldwide, in order to keep informed of educational breakthroughs and global best practices. These collaborations may enable student exchange programmes, collaborative research projects, and faculty development opportunities.
Contributions to Education
Accra College of Education has made important contributions to Ghana’s education landscape by generating a cadre of trained and competent teachers who go on to serve in a variety of positions within the education sector. The college’s effect extends beyond its campus, impacting the quality of education in schools and communities across the country.
Conclusion
Accra College of Education is a leader in teacher education, educating the next generation of educators who will play a critical role in shaping the minds of Ghana’s children. With a commitment to quality, a long history, and a devotion to comprehensive education, the institution continues to have a significant effect on Accra and beyond education sectors.
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