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I’ve been driving my dad to see his mistress and I feel guilty for betraying my mum
Hello. I’d like to make this confession while also seeking advice and suggestions on how to move forward. I am 25 years old and the fifth of five children. Unfortunately, one of my brothers died in a car accident six years ago, so we are now four. My parents have been married for 41 years, and my father is now retired. My mother sells eggs. All of my siblings have left the house to pursue their own interests, and they send money home to help support us. I’m an unemployed recent graduate. So, five years ago, I was updating my dad’s phone when I discovered evidence of his cheating on my mother. There were some bizarre chats and photo exchanges. I acted quickly and took screenshots of some of the chats, which I then sent to my phone via WhatsApp. Then I deleted the screenshot from my father’s phone so he wouldn’t notice. I kept quiet about it for weeks. My father is a strict man, and I didn’t know what to do about what I witnessed.
I was about to tell my mother, but I know how things affect her. She hasn’t been well since my brother’s death, and I didn’t want to bring it up because I found out about the chats about a year after my elder brother died, so it was still raw. But I began to watch my father on my own. He was going out a lot, and I couldn’t keep up with him. I overcame my fear one day and told him I suspected he was cheating because I had seen chats. Knowing my father well, I anticipated his reaction, and he delivered. He became enraged and warned me to respect him and to know my place. I told him not to do this to mum because she was still in mourning. As a result, my father had just left the hall and hadn’t spoken to me in days. Mum, on the other hand, was unconcerned about the tension. Then, about a week later, he came to tell me that he was ending things with the other woman, but that I should not tell my mother. I was relieved and agreed not to tell my mother.
I tried to put it behind me and move on. After several months, school resumed. Because our house is close to my hostel, I was returning home frequently, and I kept an eye on him but saw nothing suspicious. Then one day I overheard him talking on the phone with someone. He thought I was in my room because Mum had gone to a wedding. When he saw me standing there, he cut the call and asked why I was listening in. We argued and screamed that day, and if we had just a little more time, we would have punched each other. Then he told me that I would never understand and that I would only understand when I married. He resumed his silent treatment of me. Later, he warmed up to me and finally taught me how to drive in his old manual car after I begged him to do so before I turned 18.
We didn’t discuss his cheating, and he grew very nice to me. This did not happen overnight. But I gradually realized that my mother was not allowing him to do the do, and he was getting it with the other woman. He didn’t tell me directly, but he gave me enough hints to figure it out. He never brings her home, even when my mother is not present. Then, around the time of the covid lockdown, my father was driving me to get all of my belongings from my school hostel, and we took a different route to the other woman’s house. My father went inside and instructed me to wait in the car. That was my first encounter with her. She emerged a few minutes later, accompanied by my father. She’s a 30-year-old woman with a lot of goods in front of her. My father had no reason to leave during the lockdown, so when I told him I had to go get all my belongings from school per the directives, he saw it as an opportunity to meet her.
It’s gotten to the point where I make up stories and drive my father to his mistress, leaving them to go make my own rounds. I’m not close enough to my siblings to confide in them about this problem. My father has also been very nice to me, allowing me to go out at night and do whatever I want. He now even buys wine for the two of us to savour. Especially if Mum goes all night, this occurs almost every Friday. But deep down, I feel like I’m a co-conspirator in my father’s crime, and I feel like I’m betraying my mother. She has told me that she is pleased with how I now get along with my father and that he is no longer strict with me because I have grown. But I know that isn’t the reason he has grown fond of me. My father is now so forgiving of me that he no longer complains when I use his car. When the regular TV stations don’t show the matches during the World Cup, he’ll tell my mother that we’ll watch them outside. But I’m the only one who goes to observe because he immediately goes to the other woman.
I drive to her house after the game and pick him up. I’ve eaten his mistress’ food several times. I need to know what steps to take to get out of this situation. What kind of son would betray his mother in this manner? Is it better to keep quiet for now? Please advise me on what I should do. I intend to read the comments.
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I slept with 300 people in a year – detractors call me ‘disgusting,’ but I feel powerful
An Australian lady who claims to have had sex with over 300 individuals in one year described the experience as “empowering.”
Annie Knight, 26, said on “The Kyle and Jackie O Show” that she even slept with five individuals in a single day during the wild, fun-filled year.
“I felt empowered afterwards,” the adoring Australian said. “Sex makes me happy. Its purpose is to make you feel wonderful.”
Knight had sex with both men and women, and she told the radio show that she met many of her sex partners using dating apps. She does, however, have a list of “regulars” on the fast dial for when she feels like getting down and dirty.
“The messier the sex, the better,” she said.
Knight, called “Australia’s most sexually active woman,” went on to state that nothing is off limits when it comes to experimenting in the bedroom, stating, “I’m down to try anything.”
However, not everyone is thrilled by Knight’s open love of sex, with one detractor calling her “disgusting.”
Knight, who maintains an OnlyFans account, was also sacked from her marketing position when her superiors discovered her lewd online behaviour.
The sex fanatic told “The Kyle and Jackie O Show” that her website has plenty of kinky stuff since she performs “pretty much everything” on video.
Knight recently made news after speaking out about being fired from a separate site.
“The last thing I wanted to do was to get fired if someone found my OnlyFans,” she said on “SBS Insight” a few weeks ago.
“There was a list of three reasons why I was fired basically,” Knight explained, adding that she was “very upset and very angry” at her employer’s decision to fire her.
“They said I falsely advised that I had a side business, didn’t ask for permission from the company to run the side business and that I had online pornographic images of myself and crude language that was against company rules,” she went on to say.
When it comes to women, what does a man want? To a significant extent, the solution is and will continue to be a mystery.
But it hasn’t prevented scientists from trying to solve the mystery of human attraction.
On the one hand, each man has his own tastes. Qualities and features that are desirable to one guy may not be appealing to another.
However, research has discovered that many men have one trait: they prefer to believe their initial impressions. And those early moments have a significant influence on their level of attraction to certain women.
Of course, some women are born with the ability to make a terrific first impression with little to no effort, while others must work a little more.
Here are five characteristics that men find particularly appealing in women, according to a study.
Natural-looking makeup, including eye makeup and lipstick
Some males remark that they prefer women who do not wear makeup because they appear more natural. However, according to a Zoosk poll, 139 of 1,200 women who applied eye makeup in their profile photo were more likely to receive responses from males. Men were also more likely to desire to meet a lady if her profile photo included lipstick.
Women who wear “darker” cosmetics, on the other hand, were less likely to be asked out. Even if men claim they prefer women who appear “natural,” this implies you may wear “natural” cosmetics and still attract guys.
Also, fellas, it’s quite OK to remark that your girl looks great with winged eyeliner and red lipstick.
The ideal waist-to-hip ratio
This choice is based on health and fertility rather than appearance.
“Evidence also shows that waist-to-hip ratio is a strong indicator of a woman’s oestrogen levels, risk of obesity, and susceptibility to major diseases such as diabetes, ovarian cancer, and heart disease,” according to the study.
Dressing in red clothes
The colour red represents passion. It’s no surprise that males find it appealing. In a research conducted by psychologists at the University of Rochester, men were given images of various women with framed borders of either red or white and were asked how attractive they thought the ladies were.
They were then given an identical photo with the ladies dressed in either red or blue and asked how much they would spend on a date with that woman. Women who were framed in red or wore red were more likely to be considered seductive and beautiful, and males were more likely to want to spend money on a date.
A kind attitude
A pleasant demeanour always goes a long way. Researchers from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology discovered that a woman’s responsiveness to men’s needs and desires boosted her attraction to males.
A higher-pitched voice
According to studies, women prefer males with deeper voices. For males, the reverse is usually true, since some feel “[higher] voices signal reproductive fitness, femininity, and smaller body size.”
I used to do fraud. Someone introduced it to my buddy, who then introduced it to me. The game has different stages. We were at the bottom of the game’s ladder, so we didn’t make much money, but the risk involved was excellent. Aside from the danger, you must labour every day in order to earn GHC500 every week.
We slept very little because our clients were all over the world, and because of the time difference, we had to stay awake in order to communicate with them. I had a major hit one day. I received GHC7,000 from a bargain and immediately purchased an iPhone for my girlfriend, Cynthia. She was aware that I was involved in fraud, yet she was uninterested. She became interested in the business when I gave her the iPhone and told her how I obtained it.
So when I had a customer who claimed to be a girl, Cynthia was the one who spoke to them. She was the one who set up the video calls. We were still struggling. We halted operations since the money was not flowing as promised.
Life was difficult for two jobless lovers. I couldn’t help her. I couldn’t help myself, so we relied on the generosity of friends who were succeeding in the game.
Ernest, a buddy of mine from Canada, came over one day, and we were all hanging around. Cynthia later informed me, “Your friend likes me.” He was licking his lips and staring at me in some way. Let’s go get some money from him. Tell him I’m not your girlfriend. Allow him to take me so we may obtain money from him.”
Ernest was formerly a player in the game. He went outdoors after getting money. I warned Cynthia Ernest that she might catch the hint, but she was so enthusiastic about collecting money that we gave it a shot. “Don’t let him sleep with you,” was the lone caution. Never.”
She brought me GHC 500 a week later. “He gave me 1,000 GHC.” “That’s your cut,” she explained.
Ernest was hiding the affair because he was afraid I would be upset if I found out he was seeing my sister. He was even concealing it from the team, but we were aware of what was going on.
He was here for a month, and we earned a lot of money.
He was still sending money after he left. Cynthia gave me my portion. I got a job and advised her not to see Ernest anymore. She didn’t give up. It escalated into a brawl, in which I threatened to let the cat out of the bag. “If you try it, you’ll go to jail,” she said. You know I’m familiar with all of your previous transactions. How much money can you offer me to get me to quit seeing Ernest?”
Cynthia is currently in Canada with Ernest, where they are having the time of their life. I tear up when I see their images. When I see these videos on Instagram, I want to kick them in the video.
Ernest finally understands reality. Cynthia, I believe, informed him in a way that she wouldn’t be held responsible, saying something like, “He gave me to you so we could get money from you, but I fell for you because you’re a good person.” That sort of thing.
I must confess, they had the final laugh. Cynthia informed me the last time I spoke with her, “If you stop being bitter, I will send you something small every month.” You don’t have to hate me since I don’t hate you.”
I bowed my head and kicked the bitterness out of my heart because money is money.
That girl is the only honest scammer there is. She maintained her promise. She occasionally sends me money. She’s gradually rebuilding the bridge between me and my old friend Ernest. She duped me, but I can’t really complain. I still have feelings for her but in a different manner. I adore her as someone who looks after me.
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