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He spent all his money on me for 8 years but I left him for another man who left after getting what he wanted

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We dated for eight years. We were both financially insecure, and he was constantly promising us what our future would be like. When I turned 30 last year, I was sick of him and his empty promises. I eventually left the relationship and started another the next day. So much happened during those eight years of dating that I feel compelled to explain. Let’s call him Kofi. He’s four years older than me, and we grew up in the same neighbourhood. He stated that he has always liked me, even as a child, but has never approached me. My mother and I eventually moved out of the neighbourhood and rented somewhere else. I ran into him again at a program when I was 21. I couldn’t place him, but he did. A year later, we started dating. He always pretended that I was out of his league, and he worked extra hard to keep me with him. I’ll say it straight because I don’t hate him and I’m not ungrateful.

Following SHS, I attended a fashion design school. My mother was a single mother who couldn’t afford the tuition. Kofi took out loans for me to pay my fees, and he handled all other expenses. Everything, including my sewing kit and weekly money. He didn’t have a specific job at the time. He worked on everything that needed to be done. He could assist masons in the construction of a house or a road. That sort of thing. Anything requiring human labour. Kofi dropped out of SHS after his father died and his mother was unable to care for all seven of them. He saw me through fashion school, and I graduated. Following that, he obtained a container for me, and I began working. He was even the one who suggested I set up a Facebook and Instagram page for my business. So I did, and I’ve gotten a lot of online customers as a result. He also rented a single-room self-contained apartment for my mother and me. That’s where I stayed with her until she became ill and died.

Because I am my mother’s only child, it is customary for me to purchase her coffin and the dress she will wear. I’d already spent a lot of the little money I had to pay for hospital bills. As usual, Kofi stepped in and provided the funds. He wasn’t doing a better job, so I asked where he got the money, and he told me not to worry because what matters is that my mother is buried peacefully. Kofi bought me a refrigerator and a television. But I don’t want it to appear that he bought everything just for me. He was staying in a kiosk with two of his friends, and there was no room for those items. We thought we’d be here forever at the time, so he bought those things for both of us. He was also spending a significant amount of time at my end. He had a key and could go watch TV while I was at work. The only thing on the other side were his clothes. He was mostly staying with me.

I became pregnant for the first time. I wasn’t prepared for it at all. Keeping the child was not an option for me. He was overjoyed when I told him. We didn’t have enough money to care for a child, so I didn’t see how this was good news. But he was overjoyed. I began to persuade him that we should terminate this pregnancy because it was unplanned and we didn’t have the financial means to care for a child. He was still hoping that God would make a way for us, so I should hold on to it. I didn’t pay attention to him. I spoke with a friend, and she drove me to a place that does it, where I went without his knowledge. Following that, I informed him that I had terminated the pregnancy and that it was the best thing I could have done. He became so enraged with me that he stopped coming to my house or calling me for weeks.

I never contacted him. I waited for him to calm down and call. I was there one weekend when he showed up, and we patched things up. I became pregnant once more. I didn’t tell him about this one because of what happened the first time. I told my friend that I preferred to end it quietly and without his knowledge. When I brought up marriage in our conversations, he’d tell me that we needed more time to save money and that he couldn’t afford the items on the list my family would give him. Meanwhile, he has purchased a refrigerator, an electric cooker, a television, rented a house for me, and many other items. This marriage thing became a source of contention between us. At the same time, another man was pursuing me. He came to my shop after seeing my pictures on Instagram. I liked him, so I accepted him after a while and ended my relationship with Kofi on the same day. When I told Kofi I was leaving him, he cried like a baby and begged me not to. But I had already made up my mind.

I didn’t want him to come to the place he rented for me, so I moved elsewhere. My friend assisted me in packing. But I was at this new location when Kofi knocked on the door. When I opened, he demanded that I return everything he had invested in me. His eyes were bright red, and he was behaving strangely. He said he was coming for his refrigerator, TV, and microwave, and that I should also produce the baby I had aborted. He barged into my room, and I followed him inside. We were insulting ourselves as he disconnected the TV. I wanted to hurt him, so I told him I had an abortion without his knowledge, and that’s when he began telling me to have his children for him. He was acting as if he wanted to force himself on me, so I began yelling and people began to gather.

They wouldn’t let him take anything from my room. I noticed tears in his eyes as he was being dragged away. The most vexing aspect is that my relationship with the new guy lasted only a month. He got what he wanted and then just disappeared. I no longer adore Kofi. He has no plans to marry and being with him was stressful. We were always broke, and I’m sick of it. He has been bombarding me with social media messages urging me to return to him or produce the babies and everything he has spent on me. Because of him, I’m looking for a new place to live and rent because he can come to wherever I am at any time. Please, Admin, advise me on what to do about him. I don’t want to see him again. He stated that he wishes to have children with me, so I should become pregnant and replace the children I had aborted. Something I’d rather not do.

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Woman confesses that her spouse always defecates in bed as he’s ready to ‘cum’

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"I've been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed. "We've tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it's too sweet and he can't contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex. "But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse."

A Ghanaian lady who is married to a “loving and responsible husband” is looking for help dealing with what she describes as “disgusting” sexual encounters with her spouse.

The married woman with two children has said that her husband always defecates in bed when he is at his height of ecstasy during sex.

Revealing her traumatic situation to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3, she stated that she is considering quitting her eleven-month marriage because she cannot bear it any longer.

“I’ve been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed.

“We’ve tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it’s too sweet and he can’t contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex.

“But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because, despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse,” she narrated.

According to her, the situation is impacting her mental health because all attempts to settle her issue have failed.

“I’m going through a lot because it makes me puke; mentally, I’m breaking down. I’m not sure whether to quit the marriage because we currently have two children. I tried every possible solution to the problem, but nothing worked,” she said.

She is presently seeking assistance to deal with the circumstance, as the problem is harming her mental health.

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I prefer to masturbate than have sex with my husband – Lady shares ordeal

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She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend. "Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand," she said Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

A Ghanaian woman has expressed her sexual discontent with her spouse.

The lady, whose identity has been kept hidden, told Confessions on TV3 that her spouse never stays in bed for more than two minutes.

She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend.

“Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand,” she said to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

Meanwhile, Life Coach Ebenezer Quaye, a guest on the show, encouraged lovers to share feedback to each other after participating in physical intimacy with their loved ones.

This, he argued, will inspire spouses to work on their sexual deficiencies.

“If you are having sex and do not receive feedback from your wife, there is a problem.” Wives should also provide feedback to their spouses. “It’s so nice and encouraging,” he commented.

He also gave some strategies for improving sexual shortcomings between lovers.

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How my husband sex trafficked me for 13 years

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When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party. "It's going to be fun." She said. "Sure. "I would love to." I didn't have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone's attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

I learned that life was unfair at an early age, and in the worst way conceivable. My stepfather used to sexually assault me, and when I eventually had the bravery to denounce him, he received only three months of treatment as punishment and was allowed to live with me again.

My mother brought him back for financial reasons, but she kept us apart. They slept below, while we slept above. Nevertheless, I was traumatised and lived in terror. As if I hadn’t gone through enough pain, I met a man who I believed loved me and who sex trafficked me.

When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party.

“It’s going to be fun.” She said.

“Sure. “I would love to.”

I didn’t have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone’s attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

“Hello, Greg. I invite you to meet my buddy Wendy. “Wendy, this is Greg.” She spoke to the guy.

Greg turned to me, smiled, and extended his hand before saying, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.”

At that point, my knees were weak. My heart began beating, and I couldn’t stop smiling.

“Can I get your number?” He asked.

“Sure,” I responded and handed it to him.

I didn’t expect him to call, but later that night he did, and we spoke for hours. That was the start of a relationship that led to my being sex trafficked.

Greg understood how to make me feel appreciated, which is all I wanted. We became amorous quickly, and I fell pregnant soon after. I had been under my mother’s care since I was 17 years old when I had my child. Greg demanded that I leave my mother’s house so that we could make our relationship work.

“How am I going to do that?” I asked.

“I’ve got a plan. You may relocate to a shelter, where they will consider you emancipated from your parents, and then you will be eligible for welfare checks, and we will be able to get an apartment and live happily ever after.” He explained.

At the time, it seemed like a fairy tale, and I was all in. I ran away from home, and Greg took me and my kid to a shelter. However, life at the shelter was not as easy as Greg made it appear.

It took long for me to receive my first welfare check, and I was running out of baby goods. So I contacted Greg and told him I needed money to take care of our child.

“Don’t worry, I have a job for us to do.” He said.

I assumed he meant cleaning people’s homes because that’s what he told me he did for money. So I picked up my kid and went to see him.

“What are we going to do?” I asked Greg.

“Well, you’re going to walk up this street, wait on that corner for a man to pick you up and you’ll have sex with that man in his car and he’ll pay you.” He explained without emotion.

I was perplexed and apprehensive, but he kept bringing up my daughter and insisting that if I loved her, I would do it. I felt like I had no option. My knees and hands shook as I proceeded to where he had instructed me to stand. As soon as I arrived, a car stopped in front of me, and the driver requested me to get in. That’s how my spouse started sex trafficking me.

“I know a place we can go in the woods.” He said.

I did not say anything. When we arrived in the woods, we both exited and walked to a private location where he began removing his clothing. I took off mine, we had sex, and he gave me the money before driving me back to where he had picked me up.

When I came out, I went to Greg, who was still standing in the same location and handed him all of the money.

“I love you.” I knew I had made the proper decision in choosing you as my wife. He said.

We went to purchase diapers and formula for the baby and had a little extra. However, a week later, we were out of diapers again.

That time, he encouraged me to take on two or three customers so that I might earn enough money to leave the shelter.

“Do you want your daughter to live in a shelter for the rest of her life?” He asked.

From there, he started one of the greatest prostitution networks in the region. It comprised four to ten females from various states. He sexually trafficked me for 13 years while I was still married to him. It varied from once a week to every other day, depending on how much money he received from the other females. I worked as a street girl, and escort, and made house calls. Not to add that I have two more children with him.

People continually questioned me why I stayed with him for so long, but no matter what I told them, they couldn’t comprehend what I was going through. Greg hooked us to drugs and physically abused us if we attempted to escape. He would also send the other girls to find any girl who had gone and beat her until she returned. I felt bonded to the other females since we weren’t permitted to have outside contact. So, anytime I managed to flee, I felt horrible and returned because I didn’t want them to suffer.

After 13 years, I was finally free of Greg. I had recently given birth and was in the kitchen making supper for us when I noticed police cruisers outside our house. The cops swooped in, arrested Greg, and detained me for interrogation.

However, I refused to talk to them because I was afraid Greg would beat me if he found out. Because I did not comply, they accused me of sex trafficking and sentenced me to 23 months in prison. Greg was also charged with sex trafficking and was sentenced to ten years in jail.

My children were removed while I was in prison, and because the judge in the custody case felt I was a sex trafficker, she promised that I would not be granted custody of my children. When I got out, I returned to school and earned an associate’s degree. In addition, I returned to the same judge who heard my custody case to request custody of my kid. I went with my attorneys, counsellors, and even the police officers who detained me to explain my situation to the court.

She returned my child to me, and I returned home to live with my mother, who sadly died later. Today, I feel comfortable and satisfied, which is a wonderful place to be. I’ve realised that there are individuals eager to help those who have faced the same hardships that I have, and if you’re going through anything similar, you don’t have to suffer alone or in silence.

This narrative is based on the Unfiltered Stories YouTube video.

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