Hello, as always, please post this anonymously for me. I met my sugar daddy when I was 19 years old and looking for university funding. He and my good buddy’s father were friends, and my friend had informed me about how wealthy the man was, so I should see if he might assist me. I’d known him for a while. On the recommendation of a buddy, I approached him and explained my position. He provided me with his personal phone number and urged me to bring my WASSCE results to his office. So, to cut a long tale short, he began paying my school tuition and other expenses. He instructed me to inform my parents that I had applied for and received a scholarship. He stated that he assists many people and does not want their parents to know about it.
I began receiving calls from him at random. I’ll be at school when he calls and asks to speak with me. He then began to come to college in the evenings to take me out. I inquired about his wife, and he replied that he had adopted me as his daughter and that I should think of him as my father, taking care of me. I, for one, accepted it. Many of the girls on the Legon campus have sponsors in some form or another, and if this man was looking after me in exchange for s*x, I was happy to go along with it. My friend picked up on what was going on and questioned me about it once, to which I replied. The good news is that my father is very concerned about acquiring STDs and passing them on to his wife, so he always uses protection. This bond lasted, and even when I started dating at school, he was there for me.
When I told him I had a boyfriend, he was enraged and said I should break up with him or he would stop taking care of me. He stopped calling, and it took me weeks to persuade and argue with him that I am not his only child, and he has been sharing us with his wife for years, so he should accept if I have a partner because I am also just starting out in life, and there is no future with him. We continued once he consented to this. He always urged me to be cautious when I was with my partner, and he took me to his doctor for random std tests. I finished university and obtained a job through one of his acquaintances. The job pays nicely, and I’m still with my lover. He was a UCC student, and we were in a long-distance relationship, so he was unaware of my sugar daddy.
My zaddy’s wife died the same year I started working full-time. It was a crushing blow to him. His three children arrived from outside for the burial and returned afterwards. He had never previously allowed any of his daughters to visit his home, but after his wife died, he became increasingly insistent on my attendance. My lover grew suspicious at the same time. He began to notice my absence, and I began to cancel date nights. He’ll travel all the way from Cape Coast, where he’s been working, and I’ll brown him. Someone would have abandoned me, but he was so in love with me that he always forgave me and we moved on. He now visits Accra on weekends and has proposed marriage to me. His proposal occurred just a few days after my zaddy announced his intention to marry me. I told him I couldn’t marry him (zaddy), and now he says I owe him money for everything he’s spent on me.
I understand he is lonely after his wife’s death, and I also understand he has other girlfriends who are even more beautiful than me, so I don’t understand why he insists on marrying me. I’m in my mid-20s, and this man is nearly 60 years old. This is completely unjust. Even if I marry him, I know he’ll be sleeping with other women. He has visited my parents and has lied to them, claiming that we have been dating for years and that he has been paying my tuition. The second part is correct, but we were not dating. I’m sure he gave my parents a large lot of money and made some promises because, despite knowing my true love, my parents have changed. My father has grown extremely quiet, and my mother advises me to marry the old man so that I can have a tranquil and pleasant life.
Meanwhile, my boyfriend is putting pressure on me to establish a date for him to leave and officially notify my parents of his plans. We were in the same class at university and graduated the same year, although he is 7 years older than me. He is 32 years old and eager to marry. I’m at a loss for what to do. I’m not sure if I should tell him about the zaddy and see if he can help me escape the old man. My boyfriend is not poor. He has a decent job, and we can establish a wonderful family together. I’d rather be with him. My pal is making problems worse. He advised me to forget about my boyfriend and marry Zaddy because he will take good care of me. Please do not make fun of me. I didn’t make the elderly man sponsor me, but I did keep my end of the bargain by sleeping with him. Marriage was never an option. So forcing me to marry him is completely unjust. Please provide guidance.
Source: Anonymous Confessions
