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He lied to me about being a virgin just to have a bite… Should I go ahead and marry him?

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I met him during my freshman year of university. I was ecstatic about the independence that comes with moving away from home. I was looking for my way around the university when we met and ended up going with him and some other friends in search of our various departments. It wasn’t anything serious at first because he didn’t speak to me while we were in the group. In fact, it was his companions who did all of the talking. As a result, I was shocked to see a text from him when I came home. That’s how my connection with Radnor began. I was fairly innocent at the time and had never been in a relationship before, so I relished his presence and our chats. We were flirting, and at one point, I was hoping he’d propose that we start dating. He, however, did not. I always viewed him as a favourite of virtually all the beautiful girls on my floor whenever he came to visit me at my hostel, so it seemed he had a smorgasbord of ladies to select from.

So I put my feelings for him aside for a bit and focused my attention on Fiifi, a boy who expressed interest in me. Fiifi was a well-liked young man from a wealthy family. I never paid attention to him since, according to my rigorous Christian convictions, I told myself hypocritically that I would only date someone when I was ready to finish school. However, Fiifi, his friends, my friends, and my roommates put a lot of pressure on me until I consented to date him. I eventually fell in love with Fiifi and forgot about my romantic feelings for Radnor. Surprisingly, Radnor began to display interest in me about this time. I politely declined and informed him that I was in a relationship. He appeared disappointed, but we remained friends. I was always there to listen to his new girlfriend’s antics, and I became his confidant. Nonetheless, he kept hinting that he still had feelings for me. With my strong Christian background, I thought it was a good thing we didn’t date since I thought he was a bad boy.

We lost touch when he was about to finish school and were no longer in each other’s lives. But we ended up reconnecting when he graduated from high school. It was also during a time when I was pondering ending my relationship with Fiifi. When things with Fiifi went south, Radnor was there to lend a shoulder. He proposed to me soon after the separation, and I agreed. We were finally together after many years of yearning. I was overjoyed. It wasn’t easy, but he taught me how to love and cherish myself. We’ve had numerous fights, but they’ve always ended in love. We’ve been in a relationship for three years and are getting ready to get married.

My issue is that when we first started dating, we decided to refrain from using shuperu until we married. It was challenging for him, but I pushed him to develop his faith and walk with me in purity. Things were going well until he tried to push himself on me one day. I fought him off and stormed out of his house. Later, he apologized for his conduct, saying, “I’m sorry, I don’t know what came over.” “Perhaps my desire for you is so intense because I’ve never done it before.” “How come you’ve never done it before?” ” You’ve dated a lot of girls.” I inquired. “Yes, it’s true, but I never touched them,” he replied. I wasn’t sure how to tell you, but there you have it.” I was stunned and couldn’t believe it because I knew the type of girls he dated. I asked him numerous times if it was genuine, and he said it was. This happened during the first year of our relationship, so I worked with it in mind and was extremely pleased with it.

I even tried to compromise a little on our intimacy and made out with him a few times simply to ease his pain. Everything was OK until we recently discussed his ex-girlfriend.

He’d met her and told me about their time together. Then he brought up her promiscuity, and I jokingly responded, “Why, did you eat some?” “Of course,” he responded, surprising me. I caught him off guard, so he told the truth without thinking. After laughing it off, I challenged him about it, and he admitted to being highly sexually active in his previous relationships. He claimed he lied to me in order to identify with me on something, in order not to lose me. I was furious! I felt like an idiot. It was all a farce, he kept telling me about how being a virgin made him feel and talking about our wedding night. And can you believe he acted so convincingly that he joked about whether we’d be able to pull it off on our wedding night?

I’m perplexed as I sit here. He stared into my eyes so many times without provocation and kept making up stories that were all falsehoods. I’m not sure I even know who I’m dating. I’m starting to wonder if anything he’s ever told me is true. My question is if he can lie so readily about multiple instances in which he almost lost his so-called virginity, what else has he been lying about? I need your help since I am seriously considering ending our relationship because I can no longer relate to or trust him. Am I being overly dramatic?

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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend

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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend

I used to do fraud. Someone introduced it to my buddy, who then introduced it to me. The game has different stages. We were at the bottom of the game’s ladder, so we didn’t make much money, but the risk involved was excellent. Aside from the danger, you must labour every day in order to earn GHC500 every week.

We slept very little because our clients were all over the world, and because of the time difference, we had to stay awake in order to communicate with them. I had a major hit one day. I received GHC7,000 from a bargain and immediately purchased an iPhone for my girlfriend, Cynthia. She was aware that I was involved in fraud, yet she was uninterested. She became interested in the business when I gave her the iPhone and told her how I obtained it.

So when I had a customer who claimed to be a girl, Cynthia was the one who spoke to them. She was the one who set up the video calls. We were still struggling. We halted operations since the money was not flowing as promised.

Life was difficult for two jobless lovers. I couldn’t help her. I couldn’t help myself, so we relied on the generosity of friends who were succeeding in the game.

Ernest, a buddy of mine from Canada, came over one day, and we were all hanging around. Cynthia later informed me, “Your friend likes me.” He was licking his lips and staring at me in some way. Let’s go get some money from him. Tell him I’m not your girlfriend. Allow him to take me so we may obtain money from him.”

Ernest was formerly a player in the game. He went outdoors after getting money. I warned Cynthia Ernest that she might catch the hint, but she was so enthusiastic about collecting money that we gave it a shot. “Don’t let him sleep with you,” was the lone caution. Never.”

She brought me GHC 500 a week later. “He gave me 1,000 GHC.” “That’s your cut,” she explained.

Ernest was hiding the affair because he was afraid I would be upset if I found out he was seeing my sister. He was even concealing it from the team, but we were aware of what was going on.

He was here for a month, and we earned a lot of money.

He was still sending money after he left. Cynthia gave me my portion. I got a job and advised her not to see Ernest anymore. She didn’t give up. It escalated into a brawl, in which I threatened to let the cat out of the bag. “If you try it, you’ll go to jail,” she said. You know I’m familiar with all of your previous transactions. How much money can you offer me to get me to quit seeing Ernest?”

Cynthia is currently in Canada with Ernest, where they are having the time of their life. I tear up when I see their images. When I see these videos on Instagram, I want to kick them in the video.

Ernest finally understands reality. Cynthia, I believe, informed him in a way that she wouldn’t be held responsible, saying something like, “He gave me to you so we could get money from you, but I fell for you because you’re a good person.” That sort of thing.

I must confess, they had the final laugh. Cynthia informed me the last time I spoke with her, “If you stop being bitter, I will send you something small every month.” You don’t have to hate me since I don’t hate you.”

I bowed my head and kicked the bitterness out of my heart because money is money.

That girl is the only honest scammer there is. She maintained her promise. She occasionally sends me money. She’s gradually rebuilding the bridge between me and my old friend Ernest. She duped me, but I can’t really complain. I still have feelings for her but in a different manner. I adore her as someone who looks after me.

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I adore my husband, but I also love my boss

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I adore my husband, but I also love my boss

My spouse is fantastic. He’s a wonderful father to our children, and I adore him.

Everything went well till I saw my Boss for the first time lately. I had just recently begun working at my new workplace, therefore, I had never met the Boss in person. He was smitten with me from the moment he saw me. He knows I’m married and is fine with it.

He treats me like a lady and pays all of my bills. He pays for stuff I don’t even realise I need. I enjoy spending time with him. He makes me feel incredibly protected, and with him, the world may disappear for all I care.

He is not married and, in his own words, is eager to “be here” for me.

We are yet to have shuperu, but he kissed me last night before we split ways, and I’ve been craving his kiss all day. Not only have I been thinking about his kiss, but also about what it would be like to lay in bed with him and yield to his wishes.

I tell him how much it pains me to do this to my husband, and he says, “Don’t worry. Everything will be well. He can’t be harmed by what he doesn’t know.”

He has a knack of getting under my skin emotionally. Only my husband has been able to reach me in the same manner that my employer has, and it makes me want to keep him—keep him and keep my husband.

My spouse just refers to him as my Boss. If he finds out, he would undoubtedly break down and break up with me, therefore I’ve learnt not to leave any evidence. I’m in a state of confusion right now. Confused because my husband needs to hurt me or treat me horribly in order for me to fall in love with someone else, but in this situation, everything is perfect between us, but I still long for someone new.

I desperately need my job, therefore I don’t want to offend my employer. This is the only job I’ve ever had that pays above and above my expectations. I simply cannot afford to lose it. Aside from that, I want my employer and I need my husband. I wish there was a way for the two to coexist.

The gravity of the situation is that, since meeting my employer, shuperu with my spouse has become a responsibility for me. I make myself available to him, but I don’t feel anything. It’s similar to the fable of the brook and the stone. What effect may the stream have on the stone? Nothing. He’s doing it, and I’m thinking about my employer. I am aware that I require assistance.

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Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle

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Woman sues boyfriend for abandoning her after funding his extravagant lifestyle

A heartbroken lady has hauled her lover, Hassan Umar, to a Kano magistrates’ court for having dumped her after spending N900,000 on him.

In court, the woman’s counsel said that the defendant claimed he was in love with his client and that they had agreed to marry.

However, after spending the money on him, Umar abandoned her and stopped seeing her.

The defendant, on the other hand, pled not guilty to the accusations, explaining that it was merely a relationship that did not survive the test of time.

Following the reading of the charges, the Magistrate requested that both sides produce their witnesses for the next postponed session.

Addressing journalists after the court sitting, the woman said:

“I doubt he didn’t charm me. Whatever he asked me I did it instantly. I cooked different types of food for him, including chicken, meat, and even two rams.

“I spent over N900,000 on him. But from there, he started showing me as if he didn’t care. Later he stopped coming to me.”

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