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My mother-in-law is advising me to cheat on her son to get a child because my husband’s manhood has lost its spark

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We dated for two years before marrying. Everything between us was fine. Our sexual life was also enjoyable. I wasn’t the type of woman who would approach her lover and ask for shuperu. I didn’t feel comfortable asking for it, so even when I needed it, I focused on him, expecting he’d ask for it and I’d give it to him. He was the one. He wasn’t bothered by having it three times a day. I didn’t fight back. I made no complaint. I was always ready to serve him whenever he needed it.

I remember one evening when we were dating. The rain was falling heavily when he called me to come over to his place. From my place to his place, it was like fifteen minutes of driving and ten minutes of walking from the junction where you’ll alight. I told him, “See how the rain is falling.” It wouldn’t be easy for me to go out there, get a car, and come. Let’s do it tomorrow. It’s already late, so tomorrow is just a few hours away.” He protested, but I wasn’t ready to take that risk. We both argued until we hung up. A few minutes later, I heard a knock on my door. I was almost asleep. I screamed, “Who’s that?” And he responded, “Who could be knocking on your door at this time of the night?” “Open the door and stop doing shakara over there.”

Reginald’s voice was heard. My fiancee. I rushed to open the door, and he rushed inside in his drenched dress. He didn’t even wait for me to remove his shirt. He slammed into me and grabbed the piece he desired. I asked him while he was panting on the bed, “So you couldn’t wait till tomorrow?” “If you had, you would have died.” He responded, “As if she wasn’t having fun.” “Keep your voice down there.”

When it came to shuperu, Reginald could go so far as to get it. We married, and he lost his spark a year later. He blamed it on the job and on life’s pressures. He blamed it on the poor state of the economy, but I wasn’t a child. I could see there was a problem. His thing barely stood up. Sometimes I’d play with it till it gained some power, but just as he was about to go in, he’d go flaccid again. “What’s the matter with you, Reggy?” He’ll begin ranting: “Being a man is no laughing matter.” How can I be responsible for all of this while still performing in bed? “It’s not easy; you must understand.”

I bore it all until it got to a point where I couldn’t stand it again. I was complaining every night. I was urging him to seek medication. When I went out and I heard about a drug that was good for men, I bought it for him. The problem was, he never took the medication seriously. He told me I wasn’t a doctor to prescribe a drug for him. I told him, “Then let’s see a specialist together. He told me he didn’t have the money to waste on a specialist and that he was fine. I’m the woman so I started feeling the pressure. Three years of marriage without a child does something to the woman than to the man so I took it upon myself to push him to work on it.

When he wasn’t listening to me, I went to his parents and lodge a complaint with them. If anyone was going to worry me about my inability to give birth, it was going to come from his parents so I made the complaint to them so they know it wasn’t my fault. The first time they invited him home, I was there with him. I heard his father and everything he told him. He even said, “If it’s your wife you don’t trust to help you, I will personally take you to a place where they would help you discover your missing manhood.”

He agreed to work on it but when he came home, he pressed his anger on me for taking our issues outside; “Am I a kid that you’ll report me to my parents? What do you take me for? You’re not even embarrassed that you’re selling your marital issues to the world. Shame on you.” A week or so later, I asked if he had done something about it. He said his father has taken him somewhere and he’s applying the medicine that was given to him. Yes, there were bottles that had something in them but I never saw him apply it anywhere. Some nights, he would come to me and tell me, “Let’s see if it’s working.” He would go like three minutes with a flaccid joystick and later tell me, “Slowly it would work.”

I called to tell his father how things were going. That was when he told me my husband had never gone to him for help; “He has never been here since we talked. I’ve never seen his face so where did he say we went?” It turned into another fight and for days he was not talking to me. I had to wake him up at dawn and beg him to seek help from a professional. Finally, he agreed to go with me when I promised him that I was going to pay for it. He was checked and given medications. He came home and left the drugs to rot. Even the ones he had to swallow, he told me were bitter. He behaved like a teenager in the marriage. He didn’t want to do anything to help his situation. Time is not on my side. I’m thirty-four years old as I write this.

I went to his parents to complain again and when I was leaving, his mother decided to walk me to the roadside. While going she told me, “Don’t take what am going to tell you the wrong way. I’m going to give you womanly advice and I believe if you take it. All this trouble would be gone. You’re a young woman, a very beautiful one as such. Look elsewhere. From all indications, my son is not willing to do anything about his situation. He doesn’t see the need because he’s a man. In the end, you’re the one going to lose. Don’t lose. Look elsewhere for what you want. Find a man outside and get pregnant. He won’t know.”

It was like I was listening to her in my dreams. I had to make her repeat her statement over and over again to make sure she was actually saying what I thought she was saying. In the end, I told her, “No I can’t do that. I would rather walk out of the marriage than do what you’re saying.” She retorted, “You’ll walk away and start everything afresh? How long would it take you to marry again and start all over again? Think about it if you really need a child.’

Now I’m even scared. This woman would call me early morning and ask me if I’d thought about the things we discussed. I don’t even pick up her calls because I know what she’s going to say. My husband is also not making any progress so I’m left between a rock and a hard place. There’s no way I’m going to do what my mother-in-law is saying. If anything, I would rather seek divorce but what she said is also true. How long would it take before I find another man who is willing to start all over with me? That’s my problem. That’s what keeps me awake at night. Now I don’t know what to do. Should I continue staying with Reginald, hoping he would change or I should walk out there and seek what’s important to me at this point in my life?

Source: Silentbeads.com

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Woman confesses that her spouse always defecates in bed as he’s ready to ‘cum’

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"I've been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed. "We've tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it's too sweet and he can't contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex. "But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse."

A Ghanaian lady who is married to a “loving and responsible husband” is looking for help dealing with what she describes as “disgusting” sexual encounters with her spouse.

The married woman with two children has said that her husband always defecates in bed when he is at his height of ecstasy during sex.

Revealing her traumatic situation to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3, she stated that she is considering quitting her eleven-month marriage because she cannot bear it any longer.

“I’ve been married for eleven months now. My spouse has had this problem since we started dating till now. The problem is that whenever my husband and I have sex and he is ready to cum and it is at its climax, he eases himself into the bed.

“We’ve tried to get him to stop, but he always complains it’s too sweet and he can’t contain himself. As a result, we decided that he would always relax himself before we started having sex.

“But he will continue to do it while cuming. I refused to give him sex while we were dating because it was horrible. I married him because, despite it, he is a responsible, nice, and caring spouse,” she narrated.

According to her, the situation is impacting her mental health because all attempts to settle her issue have failed.

“I’m going through a lot because it makes me puke; mentally, I’m breaking down. I’m not sure whether to quit the marriage because we currently have two children. I tried every possible solution to the problem, but nothing worked,” she said.

She is presently seeking assistance to deal with the circumstance, as the problem is harming her mental health.

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I prefer to masturbate than have sex with my husband – Lady shares ordeal

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She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend. "Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand," she said Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

A Ghanaian woman has expressed her sexual discontent with her spouse.

The lady, whose identity has been kept hidden, told Confessions on TV3 that her spouse never stays in bed for more than two minutes.

She stated that she has always felt sexually unfulfilled after intercourse, therefore she chooses to masturbate to satisfy herself rather than having sex with her boyfriend.

“Within two minutes, he had come. As a result, I avoid him and prefer to masturbate to satisfy my sexual cravings since, as soon as we start having sex, he has come and the item will stand,” she said to Ms. Nancy on Confessions on TV3.

Meanwhile, Life Coach Ebenezer Quaye, a guest on the show, encouraged lovers to share feedback to each other after participating in physical intimacy with their loved ones.

This, he argued, will inspire spouses to work on their sexual deficiencies.

“If you are having sex and do not receive feedback from your wife, there is a problem.” Wives should also provide feedback to their spouses. “It’s so nice and encouraging,” he commented.

He also gave some strategies for improving sexual shortcomings between lovers.

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How my husband sex trafficked me for 13 years

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When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party. "It's going to be fun." She said. "Sure. "I would love to." I didn't have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone's attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

I learned that life was unfair at an early age, and in the worst way conceivable. My stepfather used to sexually assault me, and when I eventually had the bravery to denounce him, he received only three months of treatment as punishment and was allowed to live with me again.

My mother brought him back for financial reasons, but she kept us apart. They slept below, while we slept above. Nevertheless, I was traumatised and lived in terror. As if I hadn’t gone through enough pain, I met a man who I believed loved me and who sex trafficked me.

When I was about 14 years old, one of my neighbours came over and invited me to a pool party.

“It’s going to be fun.” She said.

“Sure. “I would love to.”

I didn’t have many friends, so it felt good to be part of something for once. I got my bathing suit and followed the girl. Before we arrived at the place, we encountered a small gathering of teens. There was one person who stood out from the crowd. He had everyone’s attention, and everyone wanted to speak with him. My companion began heading towards them, and I followed her.

“Hello, Greg. I invite you to meet my buddy Wendy. “Wendy, this is Greg.” She spoke to the guy.

Greg turned to me, smiled, and extended his hand before saying, “It’s a pleasure to meet you.”

At that point, my knees were weak. My heart began beating, and I couldn’t stop smiling.

“Can I get your number?” He asked.

“Sure,” I responded and handed it to him.

I didn’t expect him to call, but later that night he did, and we spoke for hours. That was the start of a relationship that led to my being sex trafficked.

Greg understood how to make me feel appreciated, which is all I wanted. We became amorous quickly, and I fell pregnant soon after. I had been under my mother’s care since I was 17 years old when I had my child. Greg demanded that I leave my mother’s house so that we could make our relationship work.

“How am I going to do that?” I asked.

“I’ve got a plan. You may relocate to a shelter, where they will consider you emancipated from your parents, and then you will be eligible for welfare checks, and we will be able to get an apartment and live happily ever after.” He explained.

At the time, it seemed like a fairy tale, and I was all in. I ran away from home, and Greg took me and my kid to a shelter. However, life at the shelter was not as easy as Greg made it appear.

It took long for me to receive my first welfare check, and I was running out of baby goods. So I contacted Greg and told him I needed money to take care of our child.

“Don’t worry, I have a job for us to do.” He said.

I assumed he meant cleaning people’s homes because that’s what he told me he did for money. So I picked up my kid and went to see him.

“What are we going to do?” I asked Greg.

“Well, you’re going to walk up this street, wait on that corner for a man to pick you up and you’ll have sex with that man in his car and he’ll pay you.” He explained without emotion.

I was perplexed and apprehensive, but he kept bringing up my daughter and insisting that if I loved her, I would do it. I felt like I had no option. My knees and hands shook as I proceeded to where he had instructed me to stand. As soon as I arrived, a car stopped in front of me, and the driver requested me to get in. That’s how my spouse started sex trafficking me.

“I know a place we can go in the woods.” He said.

I did not say anything. When we arrived in the woods, we both exited and walked to a private location where he began removing his clothing. I took off mine, we had sex, and he gave me the money before driving me back to where he had picked me up.

When I came out, I went to Greg, who was still standing in the same location and handed him all of the money.

“I love you.” I knew I had made the proper decision in choosing you as my wife. He said.

We went to purchase diapers and formula for the baby and had a little extra. However, a week later, we were out of diapers again.

That time, he encouraged me to take on two or three customers so that I might earn enough money to leave the shelter.

“Do you want your daughter to live in a shelter for the rest of her life?” He asked.

From there, he started one of the greatest prostitution networks in the region. It comprised four to ten females from various states. He sexually trafficked me for 13 years while I was still married to him. It varied from once a week to every other day, depending on how much money he received from the other females. I worked as a street girl, and escort, and made house calls. Not to add that I have two more children with him.

People continually questioned me why I stayed with him for so long, but no matter what I told them, they couldn’t comprehend what I was going through. Greg hooked us to drugs and physically abused us if we attempted to escape. He would also send the other girls to find any girl who had gone and beat her until she returned. I felt bonded to the other females since we weren’t permitted to have outside contact. So, anytime I managed to flee, I felt horrible and returned because I didn’t want them to suffer.

After 13 years, I was finally free of Greg. I had recently given birth and was in the kitchen making supper for us when I noticed police cruisers outside our house. The cops swooped in, arrested Greg, and detained me for interrogation.

However, I refused to talk to them because I was afraid Greg would beat me if he found out. Because I did not comply, they accused me of sex trafficking and sentenced me to 23 months in prison. Greg was also charged with sex trafficking and was sentenced to ten years in jail.

My children were removed while I was in prison, and because the judge in the custody case felt I was a sex trafficker, she promised that I would not be granted custody of my children. When I got out, I returned to school and earned an associate’s degree. In addition, I returned to the same judge who heard my custody case to request custody of my kid. I went with my attorneys, counsellors, and even the police officers who detained me to explain my situation to the court.

She returned my child to me, and I returned home to live with my mother, who sadly died later. Today, I feel comfortable and satisfied, which is a wonderful place to be. I’ve realised that there are individuals eager to help those who have faced the same hardships that I have, and if you’re going through anything similar, you don’t have to suffer alone or in silence.

This narrative is based on the Unfiltered Stories YouTube video.

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