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Marry a quiet man if you are loud – 45 year old woman advices young ladies
I’m a 45 year old woman. Ten years ago, my church pastors and elders called me for a meeting after service. Another church member was present at the meeting. I had seen him in church and I knew he was also an active member like I was. He was 38 and unmarried. Our pastor asked me if I was in a relationship with someone and I told him no. He went on to ask the man the same question. Then he told us to get married.
I was old and ripe for marriage at 35. My family and friends were always on my neck about when I was going to marry and I hated it. So when the man of God told me that this was the reason for the meeting I was angry. I felt like he was trying to interfere in my life and I didn’t want that. So I walked out of the meeting.
Later, I met this man and we spoke. He opened up to me about how unlucky he had been with finding love and being in a long lasting relationship. He told me he was willing to give us a chance and if it doesn’t work, then fine. I told him I’ll think about it and I did. I had to face the reality that I was growing and no man was approaching me with that intention, so this may be my last chance because I really wanted to get married and have my own kids. I’ve always wanted that. So some months later, I told him I will marry him. We weren’t friends, we didn’t date to know our character, likes and dislikes. This is usually not the norm and it was a very risky thing we did.
Ten full years later and we’re here. We have two boys and one girl. We are very happy and deeply in love. The first year was the most difficult. We had a lot of problems, but my husband will always say that he is committed to me and we are doing this till death, so he tolerated all my annoying attitude.
A little advice to my ladies. If you can, marry a quiet man ooo. Especially if you are the loud type. I know I gave him a lot of headache, but he was patient with me and I came to my senses. I accepted him as my husband. The more I spent time with him, the more the love grew. This was a man I wasn’t feeling anything for from the beginning so I started acting someway to discourage him. But he was patient with me.
Love is not always that butterfly feeling. Sometimes it can grow if only two people are willing to work out their differences and be humble enough to learn from their mistakes. We did a lot of post-marital counselling to help us with that. I know how to tell my husband I am sorry and he does that too. I never knew I will find a good man to marry especially after I hit 33 and the pressure was becoming too much on me.
But I thank God he answered my prayers. I’ve always hated arranged marriages because I believed that everyone should be given the chance to choose the person they love. So I went into this marriage very unsure. I didn’t expect that I will be happy and develop genuine love for my husband as I have now.
I’m not saying that everyone should let their pastors or families arrange a marriage for them. Far from that, but love can be built and nurtured, so sometimes you may not feel anything for someone from the start. Give the person a chance and see. I hope my story helps someone out there to make a good decision.
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I slept with 300 people in a year – detractors call me ‘disgusting,’ but I feel powerful
An Australian lady who claims to have had sex with over 300 individuals in one year described the experience as “empowering.”
Annie Knight, 26, said on “The Kyle and Jackie O Show” that she even slept with five individuals in a single day during the wild, fun-filled year.
“I felt empowered afterwards,” the adoring Australian said. “Sex makes me happy. Its purpose is to make you feel wonderful.”
Knight had sex with both men and women, and she told the radio show that she met many of her sex partners using dating apps. She does, however, have a list of “regulars” on the fast dial for when she feels like getting down and dirty.
“The messier the sex, the better,” she said.
Knight, called “Australia’s most sexually active woman,” went on to state that nothing is off limits when it comes to experimenting in the bedroom, stating, “I’m down to try anything.”
However, not everyone is thrilled by Knight’s open love of sex, with one detractor calling her “disgusting.”
Knight, who maintains an OnlyFans account, was also sacked from her marketing position when her superiors discovered her lewd online behaviour.
The sex fanatic told “The Kyle and Jackie O Show” that her website has plenty of kinky stuff since she performs “pretty much everything” on video.
Knight recently made news after speaking out about being fired from a separate site.
“The last thing I wanted to do was to get fired if someone found my OnlyFans,” she said on “SBS Insight” a few weeks ago.
“There was a list of three reasons why I was fired basically,” Knight explained, adding that she was “very upset and very angry” at her employer’s decision to fire her.
“They said I falsely advised that I had a side business, didn’t ask for permission from the company to run the side business and that I had online pornographic images of myself and crude language that was against company rules,” she went on to say.
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Some unusual qualities men want in a woman
When it comes to women, what does a man want? To a significant extent, the solution is and will continue to be a mystery.
But it hasn’t prevented scientists from trying to solve the mystery of human attraction.
On the one hand, each man has his own tastes. Qualities and features that are desirable to one guy may not be appealing to another.
However, research has discovered that many men have one trait: they prefer to believe their initial impressions. And those early moments have a significant influence on their level of attraction to certain women.
Of course, some women are born with the ability to make a terrific first impression with little to no effort, while others must work a little more.
Here are five characteristics that men find particularly appealing in women, according to a study.
Natural-looking makeup, including eye makeup and lipstick
Some males remark that they prefer women who do not wear makeup because they appear more natural. However, according to a Zoosk poll, 139 of 1,200 women who applied eye makeup in their profile photo were more likely to receive responses from males. Men were also more likely to desire to meet a lady if her profile photo included lipstick.
Women who wear “darker” cosmetics, on the other hand, were less likely to be asked out. Even if men claim they prefer women who appear “natural,” this implies you may wear “natural” cosmetics and still attract guys.
Also, fellas, it’s quite OK to remark that your girl looks great with winged eyeliner and red lipstick.
The ideal waist-to-hip ratio
This choice is based on health and fertility rather than appearance.
“Evidence also shows that waist-to-hip ratio is a strong indicator of a woman’s oestrogen levels, risk of obesity, and susceptibility to major diseases such as diabetes, ovarian cancer, and heart disease,” according to the study.
Dressing in red clothes
The colour red represents passion. It’s no surprise that males find it appealing. In a research conducted by psychologists at the University of Rochester, men were given images of various women with framed borders of either red or white and were asked how attractive they thought the ladies were.
They were then given an identical photo with the ladies dressed in either red or blue and asked how much they would spend on a date with that woman. Women who were framed in red or wore red were more likely to be considered seductive and beautiful, and males were more likely to want to spend money on a date.
A kind attitude
A pleasant demeanour always goes a long way. Researchers from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology discovered that a woman’s responsiveness to men’s needs and desires boosted her attraction to males.
A higher-pitched voice
According to studies, women prefer males with deeper voices. For males, the reverse is usually true, since some feel “[higher] voices signal reproductive fitness, femininity, and smaller body size.”
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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend
I used to do fraud. Someone introduced it to my buddy, who then introduced it to me. The game has different stages. We were at the bottom of the game’s ladder, so we didn’t make much money, but the risk involved was excellent. Aside from the danger, you must labour every day in order to earn GHC500 every week.
We slept very little because our clients were all over the world, and because of the time difference, we had to stay awake in order to communicate with them. I had a major hit one day. I received GHC7,000 from a bargain and immediately purchased an iPhone for my girlfriend, Cynthia. She was aware that I was involved in fraud, yet she was uninterested. She became interested in the business when I gave her the iPhone and told her how I obtained it.
So when I had a customer who claimed to be a girl, Cynthia was the one who spoke to them. She was the one who set up the video calls. We were still struggling. We halted operations since the money was not flowing as promised.
Life was difficult for two jobless lovers. I couldn’t help her. I couldn’t help myself, so we relied on the generosity of friends who were succeeding in the game.
Ernest, a buddy of mine from Canada, came over one day, and we were all hanging around. Cynthia later informed me, “Your friend likes me.” He was licking his lips and staring at me in some way. Let’s go get some money from him. Tell him I’m not your girlfriend. Allow him to take me so we may obtain money from him.”
Ernest was formerly a player in the game. He went outdoors after getting money. I warned Cynthia Ernest that she might catch the hint, but she was so enthusiastic about collecting money that we gave it a shot. “Don’t let him sleep with you,” was the lone caution. Never.”
She brought me GHC 500 a week later. “He gave me 1,000 GHC.” “That’s your cut,” she explained.
Ernest was hiding the affair because he was afraid I would be upset if I found out he was seeing my sister. He was even concealing it from the team, but we were aware of what was going on.
He was here for a month, and we earned a lot of money.
He was still sending money after he left. Cynthia gave me my portion. I got a job and advised her not to see Ernest anymore. She didn’t give up. It escalated into a brawl, in which I threatened to let the cat out of the bag. “If you try it, you’ll go to jail,” she said. You know I’m familiar with all of your previous transactions. How much money can you offer me to get me to quit seeing Ernest?”
Cynthia is currently in Canada with Ernest, where they are having the time of their life. I tear up when I see their images. When I see these videos on Instagram, I want to kick them in the video.
Ernest finally understands reality. Cynthia, I believe, informed him in a way that she wouldn’t be held responsible, saying something like, “He gave me to you so we could get money from you, but I fell for you because you’re a good person.” That sort of thing.
I must confess, they had the final laugh. Cynthia informed me the last time I spoke with her, “If you stop being bitter, I will send you something small every month.” You don’t have to hate me since I don’t hate you.”
I bowed my head and kicked the bitterness out of my heart because money is money.
That girl is the only honest scammer there is. She maintained her promise. She occasionally sends me money. She’s gradually rebuilding the bridge between me and my old friend Ernest. She duped me, but I can’t really complain. I still have feelings for her but in a different manner. I adore her as someone who looks after me.