Hi. I require assistance. I’m a 34-year-old married lady with three kids. I’ve always been a fitness fanatic, and I was in good condition and health-conscious before having children. I acquired a lot of weight after having three children. People are even more surprised when they see me today than they were when they saw me in my wedding photos. It began to have an impact on my self-esteem, so I resolved to take action. I signed up for a gym membership in my neighbourhood. My spouse initially had no objections to it. He knows who I am, and I was going to work out before everyone in the house got up. I began exercising two years ago. My latest child was 6 months old. Initially, I planned to do my own thing and go when the time was up, but this guy volunteered to assist me. He was one of the instructors. You had to pay for his assistance if you needed it.
For whatever reason, he was putting me through the repetitions for free. He was also a married man. We were getting near the point when I realized his motives were not in our best interests of both of us. I was also starting to have feelings for him. He was attractive and fit, and it was difficult to have him so near to me all the time. Later, we agreed that we would avoid each other for our benefit, and he would not train me again. Even so, it was challenging. Later, I stopped seeing him at the gym and discovered that he had travelled to another nation to compete in a foreign bodybuilding competition. I was a little disappointed that he didn’t tell me, but I knew it was for the best. I persisted, and I can now report that I have dropped a significant amount of weight. My husband believes that my present weight is sufficient and that I should stop attending, but I am trying hard to recover the shape I had before our marriage.
The trainer returned to Ghana in August, and we have been meeting at various locations outside the gym. He and his wife split, and I had no idea. He has stated his feelings for me, stating that he can’t get me out of his head. I’m married with children, I realize it’s not appropriate for us to meet in these areas, and I haven’t been to the gym in over two weeks. But I play with myself a lot, and I always think of him when I do. My spouse tries, but he fails to satisfy me, even though I have never informed him about it. He also has no idea that when I’m alone, I play with myself. I’ve been exchanging photos with the bodybuilder, and I have no idea what I’m doing to myself. We’re both dying for each other at this point, and it only takes one slip to bring us down.
I wanted us to relocate, but where we are is ideal for us, and my spouse will not understand why I want us to do so. If I tell him, he’ll be confused and assume I’ve already cheated. I’ve asked the guy to leave me alone, but every time I do, he presses harder. He continues to send me photos and videos of himself, and I find it impossible to look away. I’ve blocked him twice, but he continually calls from a new number. It will be difficult to change my phone number. All of my customers are aware of it, and even if I change it, I am certain to run into him in the neighbourhood. Please tell me how you would approach this if you were in my shoes. It’s not like I despise him. It’s simply that I’m terrified of how I’ll feel in his presence. And he knows I’m resisting him, so he’s taken advantage of that. Please, any suggestions?
Source: Anonymous Confessions
