I’m in a pickle. My husband and I have been married for six years, but he has spent the last five years abroad. A year after we married, he received a scholarship to study abroad for his Masters degree. I had just given birth to a newborn boy a few weeks before he left us. It was really uncomfortable for me. I didn’t want him to go, but everyone was supporting me and saying that this was a once-in-a-lifetime chance and that I shouldn’t ruin my husband’s dream. I gradually accepted it. My mom visited me until my child was a year old. My spouse was meant to be in the United States for a year. That was the length of the Masters program he was going to give.
Well, he found a decent job before completing his studies, and instead of returning home to us, he concentrated on his work there. The pay was excellent. He began sending us money every week. He informed me three years ago about his ambitions to construct a house so that I and the baby could stop paying rent and move into our own property. We purchased land in Kasoa with the assistance of his brother here in Ghana and began construction. He did a good job of sending money for each stage we reached until the house was finished. My spouse purchased a car for me and provided me with money to seek a driver. He has gone out of his way to make me feel at ease. I don’t have any money problems. We also attempt to video chat practically every day, and he chats with his son. But this is not what I expected. I’ve been missing him since he departed for another nation five years ago. When I ask him about his plans for our marriage, he always says he’s working hard and will come to see us soon.
Last year, he assured me that he was working on our paperwork so that we could join him there. I know dad did well by meeting all of our financial demands. But, up until now, it’s been one excuse after another. I’m not pleased with all. My driver and I started dating around two years ago. When I saw he could be trusted, I became more friends with him. He began staying over at my place. It’s only myself and my child here, and we needed a male around. Something led to another, and we did it for the first time on Friday night. We’d had a few beers and were in a good mood thanks to the movie we were watching. We’ve evolved into a married pair since that day. When his rent was due, he moved into my place. My brother paid me a visit one day and suspected it. I informed him that the driver was also assisting me with gardening and housework and that he was now residing in the house with me.
My brother has advised me to exercise caution if I am having an affair with him. I’ve denied it several times, but I know he knows and has decided to stop discussing it. My husband’s family, on the other hand, has abandoned me. They don’t come to see me where I am. I’m the one that tries to drop by every now and then. It’s not like they despise me. Everyone is just too preoccupied with their own life, and they’re very well-off, so they don’t really need me. I’ve terminated the driver I’m with more than three times. Giving him enough money to rent a respectable apartment. Every time I fire him, I tell myself I’m not going to call him back. I’m not going to do that again. That it will never happen again. But I’m the same person who asks him to return when I’m lonely and need a male to sleep with.
I eventually fired him and hired another driver. But he wasn’t as polished and well-mannered as him, so I let him go. Some may argue that I am ungrateful and that I am wrong to repay my husband in this manner. I honestly miss him every day, but he makes no attempt to return home. He has his green card and is free to visit us. He has never done anything like that. He never stops telling stories. My son has never met his father in person. It is always done through video calls. Despite this, he leaves early, claiming to be busy. I’ve complained to his family several times. There is nothing they can do about it. I began building my own house with my husband’s money over time. He is unaware of it, and neither is the driver. Only my brother is aware. For me, it’s a kind of backup plan. I’ve also purchased acreage and hired labourers. My brother manages it in my absence. He can remain with me, but he has a family to care for.
I’m not sure what the future holds for the driver, but I like him. He is currently enrolled in a weekend degree program with my assistance. He is a serious individual. Some may argue that he is with me because he needs my money. However, I am not a sugar mommy. He is older than me and survives on the wage I provide him. I’m 30, he’s 32. At this time, he wants me to divorce my husband and have a more serious relationship with him. My husband continues promising me as well, and I’m split between these two men and my circumstances. If my husband is no longer in the picture, I have enough money to take care of myself. I’m not sure what to do next.
Source: Anonymous Confessions
