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He’s the man of my dreams but I can’t stop cheating on him
My heart is pounding as I type all this. I’m so scared and embarrassed. I will try to summarize the whole thing as much as I can. I met a guy on Facebook in 2019. I must say in all candour that I really liked this guy. Prior to that, I was going out with one guy from my school. We had not broken up but the love wasn’t as deep as it was when we met.
The Facebook guy and I decided to meet up since he had been posted to one of the health facilities in cape coast not too long ago and I was also schooling there. He didn’t know I had a boyfriend because I didn’t tell him. I fell in love with him the very first day I met him.
Now after going out with him for sometime he started being suspicious and asked for my phone. To his utmost dismay, I was going out with my boyfriend from tertiary and also entertaining other guys. As the kind man that he is, he forgave me. I promised to end things with them because I never wanted to lose him. He is the man of my dreams. I made promises but couldn’t keep them .
I never broke things with my boyfriend but managed to clear those that I was entertaining. I didn’t want to hurt the guy’s feelings. One problem I’ve realized I have is me not being able to say NO to guys that are nice and probably have a good vibe.
My boyfriend has caught me about 3/4 times more after the first incident through my chats. I have broken up with the guy from my tertiary days now but still entertaining others. I’m currently going out with one other guy. He knew about him from my chats sometime ago but I promised to end things with him which I didn’t. I have been in Kasoa for almost a year for my service. I came home just this Thursday since service had ended.
Just yesterday, I visited my boyfriend and again he realized I hadn’t broken up with that guy as promised but was going out with him and things were serious from our chats. I professed my love to this guy in my texts for so many reasons which broke my man. He feels he’s not the best and I’m in love with the other guy. Sincerely speaking, he’s the one I’ve truly loved.
In fact more than I’ve ever loved anyone in any of my relationships. What he saw in my texts suggested that I loved the other guy more than him but that’s not true. This is the only place I can be sincere since no one will know who I am. I only sent those texts because I was trying to be grateful for all he’s done but not because I’m in love with him. I honestly don’t love him so you can say I’m sort of playing him or deceiving him.
My boyfriend has lost trust completely in me and feels he can’t trust me no more. All he said was I’m still young and exploring and that when I finally realize everything and decide to stick with one man, that’ll help. I asked for his decision after all that had happened and he said he hasn’t made one. His doors are always opened to me and likes me but can’t put all his hope in me. I broke down in tears. I haven’t been able to sleep all night. I’ve been thinking about all of this. I really want to stop all these stupid acts. I want to be with him only because he’s the man I love. I know he might doubt this because of what he saw in my texts with the other guy but they were just words with no meaning. Honestly he’s really the man of my dreams, the man I saw a future with and the man I ever prayed for.
He might travel soon and feels insecure because all those were happening right under his nose how much more when he leaves? I don’t want to lose him. I really love him. I don’t know how to prove to him that I’m going to change or make amends since I’ve promised countless times. I don’t want him to give up on me. I want another chance even though he’s given me more chances than I ever deserve. He suggested I conceive for him as surety before he leaves but I’m scared of my dad.
He’ll disown me for getting pregnant without being married so I told him it can’t happen because of my dad. I want to rescind my decision and conceive for him as he suggested earlier just to prove that I’ll wait for him and not do anything stupid behind him or in his absence. I’ve promised myself not to go back to my foolish ways. It’s not going to be automatic but I’ve got my mind psyched to stick with him.
He has proven beyond reasonable doubts his love for me and maturity and the least I could do is to be loyal. I have been dating boys all this while but this is a man. He’s not just matured with regards to age but mentally he is. I used to have doubts that a man like him wasn’t married nor in a relationship because we’ve never even spoken about his ex but after so many observations I’m convinced that he’s real.
My mum doesn’t know about this incident because I’ve not told her what happened yesterday. She’ll be disappointed and this will break her because she knows I love him, I’m still with him but doesn’t know I’m entertaining others now and also she loves and respects him so much. I already have her blessings on going out with him and even marriage should it happen. I don’t know what to do. My foolishness has cost me a lot already but I can’t lose him too.
Now , y’all should help me with steps to come out of this nonsense that is to stop entertaining other guys, stick to my boo only and say NO to other guys especially those who have been in my situation before because this is me wanting to make a conscious effort to be with him only and not lose him. Please y’all should help me.
You can bash me because I deserve every bit of it but please don’t say anything against him because he’s done nothing wrong but to love a crazy girl. Sorry for the long write up and pardon me for errors be it grammatical or typo. I’ll be reading comments.Kindly notify me when you post too.
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I slept with 300 people in a year – detractors call me ‘disgusting,’ but I feel powerful
An Australian lady who claims to have had sex with over 300 individuals in one year described the experience as “empowering.”
Annie Knight, 26, said on “The Kyle and Jackie O Show” that she even slept with five individuals in a single day during the wild, fun-filled year.
“I felt empowered afterwards,” the adoring Australian said. “Sex makes me happy. Its purpose is to make you feel wonderful.”
Knight had sex with both men and women, and she told the radio show that she met many of her sex partners using dating apps. She does, however, have a list of “regulars” on the fast dial for when she feels like getting down and dirty.
“The messier the sex, the better,” she said.
Knight, called “Australia’s most sexually active woman,” went on to state that nothing is off limits when it comes to experimenting in the bedroom, stating, “I’m down to try anything.”
However, not everyone is thrilled by Knight’s open love of sex, with one detractor calling her “disgusting.”
Knight, who maintains an OnlyFans account, was also sacked from her marketing position when her superiors discovered her lewd online behaviour.
The sex fanatic told “The Kyle and Jackie O Show” that her website has plenty of kinky stuff since she performs “pretty much everything” on video.
Knight recently made news after speaking out about being fired from a separate site.
“The last thing I wanted to do was to get fired if someone found my OnlyFans,” she said on “SBS Insight” a few weeks ago.
“There was a list of three reasons why I was fired basically,” Knight explained, adding that she was “very upset and very angry” at her employer’s decision to fire her.
“They said I falsely advised that I had a side business, didn’t ask for permission from the company to run the side business and that I had online pornographic images of myself and crude language that was against company rules,” she went on to say.
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Some unusual qualities men want in a woman
When it comes to women, what does a man want? To a significant extent, the solution is and will continue to be a mystery.
But it hasn’t prevented scientists from trying to solve the mystery of human attraction.
On the one hand, each man has his own tastes. Qualities and features that are desirable to one guy may not be appealing to another.
However, research has discovered that many men have one trait: they prefer to believe their initial impressions. And those early moments have a significant influence on their level of attraction to certain women.
Of course, some women are born with the ability to make a terrific first impression with little to no effort, while others must work a little more.
Here are five characteristics that men find particularly appealing in women, according to a study.
Natural-looking makeup, including eye makeup and lipstick
Some males remark that they prefer women who do not wear makeup because they appear more natural. However, according to a Zoosk poll, 139 of 1,200 women who applied eye makeup in their profile photo were more likely to receive responses from males. Men were also more likely to desire to meet a lady if her profile photo included lipstick.
Women who wear “darker” cosmetics, on the other hand, were less likely to be asked out. Even if men claim they prefer women who appear “natural,” this implies you may wear “natural” cosmetics and still attract guys.
Also, fellas, it’s quite OK to remark that your girl looks great with winged eyeliner and red lipstick.
The ideal waist-to-hip ratio
This choice is based on health and fertility rather than appearance.
“Evidence also shows that waist-to-hip ratio is a strong indicator of a woman’s oestrogen levels, risk of obesity, and susceptibility to major diseases such as diabetes, ovarian cancer, and heart disease,” according to the study.
Dressing in red clothes
The colour red represents passion. It’s no surprise that males find it appealing. In a research conducted by psychologists at the University of Rochester, men were given images of various women with framed borders of either red or white and were asked how attractive they thought the ladies were.
They were then given an identical photo with the ladies dressed in either red or blue and asked how much they would spend on a date with that woman. Women who were framed in red or wore red were more likely to be considered seductive and beautiful, and males were more likely to want to spend money on a date.
A kind attitude
A pleasant demeanour always goes a long way. Researchers from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology discovered that a woman’s responsiveness to men’s needs and desires boosted her attraction to males.
A higher-pitched voice
According to studies, women prefer males with deeper voices. For males, the reverse is usually true, since some feel “[higher] voices signal reproductive fitness, femininity, and smaller body size.”
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I introduced her to fraud but she scammed me and married my Canadian-based friend
I used to do fraud. Someone introduced it to my buddy, who then introduced it to me. The game has different stages. We were at the bottom of the game’s ladder, so we didn’t make much money, but the risk involved was excellent. Aside from the danger, you must labour every day in order to earn GHC500 every week.
We slept very little because our clients were all over the world, and because of the time difference, we had to stay awake in order to communicate with them. I had a major hit one day. I received GHC7,000 from a bargain and immediately purchased an iPhone for my girlfriend, Cynthia. She was aware that I was involved in fraud, yet she was uninterested. She became interested in the business when I gave her the iPhone and told her how I obtained it.
So when I had a customer who claimed to be a girl, Cynthia was the one who spoke to them. She was the one who set up the video calls. We were still struggling. We halted operations since the money was not flowing as promised.
Life was difficult for two jobless lovers. I couldn’t help her. I couldn’t help myself, so we relied on the generosity of friends who were succeeding in the game.
Ernest, a buddy of mine from Canada, came over one day, and we were all hanging around. Cynthia later informed me, “Your friend likes me.” He was licking his lips and staring at me in some way. Let’s go get some money from him. Tell him I’m not your girlfriend. Allow him to take me so we may obtain money from him.”
Ernest was formerly a player in the game. He went outdoors after getting money. I warned Cynthia Ernest that she might catch the hint, but she was so enthusiastic about collecting money that we gave it a shot. “Don’t let him sleep with you,” was the lone caution. Never.”
She brought me GHC 500 a week later. “He gave me 1,000 GHC.” “That’s your cut,” she explained.
Ernest was hiding the affair because he was afraid I would be upset if I found out he was seeing my sister. He was even concealing it from the team, but we were aware of what was going on.
He was here for a month, and we earned a lot of money.
He was still sending money after he left. Cynthia gave me my portion. I got a job and advised her not to see Ernest anymore. She didn’t give up. It escalated into a brawl, in which I threatened to let the cat out of the bag. “If you try it, you’ll go to jail,” she said. You know I’m familiar with all of your previous transactions. How much money can you offer me to get me to quit seeing Ernest?”
Cynthia is currently in Canada with Ernest, where they are having the time of their life. I tear up when I see their images. When I see these videos on Instagram, I want to kick them in the video.
Ernest finally understands reality. Cynthia, I believe, informed him in a way that she wouldn’t be held responsible, saying something like, “He gave me to you so we could get money from you, but I fell for you because you’re a good person.” That sort of thing.
I must confess, they had the final laugh. Cynthia informed me the last time I spoke with her, “If you stop being bitter, I will send you something small every month.” You don’t have to hate me since I don’t hate you.”
I bowed my head and kicked the bitterness out of my heart because money is money.
That girl is the only honest scammer there is. She maintained her promise. She occasionally sends me money. She’s gradually rebuilding the bridge between me and my old friend Ernest. She duped me, but I can’t really complain. I still have feelings for her but in a different manner. I adore her as someone who looks after me.